Do I have the right to tolerate these feelings?

[lifesoldier]

Today it’s Sunday, day of peace, but I have had a really hard day. So I was under temptation to be sorry for myself and now I realised I was sorry for myself… I, however, had a different perspective on what it means to be sorry for yourself. I have posted questions about self-pity, but no definite response is given. So I supresed my tears and depresive thoughts because I worried that it may be sinful.The worst thing is that I constantly thought about people seeing this and saying:“Poor him, he feels so bad and now he thinks he doesn’t even have the right to cry.” I just wanted to die, maybe even suffering for God, but I wanted all this complications to end. Anyways, after suppresing depresive feelings, I suppresed less radical self-pity feelings because I was worried they were sinful as well. To my suprise, I felt better after supressing these thoughts. After long crying I feel really empty from inside. I have had an confession today and I forgot to mention self pitty and I have never mentioned it before, only once when it maybe was despair (denial of God’s grace). I would really like to know is all this sinful.So please, after definite answer is said, tell me the answer to this specific question. Don’t say things like “Wasting time on self-pity is stupid.” without answering the question. Answers 1st, advice2nd!
SORRY FOR BAD ENGLISH!

 

[underacloud]

The “definite answer” you seek should be given to you by a priest, preferably one who gets to know you and becomes your regular confessor.

 

[lifesoldier]

The “definite answer” you seek should be given to you by a priest, preferably one who gets to know you and becomes your regular confessor.

Situation is complicated, but:
1I probably can’t see him until next Sunday
2He is probably just going to absolve me and he is not going to tell me is it sinful.

 

[underacloud]

Situation is complicated, but:
1I probably can’t see him until next Sunday
2He is probably just going to absolve me and he is not going to tell me is it sinful.

Press him for an answer. Tell him you are unsure of whether it is sinful and ask him whether he thinks it is.

And over time, you will get to know each other and his advice will be more personal.

 

[SighGuy]

newadvent.org/summa/2038.htm

This might not be the most helpful thing, but I find it reassuring to see the words of St. Thomas Aquinas. Here, he talks about sorrow. See if any of it is helpful to you. Keep praying… and don’t forget that even Jesus had help carrying the Cross by Simon the Cyrenian.

 

[Jon_S_1]

Today it’s Sunday, day of peace, but I have had a really hard day. So I was under temptation to be sorry for myself and now I realised I was sorry for myself… I, however, had a different perspective on what it means to be sorry for yourself. I have posted questions about self-pity, but no definite response is given. So I supresed my tears and depresive thoughts because I worried that it may be sinful.The worst thing is that I constantly thought about people seeing this and saying:“Poor him, he feels so bad and now he thinks he doesn’t even have the right to cry.” I just wanted to die, maybe even suffering for God, but I wanted all this complications to end. Anyways, after suppresing depresive feelings, I suppresed less radical self-pity feelings because I was worried they were sinful as well. To my suprise, I felt better after supressing these thoughts. After long crying I feel really empty from inside. I have had an confession today and I forgot to mention self pitty and I have never mentioned it before, only once when it maybe was despair (denial of God’s grace). I would really like to know is all this sinful.So please, after definite answer is said, tell me the answer to this specific question. Don’t say things like “Wasting time on self-pity is stupid.” without answering the question. Answers 1st, advice2nd!
SORRY FOR BAD ENGLISH!

The real question is…have you sought help for your scrupulosity yet? Thread after thread of yours has pointed out to you, and now here you are, as we warned, depressed and upset.

Go sit down with your pastor in his office not the confessional and get help. If he can’t help go see a mental health professional.

 

[lifesoldier]

The real question is…have you sought help for your scrupulosity yet? Thread after thread of yours has pointed out to you, and now here you are, as we warned, depressed and upset.

Go sit down with your pastor in his office not the confessional and get help. If he can’t help go see a mental health professional.

I am seing mental health professiomal, but she can’t tell mr is it a sin! And, again, I am not looking for solutions, sonce you can, not knowing circumstances, hardly give me one. I want to know is it a sin. I have heard somewhere that if I am in doubt, I don’t have to go to confession. Is it true?

 

[Jon_S_1]

I am seing mental health professiomal, but she can’t tell mr is it a sin! And, again, I am not looking for solutions, sonce you can, not knowing circumstances, hardly give me one. I want to know is it a sin. I have heard somewhere that if I am in doubt, I don’t have to go to confession. Is it true?

On these things you need to lean toward no it’s not a sin. Most every scenario you brought up over the last few weeks are not sins.

This included. Jesus was so despondent of going to the cross he sweated blood. He didn’t sin by doing so.

Find a good examination of conscience work sheet. Do it once a week (no more). If you deliberately and knowingly do something on the sheet (like break one of the Ten Commandments) then go to confession for that mortal sin.

At the end of each day pray an act of contrition for any ways you might have failed that day in a general way and then spend some time thanking God for his unending grace and mercy.

Do to your scrupulosity issue that would be my recommendation. Talk it over with your priest and see what he thinks, again in his office not the confessional.

Part of me wonders why you are so concerned about this. God is not looking to damn you at any chance you mess up. Like if you talk to much he goes “ha send her to hell!”

God pours out mercy love and grace to us. He frees us from our sins. He knows we struggle and is gracious. We are only damned if we choose to be damned. If we choose to ignore God deliberately and willfully and reject him.

Not one scenario you posed is remotely close to such action.

 

[thistle]

Situation is complicated, but:
1I probably can’t see him until next Sunday
2He is probably just going to absolve me and he is not going to tell me is it sinful.

What is the complication? You don’t have to see him at Confession. You can fix an appointment to meet him at a mutually agreeable time and discuss your scrupulosity with him. If you don’t bring up the topic of scrupulosity you’ll simply come back here with the same type of questions which to everyone here clearly indicate you are scrupulous.