Do Nice People Ever Comment on a Woman's Figure?

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I should probably go to Confession for this, but when people say to me (I’m 61), “You’re in terrific shape!” I think they are VERY nice! 😉 👋
 
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mercygate:
I should probably go to Confession for this, but when people say to me (I’m 61), “You’re in terrific shape!” I think they are VERY nice!
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You’re really 61?

You look GREAT!!!
 
I remember seeing this card… it had a woman standing in front of a mirror with husband sitting in a chair behind her reading a newspaper…
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She asked her husband… “Honey, do I look fat?”
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His response, “Do I look stupid?”
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LOL. That’s going to make it into my regular rotation of snap responses.

But in response to that infernal question I’ve always answered with a flattering answer. If she presses, I’ll say, “Look, there is only one answer to that question. And I’m the LAST person you should be looking for a serious answer from.”
 
humor flag a flying…welll sorta

Occasionally I will wonder if the lady or young woman in a pew in front of me is naked (they are usually wearinig a top with a llittle string around their neck (sorry not a fashion consultant) that is covered by their hair leaving them to appear as possibly naked when sitting in a pew and being observed from behind (no clothes visible anyway)…but generally speaking I don’t verbalize this expeciallly during church. The wife just doesn’t have the same sense of humor as I (of the masculine species) do…In the old days I would probably call their dress an “occasion to sin” (still is maybe ,huh)…recite a hail mary or 10 (I still remember how to do that) and do our best to look away. Trying to be sensitive here, but women can make it quite difficult for a man to concentrate on a sermon…I know, I know…I am just a weak slug… just a bit of the male perspective maybe.

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larry j
 
You don’t have to be a male to wonder that. It doesn’t happen often in my Parish but once there was a young lady who was wearing a white top that from the front was perfectly modest…but from the back it didn’t cover her shoulders. I can’t describe the way its constructed…I would have to draw a picture…anyway…just looking at her sitting there you would wonder. It wasn’t until she got up that you realized how she might think that was a modest outfit.

dream wanderer
 
Although on most subjects I’m rather liberal, on this topic I’m as Victorian as they come: I don’t think personal remarks qua remarks are ever acceptable. In my view, they assume a level of intimacy that really shouldn’t exist except between spouses(and even then, I’m dubious!). I can see, however, someone saying something like, “I wish you’d give me the name of your hair stylist; I can never find one I trust, and your hair always looks so wonderful.” Phrased this way, you’ve conveyed your admiration of the person’s physical feature while at the same time being self-deprecating. Needless to say, any kind of criticism, constructive or otherwise, is very bad manners, in my opinion.
 
Most times we would never comment on a Woman’s figure, but we might mention her attire or lack of, in a forum…its a tricky one…yep

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larry j
 
Jason Hurd:
I don’t think personal remarks qua remarks are ever acceptable. In my view, they assume a level of intimacy that really shouldn’t exist except between spouses(and even then, I’m dubious!).
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You’re dubious about whether it’s appropriate to tell your spouse that she looks hot?

Good luck with that one.
 
I’d rather not have anyone comment on my looks/weight. I’m very self-conscious and even a compliment i usually turn into somethign else. weight is a no-no. I woudl never comment on someones weight unless they personally asked me to be honest. My fiance’s family is very blunt. I used to be on the pill and gained a bit of weight (20 lbs,i’m only 110 now) but i gained it all in my stomach and chest. They always ask me if I’m pregnant…it makes me feel fat which I know I’m not, but it doesn’t make me feel good.
 
Auberon Quin:
You’re dubious about whether it’s appropriate to tell your spouse that she looks hot?

Good luck with that one.
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Told ya I was Victorian! 🙂
 
Naphali said:
*** nice people, when related to a woman, might note to her in private that such and such is not fitting quite right – But I’m thinking most of the time silence is golden if you don’t know a woman unless you have something truely nice to say –

My poor sister in law was out with my girls and my husband, today and someone asked her if she was pregnant again … EEK! Well she’s overweight, yeah, but not THERE – A much nicer thing would have been to say, “What a lovely family! I bet you can’t wait to add more to it!” At which point she could explain that they were not hers and still not feel like someone insulted her …
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That is terrible! Some people can be so… damn… stupid and insensative!:banghead:
 
only if the person is a true friend, and knows the other very very well…
 
I don’t think i know a girl on this planet who wouldn’t appreciate a “Hey your looking really good”. Of course, if you hold the opposite opinion, you say nothing. Simple etiquette it would seem.
 
I might comment…whether or not I’m being honest is another story…
 
Since you said “except to be complimentary”, the answer is no.
If you can’t say something nice (or imply something nice), keep it zipped. Better to live in a world full of badly dressed, clueless slobs than in a world full of busybodies.
 
Are you kidding??
Women LOVE that! It’s part of the reward for all that dieting and excercise. 😃
 
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