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A lot of this will sound rather crude; let me apologise for it beforehand. The entire situation is very sordid, and I won’t bother polishing my words here so that you can understand this fully and give me suitable advice.
I have a nephew who’s four years younger than me and he and I are very close. He’s goodlooking, was a model and an actor on a reality show (it wasn’t in the US). He has had severe issues with his personality, and the word a–hole is frequently applied to him. As the person closest to him, I can say that word is fitting. On the reality show where he was, he was voted out because of his personality; he became so hated that our family was afraid he would be booed off the street. For years I had been telling him about his personality problems and he was always in denial; the TV show he was on was popular, so when he went on, pretty much the whole country thought the same thing I was telling him for years, so he got in touch with reality. Although he changed for the better and now knows how to handle himself in front of others, he still has that a–hole side in him.
He also wants to always be on top. He insists that he was so very popular (he wasn’t); he actually once told me that he’s the best looking person in his country (he’s not even the best looking person in his family); he kept trying to measure his height against mine because he wanted to be able to brag he was taller than me, even though he isn’t. Once, he was playing billiards with his dad; his dad kept beating him, and he kept insisting on playing another game, wasn’t satisfied until he won just so he can brag that he won. He always wants to be on top, even if it’s based on lies.
As a Christian, it’s hard to say that someone is not redeemable. But I look at my nephew and I have serious doubts that he can. It’s not for the lack of God’s grace, but it’s just that my nephew is that egotistical, can be that awful. His parents tell me they saw he was like that even since he was a small child. At times were things were difficult for me when I had to choose to do the right thing but ended up suffering for it, he would tell me “Nice guys finish last.” It is not beneath him to step on other people just to prop himself up.
He’s can be very difficult and obnoxious. It’s hard to be patient with him and even his parents want to throw him out of the house as soon as he gets out of college, and it’s understandably so. He’s like a caricature rather than a real human being.
In college, he got into a relationship with a girl. She has wealthy grandparents and a wealthy uncle; her immediate family is also wealthy but not as wealthy as her other relatives, though she tries to make people think they are. It’s about as logical as me saying that I own what my aunt owns.
My nephew is obviously just with her because of the status that he wants. She’s just with him because, to be perfectly frank, she cannot do any better. I’m really sorry to say it this way, but she is not pretty. At all.
My nephew verbally insists that he isn’t with her for money, and he’s a very good liar. But I tested him and found that he’s lying. I did this a lot; my suspicions were repeatedly confirmed that he’s just a gold digger. The rest of the family and other onlookers think so too. It’s very apparent.
It is also apparent to me that his girlfriend is aware that my nephew is like that. I can see how she lies to make herself seem to worldly. It’s happened a lot. She does it just to convince him more to stick with her. She’s just that needy. What’s also sad is that when I expose her lies to him, he always tries to convince himself that it’s justified. For example, on her 18th birthday, she claimed that she spent a very large amount on the party. I went there and it would amaze me if it even cost 1/10 of what she claimed it did. I brought that up to my nephew, and he was just in denial, wanting to believe the lie rather than believing the truth that he can see. I had to be more blunt about it; I said, “What made it cost that much? Were the chairs made out of solid gold? Was the MC really the Queen of England dressed in men’s clothing? Did Wolfgang Puck make the meals himself?” I mean, she said she was going to arrive at the party in a stretch limo; she didn’t. And he saw that for himself but just would make up an excuse in his mind. He wants to believe the lie.
She also bosses him around and acts like she’s so powerful because that’s her way of convincing him that she’s so big. She buys him gifts and makes it as if she spends so much on him, although I’ve bought him gifts that cost more. And she always makes such a big deal about what she gets him. I think he’s so easily fooled by it because his parents aren’t very nurturing and they deprive their sons a lot and spoil their youngest daughter instead; my nephew didn’t get much from them, so when he does get stuff from his girlfriend, it’s easy to impress him by it.
Basically this relationship is that he’s selling himself and she’s buying.
The problem is that it doesn’t look like this awful relationship is going to end. They’ve been together for almost two years, my nephew has already weasled himself into her family and makes it as if they’re engaged. It’s very disgusting.
