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BettyBoop416
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Yes, 80 octane. At least it was still red.Born with avgas in his veins
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otjm
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Children come in all sorts of sizes and temperaments. Heaven help the parents with children with ADHD; squirrely doesnât begin to describe them.
On the other hand, going to Mass (time-wise) is not a whole lot different than piling them all into the car and going shopping - something that is at least a weekly necessity, and often will take equally as long, if not longer.
So to a certain extent, until the kids are born, no one knows how easy or hard it will be to get them organized and to Mass. And part of that decision will be how important Mass is. If Mass is a priority, then the OP will find a way to make it work. If it is not a priority, there are plenty of excuses that will prevent attending regularly.
As another poster noted, there are parishes which have some form of child care/nursery/crying room or other set up to help. And not to make to fine a point of it, but most parishes would have people who may not have young children, who would be delighted to act as âgrandparentsâ or âuncles and auntsâ to help out with maintaining a lower level of chaos. Some people who attend parishes, never meet their fellow parishioners and form friendships; others become fast friends.
Being a professional pilot has its downside, and that is the schedule. They are schedules, however, which allow family time; if anyone thinks the pilotâs schedule is hard on the family, ask someone who is a Reservist or Guard member, and who has rotated overseas several times, for 6 months to a year at a stint. It is all a matter of perspective.
On the other hand, going to Mass (time-wise) is not a whole lot different than piling them all into the car and going shopping - something that is at least a weekly necessity, and often will take equally as long, if not longer.
So to a certain extent, until the kids are born, no one knows how easy or hard it will be to get them organized and to Mass. And part of that decision will be how important Mass is. If Mass is a priority, then the OP will find a way to make it work. If it is not a priority, there are plenty of excuses that will prevent attending regularly.
As another poster noted, there are parishes which have some form of child care/nursery/crying room or other set up to help. And not to make to fine a point of it, but most parishes would have people who may not have young children, who would be delighted to act as âgrandparentsâ or âuncles and auntsâ to help out with maintaining a lower level of chaos. Some people who attend parishes, never meet their fellow parishioners and form friendships; others become fast friends.
Being a professional pilot has its downside, and that is the schedule. They are schedules, however, which allow family time; if anyone thinks the pilotâs schedule is hard on the family, ask someone who is a Reservist or Guard member, and who has rotated overseas several times, for 6 months to a year at a stint. It is all a matter of perspective.
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brigid12
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As OraLabora has posted, you are automatically given a grave reason to not go to Sunday Mass with care of infants (children under 7) according to the catechism. The children donât incur the obligation to assist at Sunday Mass until they are at the age of reason - 7.
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felsguy
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It strikes me as a bit of a stretch to interpret the Catechism to mean that having to care for an infant is âautomatically a grave reason to not go to Sunday Mass.â Obviously there would be situations when parents would be so excused but not every parent and not every Sunday.
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pianistclare
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Exactly. I am reminded of the many parents that make every effort to bring the entire family to church. Itâs a wonderful thing and an excellent example and blessing to everyone, particularly young people who are discerning marriage.
Sometimes, it is impossibleâŚbaby sick. dad working, etc. But for the most part, I have seen many a family big and small coming to Mass and they are most welcome and appreciated by the other parishioners. The priests love to see young families. Itâs a beautiful thing.
God bless. all families, big and small, young and old.
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Joe_5859
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The others are correct. Daily Mass during the week does not replace the Sunday obligation. But if a just reason dispenses one from the Sunday obligation, going during the week is a good spiritual practice.
Your husbandâs dispensation for his work would not be a âfamily dispensationâ that applies to all of you. Going to Mass with him on some other day of the week would be great. But you would still need to go on Sunday.
I know you are planning ahead and thinking of what things will be like with a slew of kids on your arms, but I think you will just need to take it one step at a time. If there is a point in your life where it truly seems impossible for you to make it work without your husband there to help, then talk to your priest then about what your options are. But you may be surprised at what you can handle once you are at that point in your life.
I would recommend against proactively shifting your familyâs Mass time to another day of the week and then just not going on Sunday when you are by yourself. Planning ahead is good. but in certain things, you just have to wait and see how it goes. You may find that God has other plans.
Your husbandâs dispensation for his work would not be a âfamily dispensationâ that applies to all of you. Going to Mass with him on some other day of the week would be great. But you would still need to go on Sunday.
I know you are planning ahead and thinking of what things will be like with a slew of kids on your arms, but I think you will just need to take it one step at a time. If there is a point in your life where it truly seems impossible for you to make it work without your husband there to help, then talk to your priest then about what your options are. But you may be surprised at what you can handle once you are at that point in your life.
I would recommend against proactively shifting your familyâs Mass time to another day of the week and then just not going on Sunday when you are by yourself. Planning ahead is good. but in certain things, you just have to wait and see how it goes. You may find that God has other plans.
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DavidJEastman
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Hello laurenrachelle,
My name is Dave and Iâm a devout Catholic and also happen to be a professional pilot. Speaking from experience, 21 years flying in the Air Force, 9 years flying commercially, and three kids, itâs not always easy. I think others have given some great answers regarding âthe rules,â but Iâd like to add, âTrust God.â Like OTJM said, you donât know what God has in store for you, but if you truly trust God, He will bring you peace in this place and give you the strength you need.
I donât know how flexible your husbandâs schedule is, but even when I was a very junior first officer I was usually able to bid a schedule that had me home in time for Sunday evening Mass, or the Sat vigil if my trip started on Sunday. It wasnât always possible, but even when I wasnât home on the weekend my wife still managed to get the family to Mass, even before she became Catholic.
If you and/or your husband have any specific questions about balancing a career in commercial aviation while trying to juggle a family while remaining commited to you faith, please donât hesitate to send me a PM and Iâll help any way I can.
God Bless,
Dave
My name is Dave and Iâm a devout Catholic and also happen to be a professional pilot. Speaking from experience, 21 years flying in the Air Force, 9 years flying commercially, and three kids, itâs not always easy. I think others have given some great answers regarding âthe rules,â but Iâd like to add, âTrust God.â Like OTJM said, you donât know what God has in store for you, but if you truly trust God, He will bring you peace in this place and give you the strength you need.
I donât know how flexible your husbandâs schedule is, but even when I was a very junior first officer I was usually able to bid a schedule that had me home in time for Sunday evening Mass, or the Sat vigil if my trip started on Sunday. It wasnât always possible, but even when I wasnât home on the weekend my wife still managed to get the family to Mass, even before she became Catholic.
If you and/or your husband have any specific questions about balancing a career in commercial aviation while trying to juggle a family while remaining commited to you faith, please donât hesitate to send me a PM and Iâll help any way I can.
God Bless,
Dave
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