Whew! That African woman in the discussion didn’t pull any punches!
The American woman was talking about freedom of conscience within the Church. I don’t see what her problem is. Of course we can never abrogate freedom of choice. The question is, however, whether our choices relate to, respect, and cede to Church teaching. Freedom to serve: that’s the point.
One can choose abortion, but that does not force the Church to change Her teaching on abortion.