Did I stick my nose where it doesn't belong?

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Well done!!! and the only way she feels bad about it is if you pester for the payment. You lend to a friend or neighbor, you should not be disappointed if you don’t get it back. So don’t say anything, don’t bring it up. When she does it will either be to pay you or to explain why she can’t. If its the former, you have to tell her “don’t worry about it, take care of it when you are able”. And then go silent again.
 
You could tell her it’s you who is repaying her for doing all she’s doing for her grandsons.
 
Straight away tell her that you are doing this for her as a gift - no repayment expected or wanted. It will be a load off her mind and you will be blessed beyond measure. Do it as soon as possible.
 
I don’t know how much this applies…
But, I lent money to a friend (he was changing houses, and his late mother’s estate hadn’t been fully settled), he brought up the idea of how soon I expected it to be repaid, and I said ‘before you buy your new Lambo’.

Now, we know each other to know that neither of us can expect to ever to afford such a car, so, in essence, I let him know that he need not worry about paying. Like many people who post here, I never count money lent, as money to expect returned. Plus, I attempted to put some humor into the situation. You might do so, adapting it to her (and your) situation.

And, yes, you did a good thing, helping out a widow and her dependants. May God bless you for it!
 
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Now, we know each other to know that neither of us can expect to ever to afford such a car, so, in essence, I let him know that he need not worry about paying.
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It’s amazing how differently words come across when people know each other.

I would have read it as pay me when you have the money and no large unnecessary purchases in the meantime.
 
vern_humphrey said:
My youngest daughter – always ready to spend Dad’s money – contacted a contractor while she was here last month and made arrangements for him to come out and do a professional job. He’s coming tomorrow.
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This is funny. She called without your approval?
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Did I do the right thing?
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A bit of forethought might be better next time, it seems you and your youngest daughter are a lot alike. Put your neighbor at ease and tell her you want to bless her.
 
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