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Redrose13
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I met a guy in a catholic dating app early this year around 1st week of March. We’ve started exchanging FB accounts, chatting and eventually, he pursued me. Our common vocation to marriage somehow deepen our desires to get to know each other well. I don’t know why he was so in a hurry that time that he wanted me to be his gf when we’ve just knew each other for a couple of days. So, I gave it a chance but there are still walls. Whenever he asks personal questions I dare not to tell the truth. Coz I was afraid that he won’t be able to accept my past. Little by little I was able to tell him my dark past.
We chatted almost everyday, my feelings grew for him quickly and eventually, he became my bf. We were in a long distance relationship. He lives in California and I live in the Philippines So, we lasted for about a week due to unresolved conflicts, trust issues and other miscommunication and misunderstandings.We split up on black Saturday and the irony of Easter really knocked me down. More so, I was guilty that I broke his trust in the first place coz i lied several times and I tried to patch things up. But the truth prevails and the damage has been done. After the break up we still communicate and became friends. And there were times that I tried to bring back our relationship but it didn’t work.
Almost two months had passed and yeah I befriend my ex but it was not healthy for me. First, he was the guy who took me out from my dark past and sins and redirected my path to God. My Catholic faith totally became on fire in seeking the truth. Second, he taught me to be strong and to have a strong mindset in achieving my goals in life. And that changed my perspectives and mindset too in a positive way. In short, he made a great impact and influence in my life that it was hard for me to let him go.
Being friends with him felt like I was in a thread still connected to him. And the feelings, I can’t deny I still love him (romantic love). There were hopes and dreams that maybe someday we’ll be back together but per our conversations, it will never happen. My eyes were opened that we’ll never be back together and I really need to move on with my life. If I continue befriending my ex, I will just allow myself to suffer more bringing ressurected feelings with him. So 2 or 3 days ago I decided to really cut the ties with him.
I told him to cut our comms coz it’s not healthy for me. But he was saying that I was his only friend, etc. Honestly, it was hard for me to leave him in a state that he’s a step closer to achieve his dream and he will continue college this June. I helped him daily in encouraging and motivating him to work on his project that will be his future. And it hurts even more that I was tied to a friendship that is beneficial for him but hurts me even more.
Now, I’m trying to move on with my decision of leaving him behind and go separate ways. Right now, there’s feelings of guilt, sadness and regret of abandoning a friend. I am confused if I did the right thing. Your insights are pretty much appreciated.
Thanks and God bless!
We chatted almost everyday, my feelings grew for him quickly and eventually, he became my bf. We were in a long distance relationship. He lives in California and I live in the Philippines So, we lasted for about a week due to unresolved conflicts, trust issues and other miscommunication and misunderstandings.We split up on black Saturday and the irony of Easter really knocked me down. More so, I was guilty that I broke his trust in the first place coz i lied several times and I tried to patch things up. But the truth prevails and the damage has been done. After the break up we still communicate and became friends. And there were times that I tried to bring back our relationship but it didn’t work.
Almost two months had passed and yeah I befriend my ex but it was not healthy for me. First, he was the guy who took me out from my dark past and sins and redirected my path to God. My Catholic faith totally became on fire in seeking the truth. Second, he taught me to be strong and to have a strong mindset in achieving my goals in life. And that changed my perspectives and mindset too in a positive way. In short, he made a great impact and influence in my life that it was hard for me to let him go.
Being friends with him felt like I was in a thread still connected to him. And the feelings, I can’t deny I still love him (romantic love). There were hopes and dreams that maybe someday we’ll be back together but per our conversations, it will never happen. My eyes were opened that we’ll never be back together and I really need to move on with my life. If I continue befriending my ex, I will just allow myself to suffer more bringing ressurected feelings with him. So 2 or 3 days ago I decided to really cut the ties with him.
I told him to cut our comms coz it’s not healthy for me. But he was saying that I was his only friend, etc. Honestly, it was hard for me to leave him in a state that he’s a step closer to achieve his dream and he will continue college this June. I helped him daily in encouraging and motivating him to work on his project that will be his future. And it hurts even more that I was tied to a friendship that is beneficial for him but hurts me even more.
Now, I’m trying to move on with my decision of leaving him behind and go separate ways. Right now, there’s feelings of guilt, sadness and regret of abandoning a friend. I am confused if I did the right thing. Your insights are pretty much appreciated.
Thanks and God bless!
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