Devorah has new veil and mantilla styles!

[lizaanne]

I have a really dumb question:

Are there any “rules” as far as the colors go? Or can a woman wear whatever color she feels like and/or matches her outfit?

Not a dumb question at all! I don’t think there are any hard and fast rules - but from what trends I’ve seen myself, single women wear lighter colors and white, and married women wear darker colors or black. Then there are those who wear what they like or what matches what they are wearing that day.

I am married and personally would feel really strange in a white veil of any style, so I wear black, dark burgundy brown, and I have a black with gray lace on the edge. I have very dark long hair so these just look better on me.

So - to really answer your question - it’s a matter of personal preference.

~Liza

 

[ac_claire]

Not a dumb question at all! I don’t think there are any hard and fast rules - but from what trends I’ve seen myself, single women wear lighter colors and white, and married women wear darker colors or black. Then there are those who wear what they like or what matches what they are wearing that day.

I am married and personally would feel really strange in a white veil of any style, so I wear black, dark burgundy brown, and I have a black with gray lace on the edge. I have very dark long hair so these just look better on me.

So - to really answer your question - it’s a matter of personal preference.

I’m glad, for one, because though I’m single…I don’t know if I could ever where a white one. Too much like a bride, or a First Holy Communion, IMO.

I’ve covered my head a couple of times, directly as a result of reading about it on these boards. It was a plain black scarf. I felt conspicuous at first, but that faded quickly. I have heard before that covering can help you to focus and “remember where you are”-- the holiness, the reverence. I found this to be true for me.
In other words, I talked less and prayed more. I don’t wear it regularly though.

 

[DJgang]

I’m glad, for one, because though I’m single…I don’t know if I could ever where a white one. Too much like a bride, or a First Holy Communion, IMO.

I’ve covered my head a couple of times, directly as a result of reading about it on these boards. It was a plain black scarf. I felt conspicuous at first, but that faded quickly. I have heard before that covering can help you to focus and “remember where you are”-- the holiness, the reverence. I found this to be true for me.
In other words, I talked less and prayed more. I don’t wear it regularly though.

You know, I think ivory is very beautiful, even a beige color.

Catholic Traditions has some beautiful colors and they are a great price. Excellent service and good quality. I purchased a brown one, which I wear to the Shrine and TLM.

I went to Mass yesterday, wore my mantilla with my tennis shoes…lol! Anyway, yes, I did focus more on the Mass, prayed more and felt like I was humbling myself in the presence of Our Lord.

Also, just last week I watched The Passion of Christ again, for the second time. At the foot of the cross, right after Jesus died, Mary Magdalene’s veil had fallen off her head and she immediately put it back on…it was an obvious scene, that just made me re-think the reason why I wish to cover my head.

God bless.

 

[slyboots]

DJgang said “At the foot of the cross, right after Jesus died, Mary Magdalene’s veil had fallen off her head and she immediately put it back on…it was an obvious scene, that just made me re-think the reason why I wish to cover my head.”

That scene was a trigger for me to first start thinking of covering. How interesting that you should mention it. I wonder if others were so touched by it. I had not talked about it thinking people might think it odd that I got the idea during that scene. But silly me, God can talk to us however and whenever He wants obviously.

 

[DJgang]

DJgang said “At the foot of the cross, right after Jesus died, Mary Magdalene’s veil had fallen off her head and she immediately put it back on…it was an obvious scene, that just made me re-think the reason why I wish to cover my head.”

That scene was a trigger for me to first start thinking of covering. How interesting that you should mention it. I wonder if others were so touched by it. I had not talked about it thinking people might think it odd that I got the idea during that scene. But silly me, God can talk to us however and whenever He wants obviously.

Honestly, slyboots…it hit me like a ton of lead last Friday, that scene it is…

We are both silly I guess.

