Do catholics always feel guilty about sex?

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Andy_42 said:
Hi

I read somewhere that even when catholics are married, they still feel guilty every time they have sex. Is this true?

I’m none catholic dating a catholic and not having a healthy sex life would ruin the relationship for me.

Thanks
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You are not having a healthy sex life if you are having premarital sex. You are not respecting, protecting and loving a woman if you engage in sex with her while she is not your wife. Are you ready to have children or are you going to ask her to abort them? What is she cant have sex for a while after giving birth… you gonna go do a prostitute?
Yes… I am alarmed… I dont think you are respecting my Catholic sister… keep your pants on man or stay away from her. What a Catholic woman needs is self respect and a man who has heroic love. not some looser who cant control himself 😦
I’m sure she would be pleased to know you would leave if she said she wanted to wait with sex till you are married… in fact I think you should tell her that … dont withhold such interesting information.

😦 Sex before marriage is USING another person for selfish gratification without being willing to take responsibilty and really do what is best for the other person… as Christians we believe in total self giving… not partial and selfish …
If you truly love her you will stop this behaviour.

😦
 
agapewolf said:
lol

I’m sorry, I just had to point this out…it’s like misspelling “misspell” (sp?) 🙂

Your zeal for correcting spelling, yet you made a boo boo yourself.

I understand your sentiment and agree. Just thought we could all laugh.
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Huh?

What did I misspell? Rather, how did I make a “boo boo?”

I am usually not the spelling police, but this guy has referred to himself as NONE-Catholic in nearly every post. I am just saying it’s NON-Catholic. Entirely different words here (and therefor is annoying):

none
1 |nən|
pronoun
not any : none of you want to work | don’t use any more water, or there’ll be none left for me.
• no person; no one : none could match her looks.
adverb ( none the) [with comparative ]
by no amount; not at all : it is made none the easier by the differences in approach.

non-
prefix
1 not doing; not involved with : nonaggression | nonrecognition.
2 not of the kind or class described : nonbeliever | nonconformist.
• also forming nouns used attributively (such as nonunion in nonunion miners).
3 not of the importance implied : nonissue.
4 a lack of : nonsense.
5 (added to adverbs) not in the way described : nonuniformly.
6 (added to verbs to form adjectives) not causing or requiring : nonskid | noniron.
7 expressing a neutral negative sense when a corresponding form beginning with in- or un- has a special connotation (such as nonhuman compared with inhuman).
ORIGIN from Latin non ‘not.’

Who knows, maybe his use of none-Catholic is just another subtle hint of bigotry that he holds for us. 🤷
 
KCtheMommy said:
Huh?

What did I misspell? Rather, how did I make a “boo boo?”

I am usually not the spelling police, but this guy has referred to himself as NONE-Catholic in nearly every post. I am just saying it’s NON-Catholic. Entirely different words here (and therefor is annoying):

none
1 |nən|
pronoun
not any : none of you want to work | don’t use any more water, or there’ll be none left for me.
• no person; no one : none could match her looks.
adverb ( none the) [with comparative ]
by no amount; not at all : it is made none the easier by the differences in approach.

non-
prefix
1 not doing; not involved with : nonaggression | nonrecognition.
2 not of the kind or class described : nonbeliever | nonconformist.
• also forming nouns used attributively (such as nonunion in nonunion miners).
3 not of the importance implied : nonissue.
4 a lack of : nonsense.
5 (added to adverbs) not in the way described : nonuniformly.
6 (added to verbs to form adjectives) not causing or requiring : nonskid | noniron.
7 expressing a neutral negative sense when a corresponding form beginning with in- or un- has a special connotation (such as nonhuman compared with inhuman).
ORIGIN from Latin non ‘not.’

Who knows, maybe his use of none-Catholic is just another subtle hint of bigotry that he holds for us. 🤷
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oh please don’t take offense, I was just kidding around. you did not spell “baiting” right. Thats all.

I understand what you are saying and share the aggravation. i was just making a joke. I did it mostly because of your signature.
 
