Distribution of Communion at Wedding

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I attended a wedding on Saturday, and was surprised by the way Holy Communion was distributed. First of all, let me set the stage.

I have known the bride for many years. She is a devout Catholic, and an EMHC. The groom is a devout member of the Eastern Orthodox church. They were married in the Catholic church, by a priest that I know, and have always respected.

When I went to receive Communion, I was surprised to see all three of them, as a team, distributing Communion. The groom stood in the middle, holding the bowl of Hosts. The priest, on the left, whould say “The body of Christ” as each person approached. Then the bride would hand the host to the recipient.

Am I being too picky? Is this really acceptable?

As a side note, prior to this, the bride and groom stood behind the altar, with the priest, during the Eucharistic prayer, and Consecration.
 
Michael_Welter said:
I attended a wedding on Saturday, and was surprised by the way Holy Communion was distributed. First of all, let me set the stage.

I have known the bride for many years. She is a devout Catholic, and an EMHC. The groom is a devout member of the Eastern Orthodox church. They were married in the Catholic church, by a priest that I know, and have always respected.

When I went to receive Communion, I was surprised to see all three of them, as a team, distributing Communion. The groom stood in the middle, holding the bowl of Hosts. The priest, on the left, whould say “The body of Christ” as each person approached. Then the bride would hand the host to the recipient.

Am I being too picky? Is this really acceptable?

As a side note, prior to this, the bride and groom stood behind the altar, with the priest, during the Eucharistic prayer, and Consecration.
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No, you are not being too picky! This is not acceptable at all. It sounds as if the bride and groom were pretending that they were the host and hostess at the reception and feeding the guests!

I’m not sure what was worse - the “team” giving Communion or the “team” at the altar for the Consecration! Yuck!

Why can’t priests be faithful! If they were, we wouldn’t have all this fiddling about with the liturgy!
 
Jesus, Mary and Joseph . . . .

When is it ever gonna stop?

I don’t know about you, but I’m getting so WORN OUT over these things. It’s always something new. Anymore, I feel as if I’m entering a battle each time I attend Mass. I’m getting so cynical and I know that’s not right. It’s just so hard to look the other way.

Father in heaven, help us all.
 
OY VEY! I have never heard of that and I pray I never see it :nope: .
 
Well at least everyone in attendance was not invited to receive Communion.
 
Just when you thought you heard everything…:rolleyes: abuse at its best.
 
Do priests do things like this to be rebellious?

It never ceases to amaze me.
 
decn2b said:
Do priests do things like this to be rebellious?
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I don’t think so. I believe that most priests truly believe that they have the authority to do these things, and they are trying to make the Liturgy fresh, so people don’t get bored with the same old thing. Unfortunately, they don’t realize that the Liturgy has been perfected by the Church, and God will make it fresh in our hearts, if we remain faithful to His Church.
 
:yup: Oh yah, I have seen that done before…

…at an Episcopal wedding, that is! 😉
 
Please! Tell me they did **not **wrap the Hosts in tulle, and tie ribbons around it to match the bride’s motif!!! What you’ve described sounds similar to an Italian wedding, where the bride passes out little bags of confetti (jordan almonds).

Abuse, abuse, abuse!!!
 
I have never seen that. At my wedding, the priest asked, “Catholics may now come up to receive”. And the “Catholics” did. The priest gave communion. I think the OP maybe should ask the bride and groom why they did that? Pulling your hair out and pressing panic buttons is not going to solve anything. Go through the chain of command and find out why this was done.

As for the poster (jordan almonds). I have been to many Italian weddings, and the bride didn’t pass out anything during the ceremony. Actually, the jordan almonds in the tulle were in a basket on each table at the reception. We couldn’t use confetti as we walked out of the church because it was messy, we used birdseed to feed the birds, some of my friends used mini bubble bottles. Rice isn’t used much anymore because it’s not good for the birds.
 
Rice, bird seed, confetti, nothing may be tossed at our parish, not because it hurts the birds or is messy…because it’s dangerous for people walking…we have steps outside of our doors and people lose traction and have fallen.

Blowing bubbles is permitted…we even once had a butterfly release (admittedly it was tragic, half the butterflies dispensed in the tiny boxes were dead) and balloons are out of the question since we are in the flight path of a major airport and would have to receive FCC permission to time the release…don’t want planes getting caught by a mylar balloon in it’s engine.

What happened with a hearty congratulations and greetings to the bride and groom and a prayer of thanksgiving that Jesus was invited to the wedding and has accepted the convenant of marriage between these two people???
 
