Divorce and Communion

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Can a divorced and remarried woman take communion if they were not married in the Catholic church?

Julie
 
aithorette said:
Can a divorced and remarried woman take communion if they were not married in the Catholic church?

Julie
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No.

Talk to your priest and discuss beginning the nullity process as soon as possible to examine your first marriage.
 
Wait a minute…more information needs to be had here, methinks. If it was not a sacramental marriage, i.e. a city-hall justice of the peace marriage, that’s different.

Second the idea of consulting a Priest on the matter. 👍
 
ABSOLUTELY!

Talk to a priest immediately. A kind priest who is a loving shepherd.

The last thing you need today is a cold hard “NO!” or a lecture from a curmudgeonly old priest.
 
I agree. Talk with a priest. For the second marriage to be sacramental, the first marriage has to be anulled and the second one be recognized in the church. I don’t think you have to have a second ceremony, just have it blessed. I think one during a mass would be nice. It wouldn’t take long. But, as has already been said, talk with a priest.
 
Neither marriage was in the Catholic Church. I’m not a Catholic yet, but thinking seriously of converting.

Thank you everyone. Appreciate all of your (name removed by moderator)ut.

Julie
 
aithorette said:
Neither marriage was in the Catholic Church. I’m not a Catholic yet, but thinking seriously of converting.

Thank you everyone. Appreciate all of your (name removed by moderator)ut.

Julie
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Go talk to your local parish priest. There are many variables here and each case is unique.
 
aithorette said:
Neither marriage was in the Catholic Church. I’m not a Catholic yet, but thinking seriously of converting.

Thank you everyone. Appreciate all of your (name removed by moderator)ut.

Julie
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Many parishes have marriage ministries to deal with these issues, the ministry is usually a volunteer based person or group who work under the priest. If the priest is unavailable, you are nervous about meeting him, or he or the office seem to be sending your call elsewhere, their objective is to unit you with one of these (extra ordinary = not ordained) volunteers. It is hard to imagine you will be okayed as is because you say you were married before. The typical issue is your first attempt at marriage was not properly prepared and thus never achieved the real standards of a sacramental marriage. Now is a good time to start the process because you can not complete conversion and until that issue is resolved.
 
The standards of a sacramental marriage were definitely not achieved.

Thank you.

Julie
 
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It really doesn’t matter. In the eyes of the Church, all marriages are presumed valid until proven to be not so.
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This is very correct, and the good thing is that many marriage annulments can be done quickly. You can indeed start the conversion process by entering an RCIA program in the parish you will be attending, however, you wont be able to complete everything until the annulment is done.
 
Thank you.

I feel a bit sub-standard for the Church because of my previous marriages. I didn’t understand that marriage was a sacrament. I am willing to go through the annullment process or whatever they think that I need to do (short of rejecting my current husband). I did marry him for life. Do you think that the Church will take that into consideration. Is it possible that they will say that I cannot convert at all?

A little bit confused.

Julie
 
aithorette said:
Thank you.

I feel a bit sub-standard for the Church because of my previous marriages. I didn’t understand that marriage was a sacrament. I am willing to go through the annullment process or whatever they think that I need to do (short of rejecting my current husband). I did marry him for life. Do you think that the Church will take that into consideration. Is it possible that they will say that I cannot convert at all?

A little bit confused.

Julie
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Please don’t be turned off…if you get a negative response, get a second opinion…or a third if necessary. If the Church took me She will take anyone.
 
Hey…it worked for Rudy Guiliani this weekend…why not anyone else?
 
Really?

My dad was divorced and remarried in the Catholic church. Not sure how he did that, based on everything that I’ve been reading.
My past is checkered with many bad things – drug addiction, divorce, etc. But four years ago my husband saved my life and got me into recovery for my addiction. (We were engaged at the time). God helped me to stay with my commitment to remain drug-free. Now I am in college to become an alcohol and drug counselor and I sponsor 10 women in a 12-step group. I seek to draw even closer to God and to develop my spiritual and religious life to the fullest. I need to be perfectly honest about my past sins. I am afraid, though, that the church will not want me.

Julie
 
aithorette said:
Really?

My dad was divorced and remarried in the Catholic church. Not sure how he did that, based on everything that I’ve been reading.
My past is checkered with many bad things – drug addiction, divorce, etc. But four years ago my husband saved my life and got me into recovery for my addiction. (We were engaged at the time). God helped me to stay with my commitment to remain drug-free. Now I am in college to become an alcohol and drug counselor and I sponsor 10 women in a 12-step group. I seek to draw even closer to God and to develop my spiritual and religious life to the fullest. I need to be perfectly honest about my past sins. I am afraid, though, that the church will not want me.

Julie
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Julie, never fear. The Church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum of saints. It’s absolutely chock-full of people with pasts just like yours and mine.

The Church is not like some denominations that shun people when they make mistakes. God gives us chances to learn from and correct our mistakes. He can even miraculously use them to draw us closer to Him! 🙂

Talk to a priest. If you run into someone rude or mean (some of us are sinner types, remember) go talk to someone else.

You’re in my prayers.
 
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