I can honestly say I have never felt guilty about having sex with my dh.
He just laughed at the entire notion, so I guess he feels the same.
 
agapewolf said:
oh please don’t take offense, I was just kidding around. you did not spell “baiting” right. Thats all.

I understand what you are saying and share the aggravation. i was just making a joke. I did it mostly because of your signature.
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Oh I forgot the “I”???

Well bully on me. I didn’t even see it the second time I looked! Hahaha

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The secular world sees guilt as a sign of “inhibitions” or “hangups.” They tend to think Catholics should see a psychotherapist to be “cured” from guilt. They never think that guilt is a gift from God to tell us that we are doing something seriously wrong and putting our immortal souls in danger. It’s a silly stereotype to think Catholics loathe married sex. Married sex is a proper expression of the love between man and wife. If you are taking sex out of that context - between husband and wife, a loving act open to life - then there is a place for guilt.

Would you still marry your girlfriend if she had a serious accident tomorrow and was physically unable to make love to you? If the answer is no then I think it would be best if you let her go so she could find someone who is unselfish enough to answer “yes, absolutely!”
 
ChristinaM said:
The secular world sees guilt as a sign of “inhibitions” or “hangups.” They tend to think Catholics should see a psychotherapist to be “cured” from guilt. They never think that guilt is a gift from God to tell us that we are doing something seriously wrong and putting our immortal souls in danger. It’s a silly stereotype to think Catholics loathe married sex. Married sex is a proper expression of the love between man and wife. If you are taking sex out of that context - between husband and wife, a loving act open to life - then there is a place for guilt.

Would you still marry your girlfriend if she had a serious accident tomorrow and was physically unable to make love to you? If the answer is no then I think it would be best if you let her go so she could find someone who is unselfish enough to answer “yes, absolutely!”
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No, he wouldn’t, search his posts. He’s even planning a “sneaky vasectomy.” Great catch – this one.
 
Strange how history evolves. 150 years ago it was the opposite. The British accusing the Irish of breeding like rabbits. Back then the Puritans and Jews had very negative views regarding sex.
An example and proof of Catholic joy about marriage can be found in getting a missel from 150 years ago and reading the texts of the nuptial mass!!
The Hindus are so strict about boy/girl relationships and marriages are arranged and the couple meet for the first time about a month before the marriage. (In fairness they are not forced and the bride-to-be or groom-to-be have veto power.) Nevertheless given India’s population somebody is enjoying sex.
Of course in some cases sex can produce guilt/ conflicts since it is a powerful human emotion. But that transcends theology.
 
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by the way, I am of a certain age, so please if you are going to make generalizations make them about another group because you are buggin me, man.

Me too, it’s a groovy thang, LUV…​

It is becoming harder for me as an 80 year old native English speaker with a Phd to understand the kind of English being written at this forum. I wish the moderators would require dictionary correct English at least.
I assume “buggin me” means making me sick as in the “flu bug”
Is a “groovy thang” English??? I have no idea what it means.
Love is clearly mispelt to what effect??? To lower our educational level? The seriousness of the topic?
 
James_Miller said:
Originally Posted
by the way, I am of a certain age, so please if you are going to make generalizations make them about another group because you are buggin me, man.

Me too, it’s a groovy thang, LUV…​

It is becoming harder for me as an 80 year old native English speaker with a Phd to understand the kind of English being written at this forum. I wish the moderators would require dictionary correct English at least.
I assume “buggin me” means making me sick as in the “flu bug”
Is a “groovy thang” English??? I have no idea what it means.
Love is clearly mispelt to what effect??? To lower our educational level? The seriousness of the topic?
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As an older gentleman, you must have missed the so-called sexual revolution of the 1960s. puzzleannie and I did not miss it, at least the news reports of wild, rampant sexual sin. The 1960s also had strange spellings of words. “Groovy thang” and “luv” and “buggin’ me man” were common expressions. It is also interesting to note that those who grew up during, or had just reached adulthood at, the 1960s are now old fogies- We who allegedly would never trust anybody over thirty are now approaching or have passed the 60 mark. To the Original Poster, herein the OP, we both are probably as old as dust, and our opinion unworthy of his alleged modern viewpoint.

