Dilemma with a transgender patient

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pray it for him while he is asleep or while your in another room.
 
Hmm, tough one. This person has been deceived and is in need of the truth but, the truth can be unsettling.

Is there some way to say that we care for and love someone very much and that regardless of the choices they made and what brought them to this point we will cherish and care for them to the end? Then tell our witness story about how we made poor choices coming from our own pride and because of the influence of our culture, that we were lost and now found again by a loving Father. That through The Father sending His Son to show us how to truly live, bending our will and our wants to that of The Father. That we can repent of all of our past decisions and be one again with them. Surely there is a way to do this. You seem so caring, you truly seem like someone who could do this well. You could then ask if they would like you to call a priest or some other clergy, or be baptized in case they have not been. You may be in this job and in this place for this sole reason. Quo Vadis.

Sorry for the added pressure. You and he are in my prayers.
 
Would the resident priest be willing to talk to him? I’m assuming it is a hospital.

If the patient agrees, it may be an excellent way for him to get the answers he needs. Even if not an hospital he would still come I’m sure.
 
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As a healthcare professional you certainly ought to respect her identity preference and not burden her at this time with your own nonmedical views. As others have said, love the person.
 
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You could probably get away with using second person pronouns if it bothers you that much.
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And why would anyone need to use anything else? A nurse wouldn’t need to use he/she when talking to the patient but only when referring to the patient when talking to other hospital staff.
 
What is ‘transgender ideology’? How can an ideology, as distinct from an action, be sinful? if it is possible, who has decided ‘transgender ideology’ is sinful? And why do they say it is? Incidentally, this whole situation arises from the problems caused by languages that use different words for men and women. Many don’t.
 
Pray for him, have a mass said for him, be kind and no need to go sneaking in Sacramentals. Simply do the work of mercy, care for the sick, care for the dying. Be kind to your patient’s partner, regardless of everything else, losing someone you love is very hard. Be encouraging, help them find a grief support group when the time comes.
 
It is a hospital, but when we need a priest we have to call one in. We have two pastors who serve as chaplains, but even then, like I said, everything points to it that he won’t live more than a few days. He can’t really speak at this point aside from mouthing things and at times nodding or shaking his head. He is really a sweet person though and smiles every so often. If anything guys, please pray for him very much.
 
I would never do this. No matter what my patients and I may disagree on my job is to care for them to the best of my ability. I’ve cared for inmates from prison and I’ve cared for a nun. I would not treat them any differently. I don’t want to not care for my patient. I simply didn’t want to offend him or offend God in any way. I came here to ask because I believe that, from past experience, the people on CAF give fairly accurate advice ( keeping to church teaching). Regardless, not caring for a patient because he is transgender is not an option. I became a nurse knowing I would bump into situations like these.

Also, I Cecilia_Dympna this is meant for the person you replied to. Though I want to believe he meant the best by His/her advice.
 
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Pray for this person. Our Lady at Fatima said that many people go to Hell because they have no one to pray for them.
 
You sound like a caring person, and I get where you’re coming from with the anxiety about saying or doing the wrong thing with somebody who is dying.

I wear my miraculous medal at work. Everybody knows what it means and they can draw conclusions that I’m Catholic.
I treat my patients with respect (smiling and eye contact and attentive listening) and keep them as comfortable as possible.
I also will say a decade of the divine mercy chaplet quietly as I do their care, in between conversation.

All this gender ideology feels like a tidal wave or whirlpool sweeping a lot of people into situations for which the rules aren’t very clear and the definitions extremely slippery.

I prayed a decade for your dear patient, and for you.
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This is such a good idea! The decade between cares! Thank you so much for your prayers as well.
 
I would put aside ideology and really respect his needs regardless of how ridiculous they are.

It’s important to understand that gender theory isn’t a theory that argues that the person’s substance is female while the accidents (the body) are male. Gender theory argues that gender is a social construct. That is to say, that people tend to share common traits that are usually associated with their sex (being male and female) but aren’t always. So these traits which are not innate to sex but are purely the cultural things we associate with being a man or a woman are isolated into the word “gender.” Anything actually scientifically proven as being innate to your sex (being male or female) is now strictly categorized as your sex.

Now how many transgenders actually understand it and view it this way is a whole other issue. I tend to think that they see their substance as something distinct from their body. If they’re spiritual, they may even feel that their soul is doesn’t match their body.

Regardless, I’d consider making a big deal about our philosophical differences as something like telling a child “Santa isn’t real.” This would be especially inappropriate if the child were dying, right?
 
Call her by her desired gender, surely. Practice what you are recommending.

Seriously, people, the rule of basic etiquette has always been to use the name and pronouns the person gives you. “Sex changes,” as they were called when I was a kid, have been around for decades now, though people identifying as transgender while forgoing the surgical component seem to be more common nowadays. This isn’t some great new threat. Even if you don’t agree with people doing this, it costs nothing to be polite, and doing otherwise can be deeply hurtful to the other person.
 
You are reflecting the love of God to your patients. Nursing is one of the most noble professions in the world.
 
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Your terminal patient also has a psychotic disorder.
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Is homosexuality a psychotic disorder also?
Though I do believe homophobia is more arguably a neurosis if not psychosis if we wish to go down this unhelpful path…
 
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