Divorced & Abandoned after 30 Years

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**Heyas Kaylynn,
I was there with you this morning while saying the Rosary for you.

Yeah, you are an “intolerant” person. When someone doesn’t have a reason for something, it’s always good to throw the “intolerant” label out, very modern. :rolleyes:
Tell me, was he ALWAYS so tolerant of people and everything the whole time you were married ? Or did this just suddenly appear when he decided he “needed” to feel younger and suddenly he became Mr. Social Justice ? He is a dime a dozen, just another unfaithful husband who wanted out of his marriage.

If he REALLY cared about tolerant, he would be tolerant of who you are and of keeping his marriage vows. It’s a joke and a sham, he had to come up with something, lame as it is…
But then, I guess he really WAS the tolerant one of the family, he tolerated running around behind your back being unfaithful quite well. :rolleyes:.

If he would have taken responsibility for his wanting the divorce, then I would have believed him, but to dump THAT label on you as a reason to get out of a long marriage, it’s phony and bogus. Don’t cry for him, you will be better off without him tied to you. You need to be free to breathe, to be yourself and to grow. God has something MUCH better for you.

I’m so sorry you had to go through this, but it’s time to move on. Learn what you can from this, but don’t let the little voices keep blaming YOU for the divorce and that it was all your fault. This was totally his doing but he doesn’t want to take the responsibility for it. Just let it go Kaylynn, just let it all go…

I’ll keep you in my prayers Kiddo, and remember, you WILL be fine. 👍**
 
Dear Kaylynn
You are in my thoughts and prayers and I have been praying for you and thinking of you all day.I have been with you in spirit and send you warmest (((Hugs))) .You are so brave and have gone through so much…I am so proud of you my friend xo
Lots of love Teresa xxx
God bless you

Dear Lord please be with our dear Friend Kaylynn through the proceedings Today and grant her extra strength and confidence.Please guide and direct all the decision makers that Your will be done.We pray for a favourable outcome for Kaylynn.Thankyou Lord for hearing our prayers Amen

Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
tuscany - thank you for your stirring vote of confidence! you are the best!!! I just returned home, and told the Lord whatever you give me will be fine. I do feel my
lawyer sold me short in permanent alimony. However, the bright side is that in less than
ten days I will be $170,000.00 to the plus due to a 401K split. This will at least let me put a roof over my dog and me. The judge forced the sale of the house, so I will need to vacate by Sept. 1. My head is swimming with all the numbers and legal speak.

I can say praise be to God a Judgment will entered, and I believe my court appearance
days are over. It will be such a relief to separate myself from such pain. It took a terrible
toll - I pray it might lessen my purgatory time? I am so, so grateful for the solid support
day after day. God is good. I need a few hours to gather my thoughts. Have a wonderful
Memorial weekend.

kaylynn7800
 
tb crawford - you are more solid than brick. Everyone should have a tremendous person
like you on their side. As you can see by my answer to Tuscany, the verdict was a mixed bag. However, it is all but over. I am still standing by the grace of God and the
many blessings asked for by CAF members! I never liked courthouses, and this has really left an indelible mark. But, push on - I will. There are street people wondering where there next meal will come from. So who can complain? thank you, thank you,
my sweetie.

kaylynn7800
 
Kaylynn I am so relieved for you that an amount of money is coming that will provide a home for you and your dog.I know there is still stress and worry ahead to contend with but at least you know you can get the security of your own home and God will continue to bring you through all this.
You are so gracious and humble…bless your dear heart. xoxo

Prayers continue for you…
God bless you
Love Teresa xo
 
tbcrawford - thank you for the big vote of confidence! You continually lighten my load and
make my path straighter. Your advice is important to me. I do not know many people
with your upbeat, optimistic attitude. I just love it, and it’s so good for me through all
these changes. Bless you for everything you are and do for me.

your faithful friend,

kaylynn7800
 
Dear kaylynn,

I am glad to hear that you will get half of the 401K, and hopefully other money from the sale of the house, although that means that you must move. At least the day you were dreading is now over, and you can go on with the rest of your life.

You will remain in my prayers.
 
kaylynn7800 said:
tbcrawford - thank you for the big vote of confidence! You continually lighten my load and
make my path straighter. Your advice is important to me. I do not know many people
with your upbeat, optimistic attitude. I just love it, and it’s so good for me through all
these changes. Bless you for everything you are and do for me.

your faithful friend,

kaylynn7800
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(((Hugs))) love and prayers continue for you dear Kaylynn xo
God bless you

Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
The Real Juliane and tbcrawford: Thank you for your continued support, prayers and
encouragement. Today I played the whole tape back in my head–the ending came so
quickly. My sister said she felt the attorney sold me short, but on the other hand who ever comes out unscathed and a winner from a situation like this? No one… My sister’s
a lapsed Catholic. No sense arguing the point. What never occurred to her is that none of us achieves true bliss in this life forever. We are working on earth for the best conceivable day when we will all hold hands in heaven and say: our struggles are over
friends, now we live to praise God everyday! So you are supporting me today, but this is
gaining you everlasting reward in heaven! Remarkable people on this website, take heart,
your reward for service is great and reward is at hand. God bless one and all.

kaylynn7800
 
(((Hugs))) love and prayers to you Kaylynn xo
God bless you

Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
tbcrawford - Good morning, sweet pea! my constant prayer partner. I stayed up late last
night previewing rental homes, short sales, foreclosures in the area. I am encouraged. I
think I not only found somethings in my budget on line, but I think by 90 days this can be
kick started. Since the day of the trial, Larry has been emailing me (of his own volition).
and that has been most shocking so maybe we can call a detente in time?. I do not want all this avarice between us. I actually think we can keep the lines of communication open. It is a start-- that is all I need. I am sacristan for our 5:00 pm Sunday Mass. We consider it the “last call Mass for all the folks who go to the beach on Sunday”. I will hold my good CAF friends in my thoughts and prayers as you have all done for me week
after week. Let me know what issues you may be confronting that I may return the many
favors.

Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spirit, AS IT WAS IN THE BEGINNING, is now and ever shall world without end.
Amen.

kaylynn7800
 
kaylynn7800 said:
tbcrawford - Good morning, sweet pea! my constant prayer partner. I stayed up late last
night previewing rental homes, short sales, foreclosures in the area. I am encouraged. I
think I not only found somethings in my budget on line, but I think by 90 days this can be
kick started. Since the day of the trial, Larry has been emailing me (of his own volition).
and that has been most shocking so maybe we can call a detente in time?. I do not want all this avarice between us. I actually think we can keep the lines of communication open. It is a start-- that is all I need. I am sacristan for our 5:00 pm Sunday Mass. We consider it the “last call Mass for all the folks who go to the beach on Sunday”. I will hold my good CAF friends in my thoughts and prayers as you have all done for me week
after week. Let me know what issues you may be confronting that I may return the many
favors.

Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spirit, AS IT WAS IN THE BEGINNING, is now and ever shall world without end.
Amen.

kaylynn7800
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Dear Kaylynn this is such positive news!! 🙂 I hope you manage to secure a home very soon and eventually that you and Larry may have polite business communications!
I wish you a calm peaceful weekend my sweet friend 🙂
Thankyou for your thoughts and prayers for all if us.
May God bless you always xo
 
kaylynn, I’m so sorry. My prayers are with you. I go to an infidelity support group sometimes, where we have a few members who were married 30 and 35 years and more. It’s so hard on them. I’ll be praying.
 
Kaylynn, whatever you think the outcome may be or may not be you may want to discern on putting your case to the tribunal once the divorce is final. This will at least let you know where you stand with the Church and there will be nothing hanging over your head. One of the worst things that could happen is for five years from now for him to enter a case and you to have to answer all of those questions all over again. I would recommend taking your case to the Church, allowing Her to decide in Her infinite wisdom either way, and allowing it to be done. This way there will be no more doors left open as you continue your walk with God in your own healing in life.
 
tbcrawford; holyrood; and joan of arc2008 - thank you for your understanding and support.
Joan, we (my pastor) and I will wait one year from the decree and certainly take this to the Miami Archdiocese. Father has warned me this his most recent case of 25 years was denied. He does not know if my 30 years will work for me or against me. As you say and I so agree, it does not matter, I want Holy Mother Church to know some of the
things that affected intimacy in the marriage were beyond my control. You cannot force
anyone to do anything against their will. However, it is a big extenuating circumstance that is unique to this marriage.and may have been an impediment from day one. In my mind, it is and was with certainty. I guess the canon lawyers in the Marriage Tribunal will
have some answers for me. I have already advised my estranged spouse that I intend to
proceed in this fashion. God bless you one and all. You are “living” instruments in my life. Could or would I ever forget you? NO. However, I can reciprocate - I am remembering you vividly day by day.

Oh, Sacrament most holy, Oh, Sacrament Divine; all praise and all thanksgiving be
every moment thine.

kaylynn7800
 
Holy Mother, please intercede for us.
Hold the sorrowful, strengthen the fearful,
give aid to all needing help or healing,
assist those who are sick, in pain or suffering,
be with those needing peace, console the lonely,
comfort the lost or hopeless, guard the unborn,
pray for those who are dying or who have died,
soften those with hardened hearts,
enlighten those who do not yet see truth,
help us be brave enough to let our hurt and anger go,
show us the way to do the right thing,
protect those who are in danger, and guide us from every evil;
may all who keep your sacred commemoration
experience the might of your assistance.
Amen.

Kaylynn,
I don’t know if you are aware of the fact that when you become old enough to collect Social Security,
since you were married at least 10 years, you can collect Social Security
on your ex-husband’s work record. Even if he remarries, you are still entitled
to collect on his earnings. So there will be another source of income for you down the road. 👍
 
tuscany - You always remember many optimistic things for me!!! Yes. I did hear that
about Social Security. And, he will turn 62 next year. I will have to refresh my memory
about finances. I made a huge mistake when I put all those responsibilities on him, and
renigged on financial know-how. I have to bring myself up to speed on a lot of things. t
Thank you for starting my week on a hopeful note. I do not need a lot to make me and the dog happy. We just need something private and clean. Lovely prayer, I will put these
concerns in God’s hands today.

kaylynn7800
 
I may not post daily, but you are prayed for daily. 😃

Holy Mother, please intercede for us.
Hold the sorrowful, strengthen the fearful,
give aid to all needing help or healing,
assist those who are sick, in pain or suffering,
be with those needing peace, console the lonely,
comfort the lost or hopeless, guard the unborn,
pray for those who are dying or who have died,
soften those with hardened hearts,
enlighten those who do not yet see truth,
help us be brave enough to let our hurt and anger go,
show us the way to do the right thing,
protect those who are in danger, and guide us from every evil;
may all who keep your sacred commemoration
experience the might of your assistance.
Amen.
 
tuscany - I know that. I know you prayer warriors, continue to pray long and hard for
many of the same people over and over. When I sometimes get a positive feeling that
sticks in my head for a min. or two. I know that little bump “up” is someone calling my
name to mind, and offering my intentions up to the Lord. It’s such a marvelous gift we get.
I never fail to marvel at the shelf life of prayers. When everything tangible is gone, there
are still the prayers wafting upward. Like trails of incense lifting upward at Benediction
time…

kaylynn7800
 
Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me Amen
 
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