Difficult first year as a husband

[Hawthorne]

Well, this may not apply, but I know a couple with the wife physically abusing the husband. Therapy revealed that she had been physically abused as a child, and resented the fact that her husband did not. She felt he did not love her because he was too nice. She abused him, she revealed, because he was softer than her father, who had developed her definition of love. IE, since her husband was not as abusive as her father, and she needed to feel her father loved her, the actions of her husband were not loving. She would attack him to get him to hit her, though he never did.

Maybe the wife in this situation has had some experiences that lead her to believe that a husband who is nice to her has a flaw. It may be the thing that drew her to the cheating husband.