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ellen18
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I have been married for almost 30 years and have never thought of cheating on my husband nor to my knowledge has he.
I used to belong to a Catholic Club when I was in my 20’s and dated some guys who were very nice and respectful=different times, the mid 60’s. One of them was attracted to me and I to him but we both broke up and married other spouses.
I am having a reunion come up at my grammar school which would have nothing to do with this situation nor particular club.However, in searching for members, I came across this person’s name and that of his wife’s. We had all lived in the same town. I called him and addressed the message which I left on his answering machine to he and his wife which simply stated that I had come across his name while looking for other members and wondered how he and his wife were doing and if they wanted to give me a call I left my number. Well, he did call. We caught up on old times, he’s the grandfather of ll children and I have 3 grown children with my husband. We exchanged addresses and it did come up in the conversation that we had had strong feelings for one another but we were very young at the time and obviously had gone on to marry others not seeing nor hearing from one another in 41 years. We said if we could find any of the other members maybe we could all get together for a reunion and our spouses as well.
I told a girlfriend of mine this at lunch last week and she went on to accuse me of doing something very wrong to which she said she did not want to be a confidante to. I was very hurt by her as I had not intention of having any type of relationship with this person. As far as I can see this will probably be the last time this man and I will ever be in contact.
She later wrote me again and said I upset her lunch.
I would like to have some (name removed by moderator)ut into this as I don’t feel I have done anything wrong. I have felt very depressed since she spoke like that to me. Thanks for listening.
Ellen18
I told a friend of mine this
I used to belong to a Catholic Club when I was in my 20’s and dated some guys who were very nice and respectful=different times, the mid 60’s. One of them was attracted to me and I to him but we both broke up and married other spouses.
I am having a reunion come up at my grammar school which would have nothing to do with this situation nor particular club.However, in searching for members, I came across this person’s name and that of his wife’s. We had all lived in the same town. I called him and addressed the message which I left on his answering machine to he and his wife which simply stated that I had come across his name while looking for other members and wondered how he and his wife were doing and if they wanted to give me a call I left my number. Well, he did call. We caught up on old times, he’s the grandfather of ll children and I have 3 grown children with my husband. We exchanged addresses and it did come up in the conversation that we had had strong feelings for one another but we were very young at the time and obviously had gone on to marry others not seeing nor hearing from one another in 41 years. We said if we could find any of the other members maybe we could all get together for a reunion and our spouses as well.
I told a girlfriend of mine this at lunch last week and she went on to accuse me of doing something very wrong to which she said she did not want to be a confidante to. I was very hurt by her as I had not intention of having any type of relationship with this person. As far as I can see this will probably be the last time this man and I will ever be in contact.
She later wrote me again and said I upset her lunch.
I would like to have some (name removed by moderator)ut into this as I don’t feel I have done anything wrong. I have felt very depressed since she spoke like that to me. Thanks for listening.
Ellen18
I told a friend of mine this
I would say like the others–maybe she has been ‘the victim’ of someone taking a conversation like you had and then it went in another direction. Sometimes, when people react in ways that make utterly no sense to me–I ask them–may I ask why you are reacting this way? Usually, they will tell you. I might try that…because maybe you can help her get over something that she has been harboring, which spouts out when she is faced with conversations like this. Just a thought. I don’t think you did anything wrong, as you indicated to your husband that you’d be calling this person. If you hadn’t done that–I might have different opinions on it, but since your husband is fine with it–why not?