On the question of Mary’s perpetual virginity consider this.
Luke chapter one “the angel Gabriel was sent…to a virgin
betrothed to a man named Joseph”
- Mary was engaged to Joseph
“Behold you will conceive in your womb and bear a son…But Mary said to the angel how can this be, since I know not (have no relations with) man”
- If she is about to be married why would she say this if she does not expect to remain a virgin??? It makes no sense for an engaged girl who hasn’t taken a vow a virginity to say such a thing.
This does imply that she was not planning on having sex in the near future; it does not necessarily imply that she intended to abstain from sex forever. The angel’s message was one that carried a sort of immediacy, so Mary- knowing that sex is a necessary though insufficient thing for pregnancy- wondered how God would cause this to be. I suppose one acceptable answer would have been “Actually, not yet- wait a few weeks, consummate the marriage, and THEN you’ll get pregnant. I just wanted to give you plenty of warning.” Given the situation, though, another possibility would have been a more immediate pregnancy that did not involve sex- but Mary didn’t know how that would work.
And now I have one more question for you guys. Take a look at Luke 2, verses 22 to 24. Here’s what they say.
"And when the time came for their purification according to the Law of Moses, they brought him up to Jerusalem to present him to the Lord (as it is written in the Law of the Lord, “Every male who first opens the womb shall be called holy to the Lord”) and to
offer a sacrifice according to what is said in the Law of the Lord, "a pair of turtledoves, or two young pigeons."
It doesn’t look like anything at first. But wait, let’s grab the cross reference. Away we go to Leviticus 12.
"And when the days of her purifying are completed, whether for a son or for a daughter, she shall bring to the priest at the entrance of the tent of meeting a lamb a year old for a burnt offering, and a pigeon or a turtledove for a sin offering, and he shall offer it before the LORD and make atonement for her. Then she shall be clean from the flow of her blood. This is the law for her who bears a child, either male or female. And if she cannot afford a lamb, then she shall take two turtledoves or two pigeons,
one for a burnt offering and the other for a sin offering. And the priest shall make atonement for her, and she shall be clean."
Did you know Mary made a sin offering according to the Law of Moses? That would be a sin offering for her. In order that she could be forgiven of her sins. She went ahead and did it.
Now, I know the basic argument against the obvious conclusion: She did it so she wouldn’t freak people out. She did it to fit in. Essentially, she allowed a priest the privilege of making a sin offering for “the queen of heaven”
in spite of her sinlessness rather than
because of her sin.
It’s a bit like going to confession
in spite of perfection rather than
because of sin. The thing is, what do you say once you walk in the booth? As you imagine how this scenario plays out, you should begin to realize the truth: A sinless person does not have any good reason to be at confession, nor does a sinless Jewess have any business making sacrifices for sin as if she were a regular Jewish girl.
May I remind all of you of something? While this is the only time Mary is specifically recorded in the Bible doing a sin offering, it was almost certainly not the only time she did a sin offering. If she did it in order to “not freak people out” at this expected time following childbirth, I’m certain that she would have participated in the expected sin offering each month as required for Jewish women. She did the sin offering in Luke 2, so I am hard pressed to find a reason for why she would be inconsistent when faced with a remarkably similar situation every month.
While you’re thinking about how to respond to that, here’s the other little bit of this Catch-22: If, as you say, Mary was sinless…but, as we know from Luke’s Gospel she brought a sin offering for herself…is this not just a little bit deceptive? This becomes a much more serious problem for you if your reason (on her behalf) is insufficient to separate this event from all of the monthly demands for sin offerings, which put her in a very similar position. Can you really call Mary “sinless” if she spends her entire life allowing the priests to believe a lie?
So what’s the push-back from your end? Assuming that Mary was sinless (which has never been anything more than an assumption for anyone at any time), can you articulate a simple reason for why a sinless person would assent to an unnecessary sin offering? Can you do it without forcing Mary into deception, but still make it believable? And lastly, what do you do with all the sin offerings demanded of Mary once every month?
The only halfway decent response I can come up with at this point is one that emphasizes her uncleanness at the expense of the sin offering. That would probably be enough for
you to continue believing Mary is sinless, but your best case scenario is one of “disaster averted.” The more you think about it, the harder it is to imagine how Mary could be sinless, participate fully in Judaism, and keep her sinlessness a secret from the priests. And the writers of the Gospels, of course. All without being deceptive. It’s a good thing those guys in southern Europe found out about it two generations after she died.