disagreement over self-pleasuring

[dangerousdyls]

I brought up the porn issue, not him. He is certainly open about all of this stuff, but he actually had no feelings of guilt surrounding porn usage. That has changed somewhat.

Ah, I see. If he’s open to it, there are some Matt Fradd and Jason Evert youtube videos online, they are great speakers about the issue, maybe that will speak to him

I will pray for you

 

[SusanneT]

I would ask him why he considers it to be essential to his wellbeing. Ask him why he can’t do without, and if necessary, remind him that there was a time when he didn’t need to.

Don’t let him turn it into “you won’t have sex with me so I have to do this instead” because that’s rubbish. Your values deserve to be respected by him, and he shouldn’t be using your values as an excuse to make you feel guilty. Don’t compromise your values for anything.

Lou

Amen to that !