Deweling in argumentive situations

[spirocatania]

does anyone know is deweling in argumentive situations in ones head the same as entertaining impure thoughts and images.

I find myself at times delwing in these things and then coming out of them not knowing how to judge them. sin/no sin.

these day dreams really get me stuck into them. i dont mean them but i find myself dweling in them and at times feeling my heart heavy. then coming out of them saying to myself i dont need to worry about this its not going to happen with another.

 

[Newbie2]

Sometimes dwelling on an argument or problem or situation is preventable and sometimes not.

Many times when my mind wanders (mowing the lawn is a good time for mind-wandering for me) I’ll think back to situations that may have happened years ago where someone wronged me and I’ll start to get worked up about it.

Personally, I think that’s Satan messing with us. We have in our memories stuff that we thought we’d forgotton, unpleasant stuff. I think he urges us to get emotionally upset about these things that we have or had put behind us.

I haven’t really found a solution to having these thoughts crop up, but saying a prayer or consciously repeating over and over that I’ve forgiven these people seems to work for me.

 

[Contra_Mundum_1]

I can totally relate to this because I have the same problem. I can get so worked up about something that happened in the past or something I anticipate to possibly happen in the future. It drives me insane. I’ve learned to recognise these thoughts when they start creeping up on me and before I get angry I start praying. The Rosary is amazing but sometimes I just repeatedly ask God to help me.

 

[spirocatania]

but if i find myself saying things in the thought back is this mortal sin. sometimes i end up dewling on them and then say "i did it again. is it the same as impure thoughts and images.

 

[rosary_kat]

In my opinion, for what it’s worth, I don’t think it’s a mortal sin. However, the best person to discuss this with is your parish priest. Sometimes I suggest to people that they seek out a priest who deals with college kids. These priests hear lots of these type questions and may have some good advice for you. I can tell you that for me the Saint Michael Prayer stops thoughts like this (and other subjects) cold. He comes through every time.