Did I make a mistake in confession in counselling

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If the Priest has an issue with you then he can’t be much of a priest.
 
If you really feel that it is troubling him, yes I would find another parish. I would never want to negatively impact a priest’s vocation. Lots of people will say it’s his problem, but it is what it is.
If he’s troubled, let it go
I hope you find a lovely parish home where you can thrive. GOd bless you.
 
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I have a good friend of 15yrs who is bi-sexual and has a strong faith and is non practicing. So don’t judge everyone the same as that is insulting.
 
jason69 said:
If the Priest has an issue with you then he can’t be much of a priest.
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Priests are humans. Not sure if the OP is in the US or what part, but the sexual and child abuse scandals are a huge issue. Many priests are good men who do not know how to address the sins of others. This is not a deficit in their character. They are not God. Most have minimal training in counseling matters. That dosn’t make them bad.
 
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I will never leave the catholic church again. The paris, yes. I did try to contact him via a thank you email and then left a message with the secretary. Just can’t seem to connect for a brief conversation. All good. Just sad. It was the feeling I did something wrong that has been eatting at me. You all have been great with your replies. Thank you!
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I don’t understand why you think he needs to respond to a thank you email. And then you follow up with a message with his secretary. Let it go already. I think you think this priest is somehow your friend. He is not, he is your priest. You are reading too much into his not talking to you. You are not his only parishioner.
 
Tell me if I am reading your message wrong. But what I understand is that you are saying is that any LGBT people are all practicing, so it is a joke to say non practising.
 
You have done nothing wrong nor do you need to do anything other than respect where your priest is at…whether he be acting maturely or not. If he is not coping well with what you confided that would be understandable in a younger sexually inexperienced priest. He will assimilate and mature in Gods time. It is not your problem. There is no point forcing a resolution if inexperience and immaturity is the cause. Just be your normal self and dont expect an extra special familial bond with him just because of this sharing. Give him space and things should slowly normalise over time.
 
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Hello there. It sounds like you are making great strides in coming closer to the Lord and seeking his Mercy. He is so beyond merciful. I do think that we often treat a priests reaction to us as God’s reaction to us and may that not be the case. God knows your heart and you are His beloved child. Priests have their own challenges and are human too. Pray for this priest and for all priests! But never forget you are His beloved child. I would say to keep praying for humility, that you may not be so concerned with people’s reactions, but this is a tough problem for us all isn’t it? Our Lord and Savior Jesus came to us as a child and is the perfect example of humility. Let us always look to Him and keep praying for humility! Let us always remember we are not a sum of our sins and failures but rather we are the sum of God’s love for us and our capacity to be like His son. Keep praying and pray your rosary for humility. God bless you.
 
ACanthony THANK YOU. Somehow my message has been seen as some attempt to befriend my pastor or a ask for more of a friendship with a side discussion on other issues like sexuality… Breaks my heart that the only thing I wanted was assurance I had not, in confessing due I g a counselling session, made an offense I should apologize for and to ask if maybe others thought, as I gave, that another parish might be a good call to spare him any discomfort and allow me to make a fresh start …still in a Catholic church, but with a new pastor. Somehow things became very very distorted. I want nothing more of this pastor. Sonepne made the suggestion to talk to him… Which is why I sent the email. He is under no obligation to reply, but if there was a problem ur certainly gave him the opportunity to address it with me. Your reply was very kind and I thank you. I will take it to heart.
 
Irishmom2. Someone here had suggested talking to him. Knowing he is very busy I thought an email as both a thank you and a method to dokyst that “talk” might be helpful. A non response is completely ok. He has a lot to do every single day. My entire point to posting a question was to ask more experienced Catholics if maybe if done something wrong. If. I did what I should do.
 
I don’t understand how this thread on a counselling session became a hateful rant about sexual identity. Please stop. Please.
 
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Is anyone as naive to assume a LGBT person, especially after coming out of the closet, in today’s modern world, would not “practice” this?
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It’s not my business to assume anything. I understand the point you are making. If the shoe was on the other foot and the church told me (a man) it was wrong to act on my attraction to women then i think I’d struggle with it. A lot. But all the more reason to be compassionate to those people with those battles. Ultimately their sin is between them and God, just like mine.
 
You are certainly welcome. We all need prayers along the way and support too. Just keep praying. Pray, hope, and don’t worry. If God is for you, who can be against you?
 
Agreed. Everyone better settle down. Otherwise, there’s gonna be deletions, warnings, or suspensions. Just a heads up!
 
Florin and Jason: Just stop already. You have rudely hijacked this thread. Knock it off.
 
@ElizabethsHope, I concur with all the others who have said that you did not do anything wrong. You did right to seek his counsel and advice.

Many others have said that priests are only human, and this is so true. One possibility which I think hasn’t been mentioned so far in this thread is that your counseling session may have created for him some kind of temptation, which now he must avoid.

Or there could be another reason we haven’t thought of. Whatever it is, he should be treated with respect and compassion. We should not attempt to psychoanalyze him, or judge him. Also don’t talk it up. No gossip. Respect his privacy.

If by chance you encounter him after Mass, just say thanks for celebrating the Mass, or that was a great Homily. Keep it light.

Let us pray for the priest. May the Holy Spirit strengthen and assist him, and bring him peace.

And may the Holy Spirit bless you and guide you always toward faith, hope, and love.
 
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@ElizabethsHope

You have done the right thing by confessing to a Catholic Priest ,since he is there, in the person of Christ ,and it was Jesus listening to your confession,please continue to confess, don’t stay away from the sacraments and the Catholic Church .Some here may give you wrong advice,kindly, don’t feel bad about it, Jesus has forgiven your sins ,we all are sinners .the priest may be in a hurry or so ,why don’t you talk to him,he probably didn’t have the time to check his mail ,God Bless
 
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I’ve been keeping my distance now. Chosing Masses the other priests cover. I’ve done a quick wave once or twice with no response and that’s ok. I’m not him. I don’t know what it takes to do what he does. Thank you so much for this amazing reply. I will keep it close to my heart
 
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