So I just found out that there is an affair, and my husband who has always had faith in God, along with the affair think that its Gods will that he divorce me and be with her. He feels like these emotions he is having is true love and this person is who he was meant to br with. He says he is still praying and this is honestly what he believes. I realize there were problems in our marriage, but I thought he knew you don’t give up. Can I ask for prayers for my husband, for making the right decision and for his soul- I think the devil is really doing his work here and my husband is choosing to believe this is Gods work. Please pray for my family.
I’m so sorry. I had a feeling. My ex husband left my toddler, 13 year old and myself for an affair he was having for years unbeknownst to me. There was no saving it. I found out and it was too late… I did go to counseling, however, a newly single fully custodial single parent. It has been SO hard! He still lives with her, unmarried.
We have been separated for 4.5 years, and divorce was finalized for 2 of those years. I have dug really deep, grown in my faith, and am currently in the annulment process. But I won’t lie to you, it’s HARD!
In fact, I’m having a really hard time with the annulment process. Due to the Diocese move, my case is still on hold, waiting for another 3-4 months before it will be processed by a judge. I’m feeling so strangled by the process. My divorce was final in 2011, and I have not wanted to date. It did take me a long time to complete the paperwork and I found it very cathartic. I continue to pray for discernment and the strength to carry out God’s Will for my life. Actually, I have not wanted to date in the last 4.5 years since the break up of our marriage. I have been content to provide for my children and explore my own growth, spiritually.
Recently (last few months), I have been longing more and more for a relationship. I have wanted more lately to date and find a life partner. I feel that I’ve got it on my heart to be in a family and not single, and have such a loss that I cannot explain. In the past over the last couple years, I have filled it with food, and then wine, but for the last year I have been sober. And I am getting more physically fit as well. This leads me to realizing the truth, which is that I’m longing for a marriage relationship and I fear greatly that the annulment may not go through and the waiting is killing me.
I know I must remain patient. But I am beginning to feel resentful that my ex is living with the girlfriend he left his family for all these past 4.5 years without concern, and I, the responsible custodial and lonely parent is left to suffer all for going through the proper channels required by the church. I am having a hard time with this frankly…
Praying for you!