I’ve been discerning head covering for months! Still have a bit to overcome as far as what people are thinking mentality. But I’m getting there. God spoke to me very much, that whole movie. Actually the scene where Mary is watching Jesus carrying the cross and sees him as a child as well… made me start praying to Rosary and looking to the Blessed Mother for help in the vocation of Motherhood. I’m coming into the Church this Easter…so, a lot to be said about our Blessed Mother bringing people to her Son.

God bless!

 

[catherineajt]

Any ideas for a headcovering that a 14 month old would not yank right off my head? I’ve always been drawn to headcoverings, but because of having little ones I’m holding during Liturgy, I’m worried they’d just pull a mantilla right off of me!

 

[lizaanne]

Try a triangular one and tie it in the back under your hair, kerchief style. No loose ends to pull on!

I see women in our parish with their heads covered with little ones and they don’t seem to have too much problem. I guess it would be the same as teaching the child to not pull your hair or earrings, or on other people.



~Liza

 

[daughterofmary]

Any ideas for a headcovering that a 14 month old would not yank right off my head? I’ve always been drawn to headcoverings, but because of having little ones I’m holding during Liturgy, I’m worried they’d just pull a mantilla right off of me!

Try a regular mantilla and hot glue (or sew) a comb into it. The little one will yank at it, but it won’t come off because the comb will keep it secure. You could attach it to a thin headband too.

 

[joamy]

There are some good tips on the Devorah website about how to keep coverings on, also some good tips for how to make a bun.

 

[lizaanne]

There are some good tips on the Devorah website about how to keep coverings on, also some good tips for how to make a bun.

I love her snoods! That could be an option too - it may stay on the head better, and since it holds all the hair, nothing to grab onto.

~Liza

 

[joamy]

I love the instructions for how to do different hairstyles. I’ve been growing mine out, but it’s very fine. Some of the styles on the Devorah website may actually work for my hair.

 

[slyboots]

Different vendor- Modesty Veils- has darling lace kerchiefs that tie under the chin. I bought one for each for the darling girls to whom I am Nana. I also bought a small ivory veil and a small black veil for myself. the ivory was to see if it is less noticeable on my blond hair.
The seller was quick and the veils not expensive but very pretty.

 

[Della]

I just bought a black lace kippah (chapel cap) from Devorah. I can’t do the mantilla thing–just not my style. But, I like having a nice head covering if I’m not wearing a hat. So, I’ll be using it soon, no doubt.

 

[Miserissima]

I love her snoods! That could be an option too - it may stay on the head better, and since it holds all the hair, nothing to grab onto.

~Liza

Has anyone here tried wearing what looks like a “chapel cap?”

**KIPPOT **(skullcaps)
Beaded
Buchari Style
Mapit (Doily Style)
Frik
Misc
Special Occasion
Trimmed
Untrimmed

 

[HOPEFUL_IN_UK]

You guys are spoiled for choice, you know that?

In the UK, I googled for veils for the better part of an hour. I found one bridal place that also makes “funeral veils and mantillas.” They had some lovely choices, but they’re all expensive at £45. There were a few things on Ebay under “vintage clothing” sections that were also expensive.

I ended up finding a site that sells scarves and bought a sheer black chiffon square scarf. To be honest, I’d kinda prefer that to a “doily.” I mean, it’s more versatile and could be worn outside of Church. Meanwhile, it will serve the purpose perfectly well. And, it only cost £6 including postage. I have to say, though, that finding a plain black scarf is surprisngly hard. It’s one of those things that you take for granted until you actually try to find one.

Technically, I suppose, you could wear just about any scarf or hat on your head, couldn’t you? I mean, I’ve heard stories of women pinning hankies to their heads (even Kleenex!) when they’ve forgotten their veils.

 

[DJgang]

You guys are spoiled for choice, you know that?

In the UK, I googled for veils for the better part of an hour. I found one bridal place that also makes “funeral veils and mantillas.” They had some lovely choices, but they’re all expensive at £45. There were a few things on Ebay under “vintage clothing” sections that were also expensive.

