Do Nice People Ever Comment on a Woman's Figure?

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Except to be complimentary ( conversations between spouses and near spouses or parents and children are privledged and don’t count for this purposes )
This is in response to a thread on Dress Code in the Liturgy Forum
 
*** nice people, when related to a woman, might note to her in private that such and such is not fitting quite right – But I’m thinking most of the time silence is golden if you don’t know a woman unless you have something truely nice to say –

My poor sister in law was out with my girls and my husband, today and someone asked her if she was pregnant again … EEK! Well she’s overweight, yeah, but not THERE – A much nicer thing would have been to say, “What a lovely family! I bet you can’t wait to add more to it!” At which point she could explain that they were not hers and still not feel like someone insulted her …
 
I remember seeing this card… it had a woman standing in front of a mirror with husband sitting in a chair behind her reading a newspaper…

She asked her husband… “Honey, do I look fat?”

His response, “Do I look stupid?”
 
I don’t think it would be appropriate to say “Wow! What a great body you’ve got!” to someone other than a person’s spouse, but I think you can allude to it by saying things like “You know, you look really nice today.” I suspect both men and women like to hear that, and I see no harm done to propriety by saying it.
 
In figure, you mean wieght. No. You can compliment on complimentry clothing, hair style, or whatever. That’s fine.
 
Only if you KNOW that woman… and happen to have been told BY HER that she’s been trying to lose weight and/or exercise to reach her best body-to-fat ratio… (i.e., become more fit)

even IF you haven’t seen a change to the better, it’s always good for someone to hear encouragement…

so many many times we just need to hear encouragement…

this would be a simple act of mercy…

otherwise, I wouldn’t comment on a woman’s (or a man’s, for that matter) figure, at all.

:cool: :cool:
 
Only if they are prepared to be shot at sunrise without the blindfold! 🙂
 
compliments are free, i spread them around like water…
 
I tell my girlfriend "don’t watch your figure, that’s my job 🙂 "
 
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BobCatholic:
I tell my girlfriend "don’t watch your figure, that’s my job 🙂 "
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Cute!

Just don’t be watching OTHER women’s figures. 😉
 
I don’t notice other women’s figures. 😛

If I know someone is trying to lose weight I might tell them they look thinner if it is noticeable.

But normally…no.

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I answered the question in the title of the thread.

The key word was “Ever”. So my answer is yes, generally only if asked with the woman desiring a truthful answer.
 
“If after I depart this vale you ever remember me and have thought to please my ghost, forgive some sinner and wink your eye at some homely girl.”

Absolutely yes.
 
T.A.Stobie:
I answered the question in the title of the thread.

The key word was “Ever”. So my answer is yes, generally only if asked with the woman desiring a truthful answer.
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Brave soul you are Lad! Since when has a man ever known if a woman wants a truthful answer or not? ROFLOL! You walk in dangerous territory on that one. 😃
 
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Brave soul you are Lad! Since when has a man ever known if a woman wants a truthful answer or not? ROFLOL! You walk in dangerous territory on that one. 😃
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People learn with me, that if they ask me a question except in a kidding fashion, I will give them a truthful answer.

Sometimes I will ask, “Do you really want me to answer that?”

If you do not want the truth, don’t ask me.
 
I think nice people comment on a woman’s figure depending on what the situation is. for example, if a woman has a nice figure just trim and fit, then most people might make a favorable comment; however, if the woman was over-weight and looked sloppy, then a comment would be most uncharitable. Take it from me, I suffer with a weight problem and have to constantly count calories. I used to be a size 10 and for the last 30 years or so, I’m a 14…just can’t get down without starving. My husband likes me the way I am so who am I trying to please? Anyway, there are certain aquaintances( a real friend would never) who love to comment on my weight–to my face and behind my back…
Annunciata:( :crying:
 
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I think nice people comment on a woman’s figure depending on what the situation is. for example, if a woman has a nice figure just trim and fit, then most people might make a favorable comment; however, if the woman was over-weight and looked sloppy, then a comment would be most uncharitable. Take it from me, I suffer with a weight problem and have to constantly count calories. I used to be a size 10 and for the last 30 years or so, I’m a 14…just can’t get down without starving. My husband likes me the way I am so who am I trying to please? Anyway, there are certain aquaintances( a real friend would never) who love to comment on my weight–to my face and behind my back…
Annunciata:( :crying:
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I concur! I have a friend who has fought the battle of the bulge for most of her life. The last year she has found a new diet and it is really working well for her. She still has a long way to go but I encourage her as I sincerely do notice the loss. She needs the encouragement on the one hand and on the other it is part of helping her keep fighting the battle when I acknowledge her efforts. I think she looks wonderful either way, but it is important to her to hear she is winning. 👍
 
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