. . . Is it a Catholic speculation, or only Protestant, that Mary might have sometimes not understood her Son? Is it disrespectful to think that She might have sometimes been confused by Him, or even, as I’ve seen it put, thought He’d “lost His mind” when He said certain things?
The only reason I’m asking is that, for my writing, I want to capture the depth of Mary’s mind, and somehow I don’t think She, or anyone else in His family (only those who were against Him) would ever have thought He’d “lost His mind.”
What is the true Catholic thing to make of this?
The main passage from scripture which is inferred is :
When his relatives heard of this they set out to seize him, for they said, “He is out of his mind.”
But there are many other passages from scripture which might be indirectly applicable.
What follows is only my own limited opinion.
The first thing I would do, is to draw a line - a nice solid line : between our Blessed Mother not completely understanding something which Jesus said or did, and her ever thinking Jesus had lost his mind.
Mary could
not have thought that Jesus had lost his mind. As Fiasco’s post states, the Blessed Virgin had faith in Jesus, and she is our perfect model of faith. Were we to believe that someone had lost their mind, it would simultaneously imply that we no longer had faith in that person. It helps to keep in mind that Jesus, as well as being Mary’s Son, was also her God.
Losing one’s mind is equivalent to insanity. When we say a person is insane, it means they have lost touch with reality. God is ultimate reality , because to exist, is of God’s very essence : “
I AM who AM.”
Furthermore, in the prevalent thought of that time , it was not uncommon for people to think that insanity could be attributed, at least in part , to demonic activity (Luke 8:35).
So for Mary to believe Jesus was insane, would mean that she no longer had faith in Him. And if Mary had lost faith in Jesus during his public ministry, there is no way we would ever have seen our Blessed Mother at the foot of the Cross . . . where she remained with Jesus to the end. . . even after the disciples had fled.
Perhaps it could further be noted that it wasn’t “only those who were against Him” who thought Jesus’ thinking wasn’t clear. After Jesus’ discourse on the* Bread of Life* (John 6:50-68 ;
DRV) , we are told that ,
" . . . many of his disciples went back; and walked no more with him."
Jesus, as foretold in Simeon’s prophecy, was a “sign of contradiction.”
I personally see nothing disrespectful in thinking that perhaps Mary
“might have sometimes not understood her Son” - at least, not completely. If we perfectly understood everything going on in our lives , where would be the room for us to exercise our faith . . . the room for us to say, “Lord, I don’t understand exactly what is happening in my life right now, but You do, and I trust in your goodness.”
As to whether Jesus ever
“confused” His Mother : I suppose if we were splitting hairs, one might even be able to find or formulate an argument that an incident of this nature actually occurred just prior to Jesus’ incarnation/conception :
But she was greatly troubled at what was said and pondered what sort of greeting this might be.
But Mary said to the angel, “How can this be, since I have no relations with a man?”
If we want to begin to “capture the depth of Mary’s mind”, we need to see what her response was :
Mary said, "Behold, I am the handmaid of the Lord. May it be done to me according to your word." Then the angel departed from her.
He went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them; and** his mother kept all these things in her heart**.
To have an inkling of the depth of Mary’s mind , we need to draw close to her Heart, to her Immaculate Heart where she pondered these things. We need to see her unwavering faith and then to ask her as our Mother, to have us share this same faith. Finally, we need to ask her to pray with us and for us. Praying the Holy Rosary is one of the best and most complete ways of accomplishing all of the aforementioned.
