Did I commit a mortal sin?

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Me and my fiancé struggle a lot with purity. He doesn’t like it, but he loves me, so he does it. We’re a little bit more comfortable with each other than most couples, as we did not always practice purity. It takes some compromising, but I try my hardest to not commit mortal sin. I fear that I have though. We were laying in bed cuddling and we had our pants off, nothing unusual for us. I let him get a little too far maybe, thinking he’d stop at a certain point and move his hands. He didnt. I stopped him and nothing happened. And I was certainly foolish for letting it that close, but did I commit mortal sin by letting us get that close? Was there any mortal sin involved here?
The thought also just occurred me that maybe I’m in mortal sin by causing sexual thoughts are feelings to come upon him. I don’t intend to, but it’s casual things (changing my pants in front of him, letting him get away with certain touches, etc.). I don’t wanna be overextreme about it though and make intimacy, touching the one you love, or anything like that out to be evil though.
This is really worrying me!! Any possibility of mortal sin worries me! :(:confused:
 
Please! Someone help me! I’d like to know if I need to abstain from communion or not on Christmas Eve. I might be able to go to confession before, but I don’t know for sure. I will definitely go as soon as possible. But I just went yesterday. And again not even a week ago. I think I’m letting the devil twist my thoughts into thinking my venial sins are mortal :bighanky: :bighanky: :bighanky:
 
First of all, just lying on the bed with your pants off is “a near occasion of sin” and in my opinion should be confessed. He should not touch you or see you without clothes. Males have much stronger physical reactions that females most of the time and your actions may cause him to lust in his heart which would be a sin for him. I suggest you go to confession and seek counsel in you relationship.
 
BLP said:
First of all, just lying on the bed with your pants off is “a near occasion of sin” and in my opinion should be confessed. He should not touch you or see you without clothes. Males have much stronger physical reactions that females most of the time and your actions may cause him to lust in his heart which would be a sin for him. I suggest you go to confession and seek counsel in you relationship.
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Would I be in a state of mortal sin?
 
kayrich123 said:
Would I be in a state of mortal sin?
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I obviously don’t know your thoughts but I would say no, because to cause a mortal sin you have to be in full knowledge of the sin and still do it. If you weren’t purposely sinning then no it wouldn’t be mortal, but venial yes
 
Thank y’all! I plan on going to confession ASAP! Please keep in your prayers.
 
kayrich123 said:
Me and my fiancé struggle a lot with purity. He doesn’t like it, but he loves me, so he does it. We’re a little bit more comfortable with each other than most couples, as we did not always practice purity. It takes some compromising, but I try my hardest to not commit mortal sin. I fear that I have though. We were laying in bed cuddling and we had our pants off, nothing unusual for us. I let him get a little too far maybe, thinking he’d stop at a certain point and move his hands. He didnt. I stopped him and nothing happened. And I was certainly foolish for letting it that close, but did I commit mortal sin by letting us get that close? Was there any mortal sin involved here?
The thought also just occurred me that maybe I’m in mortal sin by causing sexual thoughts are feelings to come upon him. I don’t intend to, but it’s casual things (changing my pants in front of him, letting him get away with certain touches, etc.). I don’t wanna be overextreme about it though and make intimacy, touching the one you love, or anything like that out to be evil though.
This is really worrying me!! Any possibility of mortal sin worries me! :(:confused:
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you need to stop putting yourself and him in these situations. cuddling with “pants off” is asking for trouble. You need to decide that you need to commit to being moral by stop ending up in situations that will get out of control with clothes off. In other words, stop being alone with him and in places where you can have sex. “go and sin no more”.
 
kayrich123 said:
Me and my fiancé struggle a lot with purity. He doesn’t like it, but he loves me, so he does it. We’re a little bit more comfortable with each other than most couples, as we did not always practice purity. It takes some compromising, but I try my hardest to not commit mortal sin. I fear that I have though. We were laying in bed cuddling and we had our pants off, nothing unusual for us. I let him get a little too far maybe, thinking he’d stop at a certain point and move his hands. He didnt. I stopped him and nothing happened. And I was certainly foolish for letting it that close, but did I commit mortal sin by letting us get that close? Was there any mortal sin involved here?
The thought also just occurred me that maybe I’m in mortal sin by causing sexual thoughts are feelings to come upon him. I don’t intend to, but it’s casual things (changing my pants in front of him, letting him get away with certain touches, etc.). I don’t wanna be overextreme about it though and make intimacy, touching the one you love, or anything like that out to be evil though.
This is really worrying me!! Any possibility of mortal sin worries me! :(:confused:
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Things have really changed since the 1960’s ! :eek: We used to commit mortal sin by just heavy petting at a drive-in movie. Now laying in bed without pants warrants an answer of whether it’s a mortal sin or not?
I think the answer is obvious…yes!
 
think of it this way: Jesus is there with you and your boyfriend. what do you think he would say to you?
 
truetofaith said:
Things have really changed since the 1960’s ! :eek: We used to commit mortal sin by just heavy petting at a drive-in movie. Now laying in bed without pants warrants an answer of whether it’s a mortal sin or not?
I think the answer is obvious…yes!
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In the Catechism of the Catholic Church it states: 1857 For a sin to be mortal, three conditions must together be met: “Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent.”

So if she wasn’t committing it with full knowledge then it isn’t a mortal sin.
 
there’s an old irish saying, if you have to ask if it’s a sin, it probably is.
 
bisco1 said:
there’s an old irish saying, if you have to ask if it’s a sin, it probably is.
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Yes I agree, but kayrich is wondering if it a mortal sin because she wants to receive the Eucharist.
 
just because you wonder, doesn’t mean it isn’t. full knowledge doesn’t cover every possible variation of sin.
 
Jake_Hansen said:
In the Catechism of the Catholic Church it states: 1857 For a sin to be mortal, three conditions must together be met: “Mortal sin is sin whose object is grave matter and which is also committed with full knowledge and deliberate consent.”

So if she wasn’t committing it with full knowledge then it isn’t a mortal sin.
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Not having full knowledge it’s a sin, sounds like a cop-out, to me!
 
i guess because i have the same issues, i find it more helpful to take it to confession, than to ask the internet. no one can put themselves in my experience. if i’m doing something sexually, and wondering if it’s a sin, it’s probably a sin. is it mortal, better to ask a priest, i think.
 
bisco1 said:
just because you wonder, doesn’t mean it isn’t. full knowledge doesn’t cover every possible variation of sin.
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If someone decides to cuddle with their boyfriend (without pants if we have to get into detail) and at the time they are not aware that they are committing a mortal sin, but 3 days later they find out that it is, does not mean that they are in the state of mortal sin for doing that act that they were not aware.
 
you could be right, i am obviously no expert. (expert sinner, but not on discerning sin:blush:)
 
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