Self-disciplined was widely encouraged when I was growing up. If you just look at the Ten Commandments, you have a good starting point. Learn the value of saving money, work and living a life free of public scandal: no living with your girlfriend, cussing and swearing or being sexually provocative. No fighting except in self-defense. Control and consider what you say before you say it, be polite, express thanks and be approachable. When you have a task to do at home or on the job, always do your best or get help. Be a good neighbor. Don’t lie, cheat or steal. Avoid people who lie, cheat and steal and who you know for a fact do illegal things. Be polite to them, just don’t join in.
Have a goal, learn how to get there, and put in the time and effort needed.
Food for thought about the relationship between living a disciplined / an ascetic life and holiness:
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Few words have suffered a worse fate than the word asceticism.** It makes us think of someone who is strict, stern, and so excessively and pointlessly austere that he is unable to appreciate the delights of creation. But asceticism did once have a positive meaning in the Christian tradition, and I should like to contribute to the word’s rehabilitation by considering the place of asceticism in what C. S. Lewis called mere Christianity, for** it is my thesis that the merest of Christians must be ascetic. The ascetical life may have been perfected in the sands of the monastic desert, but it is born in the waters of the baptismal font, and a Christian without asceticism is like a pancake without flour**.*…[continued]
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