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I have a nephew who’s four years younger than me and he and I are very close. He’s goodlooking, was a model and an actor on a reality show (it wasn’t in the US). He has had severe issues with his personality, and the word a–hole is frequently applied to him. As the person closest to him, I can say that word is fitting. On the reality show where he was, he was voted out because of his personality; he became so hated that our family was afraid he would be booed off the street. For years I had been telling him about his personality problems and he was always in denial; the TV show he was on was popular, so when he went on, pretty much the whole country thought the same thing I was telling him for years, so he got in touch with reality. Although he changed for the better and now knows how to handle himself in front of others, he still has that a–hole side in him.
He also wants to always be on top. He insists that he was so very popular (he wasn’t); he actually once told me that he’s the best looking person in his country (he’s not even the best looking person in his family); he kept trying to measure his height against mine because he wanted to be able to brag he was taller than me, even though he isn’t. Once, he was playing billiards with his dad; his dad kept beating him, and he kept insisting on playing another game, wasn’t satisfied until he won just so he can brag that he won. He always wants to be on top, even if it’s based on lies.
As a Christian, it’s hard to say that someone is not redeemable. But I look at my nephew and I have serious doubts that he can. It’s not for the lack of God’s grace, but it’s just that my nephew is that egotistical, can be that awful. His parents tell me they saw he was like that even since he was a small child. At times were things were difficult for me when I had to choose to do the right thing but ended up suffering for it, he would tell me “Nice guys finish last.” It is not beneath him to step on other people just to prop himself up.
He’s can be very difficult and obnoxious. It’s hard to be patient with him and even his parents want to throw him out of the house as soon as he gets out of college, and it’s understandably so. He’s like a caricature rather than a real human being.
In college, he got into a relationship with a girl. She has wealthy grandparents and a wealthy uncle; her immediate family is also wealthy but not as wealthy as her other relatives, though she tries to make people think they are. It’s about as logical as me saying that I own what my aunt owns.
My nephew is obviously just with her because of the status that he wants. She’s just with him because, to be perfectly frank, she cannot do any better. I’m really sorry to say it this way, but she is not pretty. At all.
My nephew verbally insists that he isn’t with her for money, and he’s a very good liar. But I tested him and found that he’s lying. I did this a lot; my suspicions were repeatedly confirmed that he’s just a gold digger. The rest of the family and other onlookers think so too. It’s very apparent.
It is also apparent to me that his girlfriend is aware that my nephew is like that. I can see how she lies to make herself seem to worldly. It’s happened a lot. She does it just to convince him more to stick with her. She’s just that needy. What’s also sad is that when I expose her lies to him, he always tries to convince himself that it’s justified. For example, on her 18th birthday, she claimed that she spent a very large amount on the party. I went there and it would amaze me if it even cost 1/10 of what she claimed it did. I brought that up to my nephew, and he was just in denial, wanting to believe the lie rather than believing the truth that he can see. I had to be more blunt about it; I said, “What made it cost that much? Were the chairs made out of solid gold? Was the MC really the Queen of England dressed in men’s clothing? Did Wolfgang Puck make the meals himself?” I mean, she said she was going to arrive at the party in a stretch limo; she didn’t. And he saw that for himself but just would make up an excuse in his mind. He wants to believe the lie.
She also bosses him around and acts like she’s so powerful because that’s her way of convincing him that she’s so big. She buys him gifts and makes it as if she spends so much on him, although I’ve bought him gifts that cost more. And she always makes such a big deal about what she gets him. I think he’s so easily fooled by it because his parents aren’t very nurturing and they deprive their sons a lot and spoil their youngest daughter instead; my nephew didn’t get much from them, so when he does get stuff from his girlfriend, it’s easy to impress him by it.
Basically this relationship is that he’s selling himself and she’s buying.
The problem is that it doesn’t look like this awful relationship is going to end. They’ve been together for almost two years, my nephew has already weasled himself into her family and makes it as if they’re engaged. It’s very disgusting.
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