Divorce Trial on Holy Thursday?

[OutinChgoburbs]

I think we need to stress that civil divorce puts an end to cohabitation but not to marriage. Civil divorce is no end of sacramental marriage. In popular understanding, civil divorce cuts the marriages but leaves an impediment to future marriages. In fact, however, the sacrament stays in place and the persons involved are still married. They are not merely single persons unable to marry anyone.

OT, but unless and until one seeks and is granted adecree of nullity…

…But the question of the OP is, should he ask for a continuance due to Holy Thursday.

 

[chevalier]

OT, but unless and until one seeks and is granted adecree of nullity…

Of course, but if there’s no valid marriage, then there’s no divorce in any sense more than that of the civil law either - on the religious side the matter is solved by the nullity decree. So in that case also the divorce only ends the civil marriage. My point is that civil divorce takes a very prominent place in our consciousness, while its real significance isn’t as big - it doesn’t even make anyone an ex in the proper sense. I think I simply wanted to stress it strongly that a civil divorce doesn’t end a religious marriage, that the people are not each married in some abstract way that makes them off limits to others, but they’re still married sacramentally - provided the marriage is valid.

…But the question of the OP is, should he ask for a continuance due to Holy Thursday.

Would be a good idea, but there’s no obligation. I’d refer to what the other posters have said, especially about uniting with Christ in suffering.

 

[proudnifi]

I don’t think the OP is wrong whether he asks for a continuance or not. His position is clear (doesn’t want to divorce) and apparently so is hers (she does). I doubt a week will make much difference. God will be with him regardless and as another poster noted, perhaps he can use this awful time as a way to unite with Christ in suffering during Holy Week. I am so sorry this has happened.

 

[MAIT]

Or…

You can really endure Holy Week united with Christ in a way many never get to share it. He was Love personified, scorned and rejected by those He loved. And Holy Thursday was the ultimate commemoration of the miscarriage of justice and the persecution of the innocent through a farcical legal proceeding. You fit right in there, my friend. Do this in memory of Me, He said.

It’s your week to walk the Via Dolorosa with Christ. You are being crucified in a way you never thought you would be. Your wife has chosen Barabbas.

It’s a good time to contemplate how our laws are as wrong as ever… the law favors the sinner and the person who rejects Love. Things haven’t changed in 2,000 years.

Remember the silence of Christ before Pilate. There are some people with whom you cannot discuss Truth, because they will not even agree there is any such thing, much less what it is exactly.

Go, get it over with. Easter Sunday will come soon enough for you. Good luck. Been there, done that. My xh picked Easter weekend to walk out the first time. I feel your pain.

Oh, man…dilemna dilemna now. I swear there have been things in the past year that are ridiculous “signs” about faith. Whether or not this was a date assigned by the court…or within a range of dates given by my wife to her attorney that would be convenient for her to attend…this divorce trial is set for Holy Thursday. Before even knowing the date…or thinking of the significance of what happened on this particular day for Christ-silence was going to be my “sign” of my ultimate detestment for this proceeding. I was going to make the judge aware that I was not being rude by not speaking one word throughout the trial…I was going to look at my wife if and when she spoke (especially about whether or not the whatevers of marriage have broken to the point of being irreconsilable…trying to supress a fake cough of “”"“BS”""" or lie—just kidding), and other than that I was going to keep my head bowed.

So I guess if it get moved or not—I will feel ok about either option. Thank you all very much for helping me get to that realization. Thanks for the Rosary prayers—I will keep you all in mind during mine…and if you have a few to spare–toss them the way of my wife, my marriage, and me.
God Bless.

 

[lizaanne]

I’m so sorry you are having to go through this. Liberanosamalo puts an amazing spin on the situation. What a wonderful insight I would not have considered.

I will keep you in my prayers.

~Liza

 

[dulcissima]

I’m so sorry you are having to go through this. Liberanosamalo puts an amazing spin on the situation. What a wonderful insight I would not have considered.

I will keep you in my prayers.

~Liza

yeah, she’s pretty amazing sometimes…