I ended up finding a site that sells scarves and bought a sheer black chiffon square scarf. To be honest, I’d kinda prefer that to a “doily.” I mean, it’s more versatile and could be worn outside of Church. Meanwhile, it will serve the purpose perfectly well. And, it only cost £6 including postage. I have to say, though, that finding a plain black scarf is surprisngly hard. It’s one of those things that you take for granted until you actually try to find one.

Technically, I suppose, you could wear just about any scarf or hat on your head, couldn’t you? I mean, I’ve heard stories of women pinning hankies to their heads (even Kleenex!) when they’ve forgotten their veils.

As I read your post, I can hear you lovely Scottish accent coming through … how fun!

That does seem strange…shall I airmail you a mantilla dear?

I want to visit Scotland so bad!!!

 

[lizaanne]

You guys are spoiled for choice, you know that?

In the UK, I googled for veils for the better part of an hour. I found one bridal place that also makes “funeral veils and mantillas.” They had some lovely choices, but they’re all expensive at £45. There were a few things on Ebay under “vintage clothing” sections that were also expensive.

I ended up finding a site that sells scarves and bought a sheer black chiffon square scarf. To be honest, I’d kinda prefer that to a “doily.” I mean, it’s more versatile and could be worn outside of Church. Meanwhile, it will serve the purpose perfectly well. And, it only cost £6 including postage. I have to say, though, that finding a plain black scarf is surprisngly hard. It’s one of those things that you take for granted until you actually try to find one.

Technically, I suppose, you could wear just about any scarf or hat on your head, couldn’t you? I mean, I’ve heard stories of women pinning hankies to their heads (even Kleenex!) when they’ve forgotten their veils.

I bought a lovely triangular veil at the Westminster Cathedral gift shop just this past September! I’m sure if you called them they would post one to you. They had black and white, and it is a nice soft yet sturdy lace. I kept it in my backpack with me while we toured around England, not ever knowing when I would run into Jesus. I now keep it in my purse as my emergency veil for the same reason, and it holds up just lovely! I think I paid maybe £9 for it?? I can’t remember exactly, but it wasn’t much.

You could certainly wear any scarf, but I personally like the lace because it seems to have more “grippage” and holds onto my hair better. A scarf just slides off.

Good luck to you! I’m sure you will find something!!

~Liza

 

[lizaanne]

Has anyone here tried wearing what looks like a “chapel cap?”

I’m personally not thrilled with the chapel cap. I have very long hair and I like most of it covered, so the little round thingies just feel like doilies on my head, and really not sufficient for me. But that is certainly a very personal opinion to be sure.

~Liza

 

[Della]

I’m personally not thrilled with the chapel cap. I have very long hair and I like most of it covered, so the little round thingies just feel like doilies on my head, and really not sufficient for me. But that is certainly a very personal opinion to be sure.

~Liza

And I have very short hair with a short round body, and so look like a mushroom under a veil. Besides, covering all of one’s hair is not the point (not that you think it is, but some lurker/seeker might). It is the covering of the head out of reverence that’s most desired. Yes?

 

[lizaanne]

And I have very short hair with a short round body, and so look like a mushroom under a veil. Besides, covering all of one’s hair is not the point (not that you think it is, but some lurker/seeker might). It is the covering of the head out of reverence that’s most desired. Yes?

I can see how a chapel cap might look and feel better for you then, given that description.

Actually, I personally like the idea (that drives some people batty) of a woman’s hair being her crowning glory, and covering it for benefit of men, God, and the Angels. But then again I can be a little batty that way. And don’t anyone try to “re-educate” me, or tell me I’m wrong, or mislead, or anything else. This is my personal devotion.

But yes - I know what you mean, some out there would absolutely take that the wrong way and twist it all out of proportion. Covering one’s hair is not the point, and you are right. I just personally feel more comfortable if I have a longer veil that does cover most of my hair.

~Liza