Discovery or Masturbation

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I put my hand up as someone who was deeply hurt at being called a troll, more than once.
 
underacloud said:
You don’t think the OP was offended?

Did you see this…

Comparing posting on a forum to the security properly appropriate to banking is a stretch; it’s simply not a relevant comparison.

I’ll draw your attention to this comment in the catechism:

We should always begin with the presumption that someone is *not *a troll. Any other approach goes against this principle above. One does not have to prove one’s sincerity before being taken at face value…good Catholics should assume sincerity until such an interpretation is no longer possible.

Consider these scanarios:

a) We assume someone is a troll and accuse them. If they are not a troll, they are greatly offended and possibly avoid coming to this forum again. That’s a pretty poor outcome and not in keeping with our faith.

b) We assume they are not a troll and answer their question. Even if they turn out to be a troll, other people may be interested in the answers given to the situation and nothing is lost by having the ensuing discussion. eg I have children who have not reached puberty yet and so I’m very interested in people’s approaches to the OP’s problem, and the general challenge of dealing with such issues.
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Hi again. I stand by my other two posts which were charitable in tone while making a relevant point.

Not all suppositions fall under the realm of rash judgment.

Perhaps it’s better to just move on and let it go.

Pax Christi. 👋
 
Jennifoo said:
Hi again. I stand by my other two posts which were charitable in tone while making a relevant point.

Not all suppositions fall under the realm of rash judgment.

Perhaps it’s better to just move on and let it go.

Pax Christi. 👋
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Charitable in tone, but not in content IMO. Supposing someone is a troll, without adequate reason (and I see none here), when they are not is making a rash judgement. Someone having to prove they are not a troll goes against the catechism section I posted…but that’s my opinion and I’ll leave it there.

I too stand by everything I’ve said.

Peace.
 
Ur son is so so lucky to have a mum that really cares about these things!!

My parents avoided telling me about this subject, out of embarrassment probably. So i didnt know any better and just kept on doing it. In school, other fellas seemed to have made the same “discovery” so i didnt question the morality…and it was several years before i learned it was sinful, by that point i couldnt stop!!

Now it’s nearly 10 years ago since my “discovery” and i cant stop…although depression from a relationship dissolvement sorta helped me become addicted to masturbation.

I wish my parents had put me through 5-10 minutes of a REALLY embarrassing talk…it could have saved me a LOT of struggling with sin if it had been stamped out early.

Dont mention that you have found “evidence”…just talk to him about what happens to boys bodies when they get older, and that while some people say it’s ok, it’s not ok with God.

Ps I think your incredibly brave and are doing the right thing.
 
underacloud said:
Charitable in tone, but not in content IMO. Supposing someone is a troll, without adequate reason (and I see none here), when they are not is making a rash judgement. Someone having to prove they are not a troll goes against the catechism section I posted…but that’s my opinion and I’ll leave it there.

I too stand by everything I’ve said.

Peace.
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Wow. Just wow.
 
JackieMom said:
That is awful and I am really sorry that has been your experience. Having said that, no need to terrify this mother with “worst case scenarios.” Even most people who do not see a problem with masturbating do not get to that point. Yes, she needs to discuss this topic with her son, and yes, she needs to share what our faith teaches about it - but she does not need to have visions of obsessive-compulsive, life-destroying masturbation addiction at this point in his life.

As a single mom, the OP really does walk a fine line. It would be pretty inappropriate to stage an all-out campaign to make sure her son never had any privacy, or if she continually grilled him about his private habits. Making a HUGE deal out of this could totally backfire, giving him body/sexuality shame and making him excessively secretive or even more drawn to the taboo. The goal is to open up an appropriate line of conversation that does not overstep into the creep territory.
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You can go to Hell for masturbation. That is pretty serious to me…what do you think ??
 
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