Did You Write Your Kid a Napkin Note Today?

[JamalChristophr]

I’m currently single and have no children, but I thought this was a really beautiful and a very meaningful way for a parent to connect with a son or daughter in a profound yet simple way…

This dad started writing little short notes- putting them in her school lunch box- everyday to his daughter when she was in kindergarten beginning with things like “I love you.” and “Have a great day” to things longer and more elaborate, yet still very touching. The dad now has cancer for the fourth time and the odds don’t look good, but he is still writing those notes.

What do you guys think, have you heard of it before? Would you do it with your kids?

Here is a beginning…

I saw this on World Over in an interview with Raymond Arroyo. It’s worth a listen: (starts at 17:45)

youtube.com/watch?v=hvuRVl-PJds

 

[KendraDZ1902]

Considering I was the child on the first day of Kindergarten to tell my mom that she needed to leave because her being there was embarrassing me, I would not have appreciated napkin notes.

In defense of my mother, she was being a total normal parent. Walking in with my school supplies and helping me find my seat, and wanted to hand my teacher my things, like all the other parents. I just was an incredibly independent child and thought I could carry my things in alone.

I don’t have children, so I’m not sure what I would do. No, honestly I probably would never write napkin notes to anyone. Because I wouldn’t want it done to me.

 

[Regina7]

I homeschool, so notes in the lunch box don’t happen

I do sometimes write them a notecard and mail it- who doesn’t like getting personal mail?

 

[jeannetherese]

I wrote “te amo hijita” on my daughter’s lunch bag each day and we had our own secret code. She loved it.

 

[Hoosier_Daddy]

I homeschool, so notes in the lunch box don’t happen

I do sometimes write them a notecard and mail it- who doesn’t like getting personal mail?

We too homeschool. No need for napkin notes when I can hug them and tell them I love them while I feed them their lunches.

 

[pensmama87]

My MIL used to do this for my husband. Not every day, but on days he had a presentation or a big test, or if he’d been having a hard time lately. I don’t know how he felt about it at the time, but now he looks back at that and really appreciates it. He usually makes his own lunch for work now, but sometimes I will make it and put a note in just saying “Hey! I love you!” I send him random texts too with the same message so he can have something to smile about during his work day when he has a chance to look at his phone.

I wouldn’t text my kids at school, but I might put a note in their lunch here and there (we probably won’t homeschool.) I think it’s a nice way to show affection that isn’t super showy or embarrassing for kids.

 

[Convert_in_99]

My mom used to do this for me. I admit sometimes it was embarrassing, but looking back (she is deceased) it is a pleasant and happy memory from a mom that loved me so incredibly much. Thank you for reminding me of this happy memory…that made my day

 

[JamalChristophr]

My mom used to do this for me. I admit sometimes it was embarrassing, but looking back (she is deceased) it is a pleasant and happy memory from a mom that loved me so incredibly much. Thank you for reminding me of this happy memory…that made my day

Yippee, I’m glad it did.

 

[shainski]

I’ve done it occasionally, but not today.

I think it’s a good idea. I should do it more often (but not enough to become trite). Thanks for the reminder.

 

[petitfleur]

I have done it sporadically. Sometimes I would write cheesy jokes. One that all four kids got a kick out of was writing “turn over” on a little card, the other side would say “turn over” and I would ask them how many times they flipped it over. On occasion I put little notes on my older kids pillows. I wouldn’t write note in my teens lunches.

 

[noclevername]

I’m currently single and have no children, but I thought this was a really beautiful and a very meaningful way for a parent to connect with a son or daughter in a profound yet simple way…

This dad started writing little short notes- putting them in her school lunch box- everyday to his daughter when she was in kindergarten beginning with things like “I love you.” and “Have a great day” to things longer and more elaborate, yet still very touching. The dad now has cancer for the fourth time and the odds don’t look good, but he is still writing those notes.

What do you guys think, have you heard of it before? Would you do it with your kids?

Here is a beginning…

I saw this on World Over in an interview with Raymond Arroyo. It’s worth a listen: (starts at 17:45)

youtube.com/watch?v=hvuRVl-PJds

My husband and I have been doing that for the last three years for our niece who we have full custody of. We may not include a note every day but a lot of days we do. The cutest thing is that she saves them because from time-to-time I will find a stack of them in her backpack.

We also leave notes in her desk if we have to go to her classroom for any reason.

 

[LongingSoul]

That sort of thing doesn’t feel right for me. Not saying that it’s not right for those who do do it of course. I think that it is bad for a child to be overly coddled though,

I have an aversion to those facebook status’s that say things like ‘share if you have the best son in the world’ and all the I Love My Children type statements. They come over as more ‘look how wonderful a Mummy I am’ rather than expressions of genuine love.

 

[pensmama87]

That sort of thing doesn’t feel right for me. Not saying that it’s not right for those who do do it of course. I think that it is bad for a child to be overly coddled though,

I have an aversion to those facebook status’s that say things like ‘share if you have the best son in the world’ and all the I Love My Children type statements. They come over as more ‘look how wonderful a Mummy I am’ rather than expressions of genuine love.

I do agree with you about FB. Those statements feel remarkably fake to me and so I pretty much set them to “ignore” as soon as I see them. I also agree with you about children being overly coddled.

But I don’t think the occasional note in a child’s lunch reminding him or her that they are loved and we think about them during the day is overly coddling. I grew up in a home with very little parental affection and I was often left wondering if my parents loved me at all. Small gestures like this can go a long way, I think, if they’re not a “big show.” Who’s going to look at a kid’s napkin? How is that showing off?