And yes, once in a while around CAF, we do try to lighten the mood of the serious. As my husband, a professor of philosophy, so often states, too many people forget the Ha-Ha Theory of Humor. It would appear, sir, that you are one of those people.

For the record, I have a BA in Literature in English, with an emphasis on mid-20th century American writers of the South. I believe puzzleannie has a masters of some sort, as she is a DRE (Director of Religious Education).

It is really none of your concern what degree or level of said degree we have, nor is it any of our concern what degree or level of degree you have. There was nothing immoral and nothing improper about our posts, and we did not violate CAF Terms of Service. The CAF moderators, herein the mods, are the control of such activity, and they have not marked our posts as offensive. Most respectfully, I must request that you try to see the humor in the posts, or please desist from comment.
 
Andy_42 said:
Hi

I read somewhere that even when catholics are married, they still feel guilty every time they have sex. Is this true?

I’m none catholic dating a catholic and not having a healthy sex life would ruin the relationship for me.

Thanks
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This is a joke, right? Why would someone feel guilt for making love with their spouse? Weird.
 
I just read some of your others posts, OP, Andy_42. You seem to know Catholic teachings, but ask questions that might prompt a lot of discussion and disagreement. Hmm. Any particular reason for that?

Also, in several of your posts, you use the phrase “none Catholic.” The proper spelling is “non.” 😉
 
[qu**ote=Andy_42;3831079]Hi

I read somewhere that even when catholics are married, they still feel guilty every time they have sex. Is this true?

I’m none catholic dating a catholic and not having a healthy sex life would ruin the relationship for me.

Thanks

No-i did , however, read somewhere that Baptists dont have sex standing up for fear people will think they are dancing…
 
estesbob said:
[qu**ote=Andy_42;3831079]Hi
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I read somewhere that even when catholics are married, they still feel guilty every time they have sex. Is this true?

I’m none catholic dating a catholic and not having a healthy sex life would ruin the relationship for me.

Thanks

No-i did , however, read somewhere that Baptists dont have sex standing up for fear people will think they are dancing…

:eek: :eek:
 
Mirdath said:
The short answer is ‘generally no, with reservations’. Lots of Catholics aren’t particularly hung up about sex any more than anyone else is. Others – well, let’s say Monty Python had it right with the ‘Every Sperm is Sacred’ song, at best case 😉 You will find Catholics who have amazing guilt complexes (‘Catholic guilt’ ain’t just a joke for many), you’ll find a whole bunch of them here, and sex in all its multifarious forms is all too often the biggest problem they’ve got. So keep in mind the sample you’re going to get isn’t in any way representative of every single person who answers ‘Catholic’ on a survey. Most Catholics here are pretty strictly orthodox/conservative, and if your SO isn’t, all bets are off.

Also, if you’re talking about having a healthy sex life in a dating relationship – not married yet – uh, duck and cover :eek:
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Further verification that we definately run in different circles. I dont know of ANY Catholics who feel guilty after having sex.
 
estesbob said:
[qu**ote=Andy_42;3831079]Hi
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I read somewhere that even when catholics are married, they still feel guilty every time they have sex. Is this true?

I’m none catholic dating a catholic and not having a healthy sex life would ruin the relationship for me.

Thanks

No-i did , however, read somewhere that Baptists dont have sex standing up for fear people will think they are dancing…

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
 
aimee said:
No-i did , however, read somewhere that Baptists dont have sex standing up for fear people will think they are dancing…
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:eek: :eek:

Too funny!

Also, I apologize to all those who already posted about the OP’s previous posts on other threads that seem to prompt disagreements (the vasectomy one, for example). My observations in my last post in this thread were duplicates of what you already said. 😊
 
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