Where is this “we” coming from, i.e., do you speak on behalf of all Eastern Catholics, i.e., I find it hard to believe that this behaviour of which you speak of is that prevalent?
For those of you who think that mistreatment of Eastern Catholics is merely a thing of the past, well, it’s not. As far as it not being all that prevalent, well that’s relative. Given how small we are, it’s probably easy to think that It’s not that big of a deal, but given how much I’ve been exposed to in less than 8 years, I suggest it’s more of a problem than what some realize, or perhaps care to admit.
Personally, my wife and I have had to deal with a Latin priest refusing to commune our son, even though such refusal goes against the canons of the Latin Church. My wife has been told by a Latin Catholic that our understanding of theosis is blasphemous. That same person also called our church a cult.
I’ve heard criticisms from Latin Catholics of our tradition of chrismating and communing infants. On numerous occasions, I’ve deal with things such as Latin Catholics calling our teaching of the uncreated energies of God heresy. I’ve heard attacks on us because we don’t incorporate Latin devotional traditions, such as Eucharistic Adoration, veneration of the Sacred Heart and the Immaculate Heart of Mary, Divine Mercy Sunday, the Rosary, Stations of the Cross, veneration of various western Marian apparitions, etc.
An Eastern Catholic priest who is a friend of mine was once refused permission by a Latin Catholic bishop to perform a baptism in a Latin parish for no good reason, other than that bishop was hostile to having a Byzantine parish within the boundaries of his diocese—after all, there was already a Maronite parish in his diocese, no need for a Byzantine parish too. In the United States, we still deal with Latin Catholic pressure not to ordain married men to the presbyterate. This pressure has come within the last couple of years from as high up as the Prefect of the Congregation for the Oriental Churches
(a position that is held by a Latin Catholic, BTW).
It’s hard to forget the mistreatment of the past when the same old problems continue today. No, I am not bitter, and it is not the case that mistreatment of Eastern Catholics by some Latin Catholics is the focus of how I think about Latin Catholics, and it certainly is not the case that I hate Latin Catholics. I do, however, refuse to pretend that these problems aren’t really. I also refuse to accept the notion that they don’t really matter, since they don’t reflect the position of the Pope, or because Catholic TV and radio programs promote the Eastern Catholic Churches.