DH has not been baptised

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I don’t think I’ve posted on this before…

DH has been great about us raising our kids Catholic.

As we get older, I get more and more concerned that he’s not baptized AT ALL. His mother was of a culture that does not do that. His father pretty much hates organized religion, so didn’t/doesn’t think it was of issue.

DH doesn’t think it’s a big deal. He has no major adversion to it. But he’s not in a place to WANT to become Catholic. Or any other faith structure. He does believe in God.

OBVIOUSLY, I can’t make him do this. But I’m just a wee freaked about the state of his soul. He’s a great person. So hopefully that “counts” for much. So, in addition to praying that he sees the light and chooses to become Catholic. And gently sharing my faith…

WHAT ELSE??? What protects his soul? And perhaps he will be fine. I certainly can not “judge” him… Just worried…

Any thoughts are welcome…

Thanks
 
The “unbelieving husband is made one with the saints through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made one with the saints through her husband. If this were not so, your children would be unclean, whereas in fact they are holy.” [1Corinthians. 7:16, 14]

Prayer for unbelieving Spouse

Merciful God, through the love and merit of Jesus and Mary, I offer You all my spouse’s good deeds, sacrifices and trials, in prayer for his salvation, fulfilment, happiness and peace. Foster him as Your own child, for if he truly knew You, he would be a loving, obedient son.

I offer every frustration and disappointment, all sadness and suffering of his life, together with his pleasures, satisfactions, and achievements. I offer him to You, united in that terrible hour that Jesus cried out to You, “My God, my God, why have You abandoned me?” Thus may his sufferings be powerful prayer for souls. In Your mercy, please unite him with the Mystical Body so that even without his knowledge his life is a living prayer pleasing in Your sight.

If in any way, I fail to convey Your love to him, or I do not enrich his life with warm gifts of my nature, please forgive me and heal him. Guide me to give him the love, joy and goodness that you have united us to share, and lead him to love me freely and honestly.

Please forgive and overcome his doubt. Open him to Your Spirit. Let him experience Your love in his life, so that he enters into sacramental faith and dedicated Christian ministry. Grant him resurrection with Your Son Jesus.

If the prayer suits you, change it any way you like. After that, with some years of prayers, my husband was Baptised…so you never know

Regarding your husband’s good deeds.

Matthew 25:31-46:
biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+25%3A31-46&version=NIV

May God lead your husband to Baptism and faith
 
Trishie, great prayer! I can see who it could be adapted to an unbelieving child or other loved one. Thanks!

Faithfully, I will be praying for you and your husband.
 
My husband has not been baptized either, and I do worry about him. He was not raised in any kind of faith, he is getting on in years now. Just can’t seem to get through to him. I have asked God to please give him the gift of faith before it is too late.
 
Many years ago there was only one other Catholic family in the small town where my grandparents lived; the nearest Catholic Church was 15 miles away over unpaved country roads - a drive of thirty minutes or so. The mother and son of the other family were Catholic, but the father was unbaptized. However, he drove his wife and son to church every Sunday and waited for them in his truck. My grandparents had no vehicle; so we rode with the other family in the back of the truck.

The priest finally persuaded the father to come inside the church in the winter time rather than sitting in the cold truck. As the father was dying, he went into a coma for several days. The priest visited, spoke the father’s name and the father opened his eyes. The priest asked if he wished to be baptized and he answered yes. He died within a few hours after his baptism.

So keep praying and I will add him to my list.
 
keep praying and being the best Catholic wife and mother you know how to be, and zip it around him.
Coming from 20 years of RCIA experience I can attest getting “converted” because of a spouse’s nagging or insistence is just about the worst reason there can be in most cases.

It has to come from him, from the heart, in his own time, when he responds to the HOl Spirit. He has to think it is his own idea–because that is how RCIA works and because that is how men work.

