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Ma.Eugenia
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Thanks for the suggestion. I will try to be as honest as possible when I get the courage to do so. I am still mustering enough courage to say something to him. For one thing, the guy’s so much taller than me and I really am not looking forward to seeing him angry.
So far, it seems, he doesn’t know yet… but…its like waiting for “water to drop from a dripping faucet”.
I suppose it depends on the course where prescribed sequencing can be overlooked. For example, a student may perhaps take Math 3 that is supposed to be taken in 2nd year together with English 5 which is a 3rd year subject as the former is not a pre-requisite of the latter.
The dean’s office denied my taking the subjects against the sequence (prescribed by our national education boards), when I heard that many students were able to take it through the “backdoor enrollment” at the registrar department — rightly, because it was like taking “Algebra” before taking Basic Math. One would not expect me to understand fully if I didn’t know the basic.
That is why when the owner (of the school) found out what was going on, he got angry and put a stop to this “backdoor enrollment”. It became a big issue at school.
I realize now, that the sequencing of subjects was prescribed by our local education board and should be followed strictly, moreso, because we are trying to master a healthcare course where the health and lives of people will be in our “hands” as nurses (when we graduate). The subjects that I was talking about were major Nursing subjects. It just wouldn’t do well for our patients if we do not understand our lessons correctly.
If you took a stand against unfair practices because they were wrong, then that’s great - the world needs more people like you. If you did all of this to get the same advantage for yourself that others were getting unfairly then to me that would be wrong.
I am sorry to say that my motive was wrong, as my reason for making the stand was to get the same advantage the others got—even if I knew that the “advantage” was wrong in the first place.
I realize now that over and beyond hurting my classmate by naming him—there was an issue bigger than this: Had I gotten my own way, there is a chance that I will not end up to be the “Nurse” I want to be or my patients will want me to be —all for my selfish reason of wanting to finish early and not be left behind by my other classmates.
More than the need to reconcile with my classmate, I think, I really need to take stock of what is really needed for me to be a good nurse.
I feel I let my friend down, I’ve let myself down but most important of all, I’ve let God down. I should learn to fight only if I have good reason and my motives can be justified in the eyes of God. I wasn’t fighting for right, I was fighting to have a “slice” of a wrong.
I am glad that it is now all out in the open. The school has now implemented stricter policies to make sure that everyone follows the rules.
Though, I admit, given the circumstance and my motives, that it was “no thanks” to me that good still came out of all this mess.
] There might be one way to reconcile and truly apologize. Tell your friend that you had no intention of hurting him or getting him and ther others removed from the class. Tell him that when you were asked to give names you thought that they were questioning your honesty and saying prove it. Therefore you thought that if you could show them that you were not lieing and that people were allowed in they would also let you in as well. Your friend will probably still be very upset but might be more understanding.
Thanks for the suggestion. I will try to be as honest as possible when I get the courage to do so. I am still mustering enough courage to say something to him. For one thing, the guy’s so much taller than me and I really am not looking forward to seeing him angry.
So far, it seems, he doesn’t know yet… but…its like waiting for “water to drop from a dripping faucet”.
] However, I have learned that a student is soley responsible for mapping out their courses for their 2-4 years at a uni. In many ways its your own fault for not figuring this out in a timely manner. You did not investigate all the options at the beginning of the semester…thats YOUR fault and not the schools.
I suppose it depends on the course where prescribed sequencing can be overlooked. For example, a student may perhaps take Math 3 that is supposed to be taken in 2nd year together with English 5 which is a 3rd year subject as the former is not a pre-requisite of the latter.
The dean’s office denied my taking the subjects against the sequence (prescribed by our national education boards), when I heard that many students were able to take it through the “backdoor enrollment” at the registrar department — rightly, because it was like taking “Algebra” before taking Basic Math. One would not expect me to understand fully if I didn’t know the basic.
That is why when the owner (of the school) found out what was going on, he got angry and put a stop to this “backdoor enrollment”. It became a big issue at school.
I realize now, that the sequencing of subjects was prescribed by our local education board and should be followed strictly, moreso, because we are trying to master a healthcare course where the health and lives of people will be in our “hands” as nurses (when we graduate). The subjects that I was talking about were major Nursing subjects. It just wouldn’t do well for our patients if we do not understand our lessons correctly.
] What you did isn’t necessarily wrong in itself but your motive for doing it is what is important.
If you took a stand against unfair practices because they were wrong, then that’s great - the world needs more people like you. If you did all of this to get the same advantage for yourself that others were getting unfairly then to me that would be wrong.
I am sorry to say that my motive was wrong, as my reason for making the stand was to get the same advantage the others got—even if I knew that the “advantage” was wrong in the first place.
I realize now that over and beyond hurting my classmate by naming him—there was an issue bigger than this: Had I gotten my own way, there is a chance that I will not end up to be the “Nurse” I want to be or my patients will want me to be —all for my selfish reason of wanting to finish early and not be left behind by my other classmates.
More than the need to reconcile with my classmate, I think, I really need to take stock of what is really needed for me to be a good nurse.
I feel I let my friend down, I’ve let myself down but most important of all, I’ve let God down. I should learn to fight only if I have good reason and my motives can be justified in the eyes of God. I wasn’t fighting for right, I was fighting to have a “slice” of a wrong.
I am glad that it is now all out in the open. The school has now implemented stricter policies to make sure that everyone follows the rules.
Though, I admit, given the circumstance and my motives, that it was “no thanks” to me that good still came out of all this mess.