Julianna said:
I have never seen that. At my wedding, the priest asked, “Catholics may now come up to receive”. And the “Catholics” did. The priest gave communion. I think the OP maybe should ask the bride and groom why they did that? Pulling your hair out and pressing panic buttons is not going to solve anything. Go through the chain of command and find out why this was done.

As for the poster (jordan almonds). I have been to many Italian weddings, and the bride didn’t pass out anything during the ceremony. Actually, the jordan almonds in the tulle were in a basket on each table at the reception. We couldn’t use confetti as we walked out of the church because it was messy, we used birdseed to feed the birds, some of my friends used mini bubble bottles. Rice isn’t used much anymore because it’s not good for the birds.
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Having an Italian surname, I assure you I did not mean “at the ceremony”. I meant at the reception. These days, some brides will do anything they think they can do to make the ceremony “more meaningful”, which usually means their own way. That is what the OP’s description sounds like: A way to make Holy Communion “more meaningful” as if it is not meaningful unto Himself. I was being ironically facetious. I am sorry you did not see the irony in my post, and for that I apologize.

I made no mention of “confetti” as in little bits of shredded paper. “Confetti” is the Italian name for jordan almonds. candyfavorites.com/shop/catalog_jordan_almond_history.asp
 
OutinChgoburbs said:
Having an Italian surname, I assure you I did not mean “at the ceremony”. I meant at the reception. These days, some brides will do anything they think they can do to make the ceremony “more meaningful”, which usually means their own way. That is what the OP’s description sounds like: A way to make Holy Communion “more meaningful” as if it is not meaningful unto Himself. I was being ironically facetious. I am sorry you did not see the irony in my post, and for that I apologize.

I made no mention of “confetti” as in little bits of shredded paper. “Confetti” is the Italian name for jordan almonds. candyfavorites.com/shop/catalog_jordan_almond_history.asp
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wow burbs, I learned something today. It wasn’t called that where I am from. They were just “favors” on the table, with a little tag, with the bride and grooms name, and date on a small tag. No, I wouldn’t change the wedding mass at all. I didn’t even have to say “obey”…our priest said, we don’t do that anymore. 1981.

Thanks for straightening me out on the confetti. I’ll have to remember that.
 
…and from the “other side of the fence”…was there a second, Orthodox ceremony? There’s a big difference between East & West in this sacrament, in that the Orthodox (and Eastern Catholic) minister of the sacrament is the priest alone…in the RC faith it is the couple directly. It is doubtful that the Orthodox groom would remain in good standing under the conditions described. (Further, there are prohibitions against Orthodox partaking of the Catholic Eucharist…on the Orthodox side, not the Catholic…so his “helping” as part of the “team” is just…wrong!)

Just when you think you’ve heard it all… 😦
 
Julianna said:
wow burbs, I learned something today. It wasn’t called that where I am from. They were just “favors” on the table, with a little tag, with the bride and grooms name, and date on a small tag. No, I wouldn’t change the wedding mass at all. I didn’t even have to say “obey”…our priest said, we don’t do that anymore. 1981.

Thanks for straightening me out on the confetti. I’ll have to remember that.
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Confetti. A beautiful, tasty industry. 😃 If your teeth don’t fall out from the sugar coating.
 
When enough people leave the local parishes and start driving several miles to the nearest TLM Indult location maybe these priests and their local bishop will get the message.

No wonder the liberals are afraid, so afraid of a general indult.

Ken
 
USCGwife said:
…and from the “other side of the fence”…was there a second, Orthodox ceremony?
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Yes, as a matter of fact, there was. The RC wedding was on Saturday, and the Eastern wedding on Sunday. The couple had decided not to consumate their marriage until after both weddings, to honor both faiths. Too bad they didn’t choose to honor the Eucharist.
 
Michael_Welter said:
Yes, as a matter of fact, there was. The RC wedding was on Saturday, and the Eastern wedding on Sunday. The couple had decided not to consumate their marriage until after both weddings, to honor both faiths. Too bad they didn’t choose to honor the Eucharist.
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That I believe also violates the Latin Canon Law, which specifically states there is not to be two separate wedding ceremonies I believe.
 
Br.Rich_SFO said:
That I believe also violates the Latin Canon Law, which specifically states there is not to be two separate wedding ceremonies I believe.
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*Can. 1127 *
§3. It is forbidden to have another religious celebration of the same marriage to give or renew matrimonial consent before or after the canonical celebration according to the norm of §1. Likewise, there is not to be a religious celebration in which the Catholic who is assisting and a non-Catholic minister together, using their own rites, ask for the consent of the parties.
vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P41.HTM
 
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