Discouraged by others for being pro-life

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If you are a gentle, non-combative soul, it may be best for you to stay out of the abortion conflicts and instead, get involved with pro-life organizations that provide practical loving help for women (pregnant and not pregnant) and children.

This is actually one of the most powerful arguments in favor of a pro-life point of view–when we can point out men and women who care not just for an unborn child, but who also dig in and HELP women and children who are already born!

A violently pro-choice person has to shut up fast when they hear about a person who is volunteering at a women’s shelter or who is donating time/money to a children’s center in a poor section of a city, because chances are good that the pro-choice person is NOT doing any of that good stuff.

You can still gently say, “I’m opposed to abortion”, but leave the debate to those who have the true “warrior personality” and who have the ability to keep their emotions out of it and stick with “just the facts.” My husband is one of these types–he will always zero in on the facts, and leave his debate opponents sputtering and unable to defend themselves. And yet, he does this in a soft voice and without using hurtful language. I think it’s because he is so logical and because he has a good memory for statistics. Many of us tend to forget all the apologetics that we have studied, and respond to pro-choicers with emotional arguments that cave in and leave us crying and the pro-choicer chortling.

So please consider staying out of the arguments and simply doing good and speak ing with kindness.
 
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How I would respond:
  1. It IS my fight, because the lives of humans are being thrown away for the convenience of women.
  2. It’s not what you’re doing with your uterus, it’s what you’re doing with the people growing inside of them.
  3. Oh? Affecting the lives of women in bad ways? Last time I checked, women aren’t being slaughtered at 1 million+ annually. Sorry, but about 3/4 of the time women kill their children in utero it’s because they don’t like responsibility, don’t care about human life, and are lazy, self-centered crybabies.
Unfriend me again if you feel the need to.
 
PBWY said:
Stay off Facebook during times like this, my friend.
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This.
Stay off of Facebook if it disturbs your peace.
We don’t find anxiety by accident. You choose it.

You can also choose to do something productive.

If you care about the unborn, go to the clinic and keep prayerful vigil, and offer assistance to those mothers in need of it. Do it peacefully, and you will have peace.
 
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This guy is really good.
Unlike so much banter, he understands the opposing view, and invites the opposing view to understand the truth.
The truth will win out in reasonable people.
 
Be realistic, Facebook memes today is what bumper stickers were generations ago. Neither will win souls.

Christ never told us to debate, He commanded we love people and let our good works shine. So, let your joy and love win people.
 
You will be persecuted at the MET and elsewhere. The truth hurts.
 
Well, no offence but no one likes conflict at first and not liking others to be upset with you is a sign of false humility and/or a lack of humility. Sorry to put it bluntly but it is a common thing many of us suffer from, myself included. The good news is that being humiliated is a very good way to overcome it, so it seems to me God is handing you your sanctification. You are standing up for what you believe in and what you know to be good, true and just as supported by the 4th commandment as well as the one Jesus gave us himself to love one another as I have loved you. He also told us that we would be hated in his name as the world hated him, so it seems to me, you are doing just as he told us to do. Remember he did not say we would be successful, only to try. When he sent the disciples out to tell people the truth he said to them that if they weren’t welcomed they were to shake the dust from their shoes and move on. In those times that meant, to show they didnt mind or care and move on to the next town. So for you, dont answer those who are getting out of order, hide them or block them and move on. Perhaps try another media or another place to spread your message. Don’t listen to those who tell you, you dont have a right to speak, you have a heartbeat and so you have a right to speak out. Many men speak, we pro-lifers think everyone gets a chance to speak out. God made you, you matter just as much as me and my uterus. I never had any children so maybe they’d say I dont matter either huh? God loved us enough to create us, so we all matter. tell them to read ps 139.
 
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Part of me wants to be a pro-life voice though. I know I can’t monitor every single person’s views. But I almost feel obligated to try to speak as reasonable as I can. You know?
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This is admirable. We need more people to be willing to speak out against abortion with facts, logic, and reason. However, that person needs to have pretty thick skin because the message is not well received. I am very vocal on social media about many thing, especially abortion.

