Did I really know?

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That is because we don’t know what is in your heart. Use the outline I gave you and decide. If all the conditions are not fully met it is a venial sin and you can go to communion.
 
A priest can guide you through the thought process one uses to decide what is a mortal sin.
 
I’m not sure how to get in contact with one before Wednesday’s mass. I don’t want to receive if I’m not properly disposed, but I don’t want to skip out if I am. I’m one of those people combating serious vices, so I need Jesus in the Eucharist and that grace.
 
Sadly, he’s moving soon, so I will have an opportunity for a new confessor. Still, I trust what he says. He knows me well, and my spiritual life has been shared with him.
 
Captain,

Have you gone to confession since the time you played the video games against your dad’s rules?
 
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Capta(name removed by moderator)rudeman said:
I don’t think I failed to bother to love them. This was the only rule I broke (mostly because I thought it was stupid) but I always make sure I’m on good terms with them and work to make them proud.
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While your motives are not evil, sometimes it is expedient to follow rules that we think are “stupid”. God uses such things to build our character. Remember what Jesus said:

John 14:15 “If you love me, you will keep my commandments."

Obedience is a way of showing love to those that make the rules. This is especially true when we think the rules are “stupid”.
Capta(name removed by moderator)rudeman said:
That being said, my main problem has always been discerning if I knew something to be mortally sinful. I can never tell if it’s just my brain trying to midigate my actions. I know now, I just can’t tell if I knew then.
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It is not necessary to work so hard to figure it out. Trust that God will let you know when you have missed the mark. If you are not sure, just bring it during confession , then LET IT GO! God does.

Psalm 103:12 “as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.”

Jesus wants you to be focused on developing the fruit of the Spirit, not pre-occupied about sin. Don’t waste any energy trying to figure it out. Cleanse your soul, and move forward!
Irishmom2 said:
Unlike everyone else that has answered you so far, I am having a really hard time believing that you “didn’t know” you were disobeying your parents.
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It is not a matter of not knowing that it was disobedient, but that whether disobeying in this matter constitutes a “grave matter”. I agree, it is clear that the rule was not followed because it was deemed “stupid”, so obviously it was conscious. The question the OP has posed is “is disobedience to parents a grave matter”.
Capta(name removed by moderator)rudeman said:
How would he know if I knew or not? I’m not trying to be difficult, just don’t see how it’d help outside of a confessional.
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He does not necessarily have to figure it out either! Your conscience has pricked you about your disobedience, and you can confess it, be absolved and put it behind you. If you are worried that you partook of the Eucharist in an unworthy manner, then confess that too. Be absolved, and let it go.
 
Capta(name removed by moderator)rudeman said:
I suppose the real question I’m asking is, did I commit a grave sin?
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Only the devil wants us to obsess about such things, because if we do, we are less open to what God wants to do in our lives.
Capta(name removed by moderator)rudeman said:
Should I receive the Eucharist in the meantime?
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Make an appt. to go to confession. If your own priest is not available, contact a nearby parish.

Make an act of confession.

You can also find a parish near you that is offering the Anointing of the sick. All sins are forgiven in this sacrament, which is often offered on the first Friday of the month. Then you can bring your issue to confession the next time you go (even if it is the following day).
Capta(name removed by moderator)rudeman said:
I’m mainly worried about recieving communion later. Getting a lot of mixed signals, and I’m not sure who’s right and wrong.
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Pray, and follow your conscience. Eucharistic grace fortifies us against future sin as well.
Capta(name removed by moderator)rudeman said:
I’m not sure how to get in contact with one before Wednesday’s mass. I don’t want to receive if I’m not properly disposed, but I don’t want to skip out if I am. I’m one of those people combating serious vices, so I need Jesus in the Eucharist and that grace.
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Another good reason to frequent the Sacrament of Healing Anointing.

The fact that you are asking indicates that you were not sure. You are sure now.
 
guanophore said:
but that whether disobeying in this matter constitutes a “grave matter”. I agree, it is clear that the rule was not followed because it was deemed “stupid”, so obviously it was conscious. The question the OP has posed is “is disobedience to parents a grave matter”.
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Honor your mother and father.
Serious enough for a commandment.

Not, honor them unless you think their rules are stupid.
 
Irishmom2 said:
Honor your mother and father.
Serious enough for a commandment.
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To honor one’s mother and one’s father in an honor/shame culture is not really related to occasionally disobeying them in trivial matters. We’ve equated them, but that really does not do the original commandment justice.
 
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To argue that disobedience to parents is not always a mortal sin, here is a passage from the Catholic Encyclopedia:
There is no hard and fast rule to gauge the gravity of the matter in which an infraction of the duty of obedience will become a mortal sin. Moralists declare that this valuation must be made by the good sense of thoughtful persons. They add that in general when an act of disobedience is calculated to work serious harm to the parents, or interfere seriously with domestic discipline, or put in jeopardy the temporal or spiritual welfare of the children themselves, it is to be accounted a mortal sin.
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Playing video games does not seem to meet any of the criteria the article gives for when disobeying your parents would be a mortal sin, but it doesn’t really matter in your case whether your action was objectively grave matter or not. The issue here is whether you believed it to be grave matter, which it sounds like you did not (but is ultimately for you to determine). Keep in mind that you don’t retroactively become guilty of mortal sin when you suddenly find out that what you did in the past might have been grave matter.
 
I think I’ll take the Eucharist at mass, but I’ll be sure to visit confession ASAP after I’m home. If, in fact I am in mortal sin, I will confess the reception of Eucharist as well. Either way, I’ll leave right with God.
 
No, I haven’t. However, it seems that we might be able to have confessions along with the planned Adoration and Friday mass. Hopefully I’ll get this done and dealt with.
 
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Planning to receive the Eucharist and confess it later is not a good idea.

If you are scrupolous receive in good conscience. If you are not wait until you can confess.
 
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I didn’t receive, but I talked to a priest yesterday. He told me it wasn’t mortally sinful.
 
I didn’t think it was, but I receiving while you suspected yourself to be in a state of mortal sin would have been. I had to say something.
 
I don’t exactly feel comfortable saying my real age, so let’s just say my brain has not yet finished growing.
 
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