DH traveling for work

[_wifey]

Ok, so I feel a tad selfish and whiney, but please forgive me. This is not the first time that DH has had to travel, but this is the first time that he will be gone for so long (a week…) since we got married. Any ideas on how to make this easier? This last time he was only gone for two nights and I did just fine, but tonight is night #1 and I’m feeling miserably lonely. :crying: I think a great deal of my angst is coming from the fact that we had one of those deep, but not so pleasant conversations last night about our where our lives are headed (he’s in grad school, I’m ready to stop TTA’ing, he’s wants to wait until after graduation & buying a home, etc. etc.) We didn’t have a fight, but I feel excessively vulnerable and I’m afraid that he will be distracted worrying about me when he should be concentrating on his research (why he’s travelling). Any advice on how I can not only feel better but help him feel better, too? He keeps calling to check in on me (at each of his travel “breaks”) and already he’s got that strained, weary voice of worry. Ok, I’m not sure that made any sense. Sorry!

 

[whatevergirl]

Just say you love him, and can’t wait for him to come home. And I’m sorry, if necessary.

Send him some nice text messages…and maybe think of a nice way to greet him upon his return…a welcome home sign, a nice dinner…when dh has had to travel for a long time, I would spend the time (in addition to taking care of the kids) thinking of ways to surprise him when he returned.

Pray a rosary for his safe return, and for your peace of mind every day, too…asking Mary for her prayers during anxious moments is always such a blessings to me!

Don’t worry, a week will go by before you know it! :hug1:

 

[tundramom]

My DH travels a lot. He’s out of town at the drop of a hat and we never know how long he will be gone. Last week he was gone from Sunday night until Saturday night.

We have a difficult time scheduling things to do as a family. There have been many times when, during a school concert or such, he will get a call and has to go out of town.

We were married for 6 weeks when he got a phone call which took him to Shang Hai for almost 3 months.

There are times I feel like I am a single parent and the resentments start. That is when it gets difficult. I know, logically, that he is doing this because 1. it’s his job. 2. he is supporting his family (me) 3. if he doesn’t go when called, a lot of people could potentially be harmed. That doesn’t keep me from missing him. It’s ok to miss him! If I didn’t miss him then I’d be worried.

Let yourself miss him but as wives, we have to give them the comfort that we’ll be ok if they have to go. Keep busy. Visit friends. Don’t let him know just HOW lonely you are, but let him know that you wish he were there. When he gets home is the time to show him how much he was missed.

oh and little notes in his socks always keep him happy too.

I know your trials!

in Christ
Steph

 

[ac_claire]

Hi wifey,

My advice is whenever he calls to check up on you, try to be as sincerely cheerful and even-keeled as you can be. Even if you’re feeling sad or anxious or needy, don’t express that to him because he can’t really do anything about it where he is and the worry will just distract him…which in turn will make you feel bad again, etc., etc. (You can always talk about the concerns you mentioned when he gets home, you know?) So in the meantime, tell him you do miss him, but that you’re doing ok.

 

[Em_in_FL]

You have my sympathies…
My DH is traveling this week too… so I’m playing single-working-mom-to-3-kids! Not an easy role by ANY means.

My advice - take your desires to prayer rather than nagging him. The needs and desires of BOTH you and your DH are legitimate and important - but God has very special plans for you as a beautifully married couple. Pray that God opens those plans to you and guides you to understanding HIS purpose for your lives. I would calmly apologize and just turn to prayer TOGETHER that God leads you to where HE wants you to be!