I would say keep at it and learn to not take it personal. Most pro abortion folks have very twisted values and have listened to the rhetoric of leaders who market baby killing as “health care”. Continue to be reasonable and always remember their attacks on you are far more telling about their character than yours.
 
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Some are saying I shouldn’t be saying anything because I don’t have a uterus – because I’m a man. etc.
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Does that mean that the court shouldn’t have spoken on the issue in 1973?

Don’t let it bother you. Maybe read Trent Horn’s persuasive pro life.

Being pro life is a rational stance. Pro choice people can disagree with it, and both sides can have logical debate. But if they are just trying to shut you down then they are just being lame.

I gave up social media because there are a group of people who are frankly anti-Catholic and specifically not interested in debate. These were people who were friends, at least I thought. But after Covington they showed themselves to be bigots. So after trying to debate just using facts (as much as I am possible, I’m not a good debater) I just cashed out. I hate conflict too, and I wanted to see if we could at least come to a point of agreeing to disagree. Nope. So I’m out. I’m honestly happier now.

I see more and more the ad hominem attacks that are used just to stifle debate. ‘You’re a ____ - phobe!’ or ‘Check your privelege!’ are just ways to shut people up.
 
It’s tempting to at least clear up ignorant posts, at least for sake of other people who may read them. It’s good to be an example of a calm, collected pro-life person. I try to be.

That’s one related reason I’m not a fan of the “unfriend” or “block” strategy. I don’t think that does anyone any good. How will we ever learn to dialogue if we stick in our own camps? How will we spread the truth to people who need it?
 
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It’s hard not to. The lack of science literacy in this country is appalling. For what we spend on education, grown men and women should at least know the difference between and gamete and an zygote or embryo . . . and stop with the comments that pro-lifers think masturbation is murder.
 
The age we live in is an age that people choose to use mediums like Facebook and others to anonymously chastise and berate others for their feelings about the issues of our times.
We have a President who daily mocks and belittles those who he does not like.
We are God’s people. None of us are prefect. All be can do is try to live the life that God wants us to live. And to pray for our brothers as sisters, especially those who put us down.
God bless you!
 
JoeShlabotnik said:
The age we live in is an age that people choose to use mediums like Facebook and others to anonymously chastise and berate others for their feelings about the issues of our times.
We have a President who daily mocks and belittles those who he does not like.
We are God’s people. None of us are prefect. All be can do is try to live the life that God wants us to live. And to pray for our brothers as sisters, especially those who put us down.
God bless you!
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Yeah. Unfortunately he doesn’t really contribute positively to the us vs them polarized discourse that’s out there today.
 
Bluebright said:
Well, no offence but no one likes conflict at first and not liking others to be upset with you is a sign of false humility and/or a lack of humility. Sorry to put it bluntly but it is a common thing many of us suffer from, myself included. The good news is that being humiliated is a very good way to overcome it, so it seems to me God is handing you your sanctification.
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This is a really good point. A very hard point for me at least, but extremely good.

To get help (God’s grace) in dealing with it, here is a wonderful, helpful, and challenging prayer to pray and meditate on.

The Litany of Humility

O Jesus! meek and humble of heart, Hear me.

From the desire of being esteemed, Deliver me, Jesus.
From the desire of being loved…
From the desire of being extolled …
From the desire of being honored …
From the desire of being praised …
From the desire of being preferred to others…
From the desire of being consulted …
From the desire of being approved …

From the fear of being humiliated …
From the fear of being despised…
From the fear of suffering rebukes …
From the fear of being calumniated …
From the fear of being forgotten …
From the fear of being ridiculed …
From the fear of being wronged …
From the fear of being suspected …

That others may be loved more than I,
Jesus, grant me the grace to desire it.

That others may be esteemed more than I …
That, in the opinion of the world,
others may increase and I may decrease …
That others may be chosen and I set aside …
That others may be praised and I unnoticed …
That others may be preferred to me in everything…
That others may become holier than I, provided that I may become as holy as I should…
 
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