Do I need to confess this

[Kts1816]

So here what it was…while going outside there poped imaginary man in my head that i thought maybe my future husband and we kissed with passion and felt attraction.
Then finally i stoped myself saying its not ok or i dont want this now in my life (in the past it was different…befote converting,no i wasnt worst one,but sure not ok)
Now feel very sad and nit worthy for Gods love and very guilty.
Always promise myself and i found myself slipping again…maybe if i go away from this society just praying and fasting… this happens when dont pray the rosary…so ashamed

 

[adgloriam]

I would say don’t worry about it. It is normal to wish for your future, and have some romantic thought. Pray, go to mass, and don’t forget to confess. Go easy on yourself, this is more a reminder that you want to have a family and that is, definitely, a good thing.

God bless.

 

[Ron_Conte]

Passing thoughts are at worst venial sins. Sometimes they might be mere imperfection, and not even a sin. You shouldn’t worry about small things like that. Focus on prayer, trust God, and go to Confession and Mass regularly.

 

[catherine98]

Happens to me often, even worse thoughts (sexual content etc.). It is important to see if you consented or not (which may be hard if you’re scrupulous). If the thought came and was on your mind for few seconds and then you caught yourself thinking about that and thought “oh, what am I doing, I could sin mortally” and drove the thought away, it is not a mortal sin (probably a venial one). That’s how I see it. You can find a more detailed explanation of when a thought is mortally sinful on this link: CATHOLICS, CHASTITY, AND IMPURE THOUGHTS - Catholic Living in the Modern World - Catholic Info
But I would rather advise you asking a priest you trust and following his advice, especially if you are scrupulous.

 

[catherine98]

Kts, don’t be so unpeaceful. I really compassion you, I know the feeling. <3 But horrible sinners usually aren’t scrupulous. Scruples happen to those who care about avoiding sin.

Honestly, I think you didn’t sin mortally in either of these cases. And you certainly have scruples. But try to find a good spiritual director, pray for that grace. That is the best solution for these problems, that will give you peace.
And don’t overanalyze, you’ll drive yourself crazy. I think these are just scruples, but if you can’t find peace and are not sure of your culpability, go and confess to a good priest. When confessing, you can describe your scruple as you did here. Or just say, some impure thoughts came and I’m not sure if I consented. You can ask whether you should confess similar doubtful sins in the future.
Pray for a good spiritual director if you can find him. That saved me from my scruples.