Dislike person now cause he agnostic

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I am Catholic, converted from Lutheran, have Lifelong friends ,50, years, always claimed to be Catholic, lives far away ,they never never went to Mass , did not Baptise children ,wife died moved in with another woman already. and now claims to be agnostic, I told him he can’t wish Merry Christmas anymore, just happy holidays,
SO… Don’t really want to associate with him anymore, I’m uncomfortable around people who don’t believe in Jesus,
Question: am I bad person for wanting to disassociate from him ???
 
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People change, move away, or die. Life goes on. You do not need to remain friends with everyone, just be kind. Drift away and that’s all. No need to argue about things at this point.
 
To be honest I don’t think you’ll win him back into the fold with that attitude towards him. Some people drop away from the faith and come back years later with a much stronger faith (even Peter denied ℭhrist).
Charitable dialogue is much more likely to yield fruit than just shunning someone. Is there a particular reason he didn’t baptise children etc.?
 
Pray for him. Pray for all doubters and unbelievers. God still loves them and wants them back.
 
Lazy and did not attend just skipped kids and grandkids all atheist now
 
It’s sad, but all you can do is say a prayer for him, every night maybe but now and then would be good I think.

Especially in advent, a season of charity and goodwill towards our neighbour.
 
Thank you and I like your answer, sort of my plan anyways , My wife got me into Catholic Church when we married, and I Love it all !! GREATEST, thing that ever happened to me , wish I could have attended Catholic grade and high school like she did, love listening to her in Latin Mass she barely uses the book !!! Thank you God Bless you and Merry Christmas !!
 
Im sorry for your troubles, people sometimes change for the better or for the worst. Pray for him to have his faith restored and to Saint John the Baptist for the baptizing of his relatives who are not. This is not your cross to carry and your burden should be lite. But it is not just until you have given the weaknesses you see to the Saints. We must all do our part in prayer.
 
A very uncharitable response. How do you know this for certain?

I am happy that you found the Church to be all that you needed and then some, but that is not everyone’s experience. Maybe your friend had issues you know nothing about.

We are called to love one another. If you have grown apart as friends, so be it, but to be so hostile that you tell him he can’t even say Merry Christmas to you is a little much.
 
We cannot get on in life disassociating ourselves from non believers. We are called to allow God to shine through us to others. God is present in the face and actions of a true living saintly person. They help sanctify the day.
 
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, I told him he can’t wish Merry Christmas anymore, just happy holidays,
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This is a really unkind and untrue thing to say to someone who is supposed to be friend. He most certainly can say “Merry Christmas” to whomever he wishes, even if it is in the middle of July.

Choose your firendships based on what works for you, I guess. Personally, I enjoy friendships with a diverse group of people, diverse in many ways. I don’t need friends who are going to agree with me on everything. If that is what you are looking for, then you will be doing your “friend” a favor by moving on.
 
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I’m uncomfortable around people who don’t believe in Jesus,
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A good job you don’t live in Europe or the UK as you could end up quite a lonely person.

Ask yourself, what would Jesus do? Do you think he’d refuse to associate with someone who was his friend and became an agnostic? Jesus eat with tax-collectors and sinners. I personally don’t think we are meant to withdraw into a comfortable circle of fellow-Christians, I think we are meamt to be out there mixing, socialising and being friends with atheists, agnostics and non-believers if all sorts. How can we evangelise by our deeds unless we do that?
 
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,wife died moved in with another woman already.
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When you say “already” what do you mean? The thing is as we get older we tend to not pursue relationships in the same way as when we’re younger. My dad became close to a woman almost a year after my mom died, and my dad loved my mom dearly. Sometimes it happens.
and now claims to be agnostic, I told him he can’t wish Merry Christmas anymore, just happy holidays,
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Since you said that you don’t like to be around people who don’t believe in Jesus, so I’m guessing you may not happen to have any Jewish friends; but if you did you would certainly wish him a Happy Hanukkah even if you didn’t celebrate it yourself, right? He can wish you a Merry Christmas even if he as an agnostic either no longer celebrates it or celebrates it differently from you.
SO… Don’t really want to associate with him anymore, I’m uncomfortable around people who don’t believe in Jesus,
Question: am I bad person for wanting to disassociate from him ???
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Never feel that you have to associate with someone that you don’t want to solely because of previous history. People move on and drift apart. Just don’t play it off like he’s a monster now.

The thing is there are times we may not be in lockstep with someone but we still maintain a relationship. It could be due to political or religious differences, one person not liking the other person’s overuse of commas, or people’s interests have changed. Sometimes it’s worth the effort to push through and maintain a friendship, but only if you want to.
 
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Lazy and did not attend just skipped kids and grandkids all atheist now
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I don’t think someone becomes agnostic or atheist just because they are “lazy” and don’t want to go to church. Perhaps you don’t know the full story of what’s going on with him…
 
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