Did I do the right thing?

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Did I do the right thing?

I was at a small store with eight or nine customers in it, when the owner’s grown daughter began to berate her in a loud voice, so that everyone could hear her. She was angry because her mother had cancelled their insurance, and said her mother always did everything wrong, and she’d never help her out again . . . she went on for ten minutes. The mother scarcely answered, or answered very quietly.
When I went to check out I said, It’s not nice to speak to your mother in public like that. It’s not cool at all.
She responded that it was none of my business, and I didn’t know what I was talking about anyway. I said, right, it wasn’t, and I didn’t want to know. But that if she’s going to talk about it in front of everyone, she made it our business.
She mumbled that I should mind my own business. She was still mad at me when I left.
 
Yes you did. In fact, I’d say you most likely embarrassed her into thinking about what she was doing. Next time she starts yelling at someone in public she might think twice. She made it everyone’s business - you are right on that one. She then shouldnt complain when people comment on it.
 
You publicly berated her for publicly berating? :confused: Talk about circular logic! 🙂

On the other hand admonishing the sinner is a spiritual act of mercy…
 
What you did took guts. In a world where respect and modesty has virtually disappeared thats a very good thing. I wish there were more people like you 👍
 
Thanks for the replies. I feel a little better now.
(Pleased to meet you all too.)
 
I thnk you did the right thing. I wish I was more like that…to be able to speak up like you. 👍
 
Unless you raised your voice, I don’t see how anyone could say you were berating her.

Since you asked, I’d have to say “Good on you!”
 
I think that when people take private issues and vent them publicly they become, in a sense, public domain. It’s like the public cell phone talkers, who find it acceptable to carry on personal conversations in a loud voice.

We all have a community stake in good manners and civility. Thanks for helping the cause!
 
That daughter should respect her mother; its part of the 10 Commandments. Her mother was sweet to answer with such gentleness.

You did the right thing, entirely. There’s no way I could stand for that kind of disrespect. All the daughter had to do was wait until the business day was over and kindly ask “Why did you cancel our insurance? Was it too expensive?”, etc.

And like the others said, being yelly certainly will involve others, not just the business’ reputation. When someone yells “HELP!” what happens? The public usually gets involved. Yelling is for outreach. So she certainly earned the public response.
 
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Did I do the right thing?

I was at a small store with eight or nine customers in it, when the owner’s grown daughter began to berate her in a loud voice, so that everyone could hear her. She was angry because her mother had cancelled their insurance, and said her mother always did everything wrong, and she’d never help her out again . . . she went on for ten minutes. The mother scarcely answered, or answered very quietly.
When I went to check out I said, It’s not nice to speak to your mother in public like that. It’s not cool at all.
She responded that it was none of my business, and I didn’t know what I was talking about anyway. I said, right, it wasn’t, and I didn’t want to know. But that if she’s going to talk about it in front of everyone, she made it our business.
She mumbled that I should mind my own business. She was still mad at me when I left.
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Viki59:

I can’t see anything you did that was wrong. The owner’s grown daughter made this your business, as well as anyone else who cared, when she berated her mother for 10 minutes in front of everyone in the store.

What you said was completely appropriate in that situation, and could have even been more forceful. The daughter displayed a complete disrespect for her mother, and a total lack of decency, when she did what she did.

It may be that, in her book, she can say whatever she wants to her mother, and it’s nobody’s business what she says. And, She probably believes no one has any right to say anything to her about it, and that includes the employes in her mother’s grocery store.

If this is the case, her belief just doesn’t match reality, and you had every right to correct her, along with anyone else who heard that tirade.

Your Brother in Christ, Michael
 
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