I hear you, voice crying out in the night like that
I consider hell as being totally without God, at the mercy of the unmerciful, did he create your choice to reject him and follow through with it? No, you did that one, did he create the free will to become unmerciful, yes, yet, still, it was the free choice of the merciless to choose that, and this “choice” rests quite squarely upon the shoulders of whom made it…
In this scenario, he certainly created the conditions under which a person could potentially spend an eternity in suffering. It’s worth pointing out that for a very long time, Catholic teachings (supported by scripture) had been that hell was a physical reality of pain na d suffering…this notion is changing in an effort to de-monsterfy the catholic god.
I have an analogy for the “hell is a rejection of god” notion:
Imagine that the next time I met my friend Dan I ask him “Hey Dan, how’s your son 6 year old son Ben”?
He replies, "Not well…he has fallen into the pit I dug in my backyard and can’t get out. He’ll likely starve to death over the next 20 - 30 days”.
"Oh my gosh, " I reply “that’s horrible. Can’t you get him out”?
“Well yes…of course I could, but here’s the deal: Two years ago, I warned him not to get near that pit, and here he goes, two years later and falls into it. He deserves his fate, and if I rescued him…which I easily could…he would not learn a lesson from this sad experience. Like I said, I warned him to stay away from that hole”.
“But…but…he’s just 6 years old…you’re his father… You can’t just let him starve to death in that hole”!
“Listen, I love Ben more than anything. I love him with my whole heart, but he was warned two years ago…he deserves his horrible fate”.
“If you warned him, why did he get near the hole? I mean outside of the fact that he’s just a finite child with an extremely limited understanding of the world and of the consequences of his actions”.
“Well, he was trying to get the toys and candy that were in the pit”.
“TOYS AND CANDY! Why were there toys and candy in the pit”?
“Well, I let my other evil son Stan placed them there, you know, to lure Ben into the pit”.
“Why do you allow you son to do that”!
“Why should I attempt to stop him, after all Ben has been warned to stay away from the pit? How many chances do I have to give him? Here’s the deal, Ben’s not the first of my many children to fall in that pit, nor will he be the last. To be my loving child, one must obey my commands. By failing to do so, he has rejected me. Sure, he regrets it now…but it’s too late, he chose his fate and is now dealing with the consequences.
Ask yourself, what’s your opinion of Dan’s parenting skills? If Dan allows this to happen, does Dan truly love his son or does he hate him? How is Dan’s attitude any different from that of a God who would condemn his own creation to eternal hell (or create a reality in which they could)? Can Dan really claim that this is not his fault? At least the son’s torment will be over in 20 -30 days; Your God would mercifully allows us to suffer for an eternity if “fail to love him”.