Did you feel something special when you first met your future spouse?

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I’m just wondering if when you meet someone (that you later end up with), are you supposed to feel something, like an attraction or a connection, it sounds ridiculous but it’s never this way for me meeting men. If I like them it takes time and has always turned out wrong.
Some of my friends say they only persue a relationship if they feel ‘sparks’ or ‘chemistry’ on a date. Whatever that is.
I don’t know what I’m supposed to feel. Guess that’s why I’m still single.
So what about you lot?
 
I didn’t with my husband. I can’t even p(name removed by moderator)oint the first time we met, we were both part of different but overlapping Christian societies, had lots of mutual friends and went to a lot of the same events. We knew each other as friends for about a year before we started dating.
 
No, I don’t believe in love at first sight. Attraction at first sight might lead to love, but that is about it. I would say most people don’t feel anything special the instant they meet their future spouse.
 
I didn’t feel instantly attracted to my husband when I first met him, because I was dating someone else at the time and thus not really “looking.” But he became very attractive as we got to know each other more.

I have felt attracted to many people that I never dated, though, so I don’t think attraction alone is a useful metric. Especially since some of the guys I was attracted to were not at all suitable boyfriend or husband material. The attraction typically died out pretty quick once I figured that out.
 
I thought she was really cute, and immediately wanted to ask her out. That’s about it though.
 
I think attraction can develop over time when you get to know someone who shows themself to be a good person, the reverse is also true.
 
I don’t know. I think I had a “you just know this is it” feeling, but it’s hard to put into words. The most important thing is not to fret about it. Often the right person comes along when you least expect it.
 
I thought she was beautiful and I definitely felt something special the first time we met. Though at the first time we met in person we had already known each other and been in touch via letters and skype for about a year. So we already knew each other pretty well. Though I knew after the first few days we spent together that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
 
The first time I met my bride, we moved the bed! 😉

:eek:

A friend and her roommate were splitting up for separate apartments and she called upon me to help when her roommate’s father and brother had driven across the state with a van-load of furniture for her roommate’s new apartment, but they were too exhausted to empty the van themselves.

Hence: The first time I met her, we moved the bed. (But no thunderbolts or anything at that time)

I did not meet her again for several months, after which time I commenced pursuing her until she caught me. :rotfl:

:love:
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Yes…I wouldn’t call it “love at first sight”, but I knew from almost the beginning that he was very different from the others I had dated. I knew very early that he was the one I would marry, although I made him work to court me. That was intentional so that I could be sure that he felt the relationship with me was worth the effort. We’ve been married 38 yrs now, so that strategy must have worked for both of us.
 
I’d met him online on a sports forum. We agreed to meet up with a lot of other people we knew, at a soccer match. He walked into the clubhouse and everyone turned and looked at him.

I was hooked. 😃
 
AdamPeter said:
I thought she was beautiful and I definitely felt something special the first time we met. Though at the first time we met in person we had already known each other and been in touch via letters and skype for about a year. So we already knew each other pretty well. Though I knew after the first few days we spent together that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
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I should probably add that we had discussed marriage and our dreams for the future a lot before we finally met. We knew we were both on the same page in terms of faith and what we wanted out of life (Catholic family and kids).

We first met in Riga Airport. I was looking around the terminal all touristy and clueless and she ran up and gave me a huge hug. Since then I don’t think I’ve ever doubted that I wanted to marry her. 🙂
 
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No, I don’t believe in love at first sight. Attraction at first sight might lead to love, but that is about it. I would say most people don’t feel anything special the instant they meet their future spouse.
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From the moment I saw my wife I knew we would marry. Been married 28 years.
 
Know what I felt? A limp fish handshake. LOL. We were in the Air Force and my future wife just traveled 14 hours from home to her new assignment: my (AF)fire house. She was spent from the trip and I walked over to her and introduced myself. I later took her to the mall and dinner to make her feel at home. Our relationship developed soon after that. There was no lightning bolts or choirs of angels at first sight. 😉 She’s been my rock for 29 years.
 
Yes, but not in the “As soon as we saw each other we just knew” kinda way. He sent me a couple of funny messages on a dating site, we met for drinks a few days later. The first hour of our date was so awkward - we didn’t seem to like each other as people, nevermind as romantic partners.

But as we both relaxed the conversation started flowing naturally and we closed the bar. Then we sat outside on the curb laughing and talking until 7am, when he had to leave and go get ready for a full day of work:eek:.

I knew leaving our date that for better or worse, this guy was going to be a special part of my life for a long time, but I didn’t even dare to dream husband.

I was barely 21 and he was just shy of 23, and neither of us was looking for anything serious. But after that night, we were inseparable (still are).
 
Unlike the movies and so forth I didn’t feel anything special when I first met my wife. We were friends and co-workers at the time. I actually encouraged her to date other people and presumed I was the wrong person for her. So much so that I literally toff her not to date me.

Our first few dates were so that she would see why I advised her not to date me and move on. Obviously, she ignored my advice. Lol
 
Blue_Rose said:
I’m just wondering if when you meet someone (that you later end up with), are you supposed to feel something, like an attraction or a connection, it sounds ridiculous but it’s never this way for me meeting men. If I like them it takes time and has always turned out wrong.
Some of my friends say they only persue a relationship if they feel ‘sparks’ or ‘chemistry’ on a date. Whatever that is.
I don’t know what I’m supposed to feel. Guess that’s why I’m still single.
So what about you lot?
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No. The first time I met my husband he asked me out for the next week and I turned him down. He persisted, and I finally said “yes”, but I was afraid he would not show up. But he did, and no it was not love at first sight, but there was an attraction. I continued to see others for a while too, but finally decided just to see only him. One does not always feel those sparks, but if you just can’t stand the person, then don’t lead them on. otherwise give it a try.
 
My husband and I were both involved with other people when we met. So it wasn’t an “instant chemistry” kind of thing, since I wasn’t looking for that with anyone else and neither was he.

However, I did feel instantly comfortable with him. I’m pretty introverted, so that doesn’t happen to me often. I’ve always felt that I can just be myself around him- he is a very likeable, genuine guy. I’ve never felt any “chemistry” (whatever that means) with anyone I didn’t know pretty well first, anyway.
 
Blue_Rose said:
I’m just wondering if when you meet someone (that you later end up with), are you supposed to feel something, like an attraction or a connection, it sounds ridiculous but it’s never this way for me meeting men. If I like them it takes time and has always turned out wrong.
Some of my friends say they only persue a relationship if they feel ‘sparks’ or ‘chemistry’ on a date. Whatever that is.
I don’t know what I’m supposed to feel. Guess that’s why I’m still single.
So what about you lot?
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Nope. I was too busy dating other guys to pay him too much attention. :rotfl:
 
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