To me this is akin to when people insist that poker is gambling (strictly a game of chance). Poker players however see it as a skill game. And they’re right. There’s a reason the same people continually make it to the World Series of Poker every year, and it’s not because they are the luckiest people in the world. However, people who are not good at poker, who do not have that skill, often remain adamant that it is gambling.
Similarly, to assume that everyone who changes a song on their iPod or sends a quick text, is “endangering people’s lives” is the same as saying every poker player is “risking his family’s well being”. You are saying that because you don’t have those skills, you assume nobody else does either. But just because you can’t do something without doing it poorly, doesn’t mean than no one should be allowed to do it. If you can’t drink without getting drunk, don’t outlaw liquor, don’t drink. If you aren’t skilled at poker, don’t outlaw poker, don’t play. If you can’t handle an iPod while driving, don’t outlaw it, don’t do it yourself.
And yes, there are I’m sure accidents from people changing their iPod, just like there are people who lose their grocery money playing poker. And in both those cases, it is sinful, because they obviously don’t have the skill to do it responsibly, safely, and without risk. So for those people, it is sinful, and they shouldn’t do it. But to therefore say everyone who works an iPod while driving is an evil person risking the lives of others, is as stupid as saying professional poker players are sinning for being so reckless as to gamble.