I have known many families in a similar situation and have seen many men convert eventually, and each one of those who did first got involved through in the church through some kind of service in the local parish or diocese–adopting a poor family at Christmas, working the parochial school fundraiser or the parish fall festival, working the dinners for the needy, joining the home-repair for the elderly club, maintenance on the church grounds, joining the parish mission trip, chaperoning the youth group etc.

Maybe you can gently offer some of these as opportunities for quality family time together. As he gets to know other men who are strong Catholics raising strong Catholic families, yet identifies with their interests and problems through friendship and working together, that might the the pathway for him.
 
faithfully said:
I don’t think I’ve posted on this before…

DH has been great about us raising our kids Catholic.

As we get older, I get more and more concerned that he’s not baptized AT ALL. His mother was of a culture that does not do that. His father pretty much hates organized religion, so didn’t/doesn’t think it was of issue.

DH doesn’t think it’s a big deal. He has no major adversion to it. But he’s not in a place to WANT to become Catholic. Or any other faith structure. He does believe in God.

OBVIOUSLY, I can’t make him do this. But I’m just a wee freaked about the state of his soul. He’s a great person. So hopefully that “counts” for much. So, in addition to praying that he sees the light and chooses to become Catholic. And gently sharing my faith…

WHAT ELSE??? What protects his soul? And perhaps he will be fine. I certainly can not “judge” him… Just worried…

Any thoughts are welcome…

Thanks
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My husband is similar. He has never been baptized. His parents never went to church, nor were they worried about the example they were sending him. He is not concerned about it right now. I talk with him about how uncomfortable it makes me (rarely). It’s just such a tender subject and I KNOW he feels bad about it. He’s just not there yet. He’s just not ready to take a leap. I talked with our priest about it and he said that “theres still time, lori. Pray for him. Our God is a loving God and he will never give up on your husband.” that was the most comforting thing someone has said about it. My baptist family says that he’s a sinner in need of being saved. He needs to run down to the altar here at the baptist church and needs to be SAAAAVED. I know that he needs this. His heart is with me, at home in the catholic church. He believes the doctrine. Is very aware and smart with the bible. He watches Mass on tv. But it’s just not the time. I tell him that just because you watch it on tv it’s not the same. He even talks about the Eucharist, how he’s never taken communion anywhere before and would love to be connected with God through Jesus. I pray for God to soften his heart every day. I will never give up. I love him, but I worry about him. Thank you for sharing your story. It is nice to know people are in the same similar situation.
 
I read someplace that God could have converted St Augustine instantaneously, but He held off for 30 years to give St Monica to become a saint.
 
Joe_Kelley said:
I read someplace that God could have converted St Augustine instantaneously, but He held off for 30 years to give St Monica to become a saint.
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That is so comforting. Thank you! St Monica is an example of patience and trusting Gods will. Im not going to give up. All good things come to those who wait, right?

Peace
 
Thanks for the stories and such.

It will be interesting to say the least to see what my DH ever decides to do.

He goes to church with us when he’s off. (His job keeps him quite busy on weekends).

And he’s completely supportive of raising the children Catholic. Remember a time I was out of town and rec’d a call at bedtime. The kids needed to say “payers”, and DH doesn’t know the Lord’s prayer. He called for me to say it to him to say it to them, so they could repeat it. This of course after him trying to wing it, and the kids called him out.

TOO CUTE!

For what it’s worth, for others in the same boat He’s a history buff, kind of guy. I can always pull things out with regard to our faith he finds interesting. And anything that is just OUTSTANDING and somewhat current helps…

Our Pope goes back to Peter in the Bible, we can trace all the way back.
Did you know the earth is referred to as round in the bible?
Events surrounding Padre Pio have been interesting. The war plane pilots that saw him floating in the air to turn them back.

I can see him THINKING… when I tell him these random things.
 
My mother’s father was baptized after his children were grown. My mother and one of her brothers are his godparents. My uncle had fun telling people of going to his godson’s 50th wedding anniversary, and leaving them to figure it out. 😃
 
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