Do no millennials care about chastity anymore?

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Sometimes I feel like very few millennials I know care about chastity, even those in Catholic or denominational churches. It feels like those of us who do practice it feel very lonely on our walk or get FOMO even though we aren’t technically missing out on much. Still it’s hard to guard your thoughts when everyone is doing what they want
 
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I think Chastity is one of those things that will always be misunderstood by secular society.
Young people these days are taught that they can do whatever they like with their bodies as long as it’s consensual. Consent is the measure of morality. I was teaching a “Relationships and Sexuality” class to teenage girls this year and none of them seemed bothered that there are many negative consequences of promiscuous behaviour. They’ve been sold the lie that this will make them happy. They don’t get that Chastity is about doing something that will make you happy.

Until that changes you simply can’t expect them to understand.
 
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I was teaching a “Relationships and Sexuality” class to teenage girls this year and none of them seemed bothered that there are many negative consequences of promiscuous behaviour.
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They are not millenials. They are gen Z. Millenials are basically 18 to mid-30’s at this time.
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Sometimes I feel like very few millennials I know care about chastity, even those in Catholic or denominational churches.
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I think it really depends on who you hang out with. In college I had a very mixed group of friends and we were all celibate. Honestly, I think you have to look outside the expected circle for those who support waiting until marriage. Half the group wasn’t even Christian.
 
Xanthippe_Voorhees said:
They are not millenials. They are gen Z. Millenials are basically 18 to mid-30’s at this time.

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Some of them are millenials. And what’s the difference between a 20 year old millenial and a 17 year old?
 
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Xanthippe_Voorhees:
They are not millenials. They are gen Z. Millenials are basically 18 to mid-30’s at this time.

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Some of them are millenials. And what’s the difference between a 20 year old millenial and a 17 year old?
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Millenial has a meaning. It defines a generation and their understanding. The meaning of millennial depends on the source but is generally understood to be mid-80’s to 1999. Some have it cut off at 1995 because those born after likey do not remember 9/11.

Gen Z’ers are considered the first true digital natives. They have never known a world without cell phones, internet, etc. Younger Millenials whose parents were wealthy tend to be more like Gen Z, just like older Millenials who’s parents were poor tend to reflect the values of Gen X as they did not have access to the things that helped shape those two decades.
 
Fair enough, but to be honest, in my experience the attitudes toward chastity of the average 25 - 30 year old are not much different to those of teens.
 
I’m an older millenial (31). My youngest sister is 24. It’s kind of amazing what kind of a gap there is in our upbringings (though neither of us were raised with any religion.) I think the solution is to go out and meet real life people. Find your parish or diocesan young adult group and hang out with them. Are you in school or were you in school? Find your Catholic student group. Maybe not everyone is orthodox there, but you’ve got a much better shot than in the general population. If those things don’t exist, start them yourself. Use Meetup or Facebook groups - not as a substitute for real life interactions, but to facilitate those real life interactions. That’s really the best part of the technology.

Also, you don’t need to constantly talk chastity with people. Maybe some people just keep that to themselves because it’s personal private business (I wish I had been better about this when I was younger.) If people start talking about their hookups, regardless of their views, just let them know you’d rather focus on whatever activity you’re engaged in instead or just say, “I’m not comfortable discussing that. Hey, what’d you think of the Avengers movie?” or just change the topic. I will say, it’s really nice to be with like minded people, but you have to develop enough real intimacy to be able to find that out. Oversharing won’t do it, and may turn off people who could have been good friends.
 
AdamP88 said:
Young people these days are taught that they can do whatever they like with their bodies as long as it’s consensual. Consent is the measure of morality. I was teaching a “Relationships and Sexuality” class to teenage girls this year and none of them seemed bothered that there are many negative consequences of promiscuous behaviour.
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Makes me think of a youth minister near me. She made a sign saying “So I do before you do.” After one kid asked, “So you’re talking about consent?” she added a picture of a wedding to clarify.
 
Especially when you’re put down for doing what is right for you! You can always pray for others, and we have a duty to as Catholics; but no one who calls you a bigot is respecting your wishes.
 
Focus on Christ always to overcome peers pressure. When our mind in focused on the Lord, we will not go too wrong.
 
Honestly I think that it’s unfair to paint just the millennials as somehow not caring about chastity any more than any other generation. I’m a gen Xer and believe me, my generation also doesn’t give a hoot…neither do the boomers. The only ones who do (spanning all generations) seem to be devout Catholics and other traditional Christians.
 
I care about chastity and I’m a millennial! I think what some posters are saying is correct- people may just keep the details about them waiting for marriage private. I’m waiting for marriage and I haven’t told any of my friends and my boyfriend hasn’t told anyone either. It has never come up in conversation with my girl friends, and my friends aren’t religious so I don’t really want to be interrogated with awkward questions if they knew. I’ll probably tell them on / after my wedding day, who knows. I’m guessing there’s a number of people who may feel similarly and keep those details private
 
I’m in my 30’s and you can extend that same mentality to the 30’s age group in Australia.
Actually,religion (and its belief of no sex before marriage) is becoming less popular all together amongst every age group here.
 
Also some times the discussions on CAF seem to focus solely on chastity vs hookups,but a lot of people believe in a “middle ground”-ie:not liking/doing/accepting hookups but also not strictly wanting till marriage to have sex (in a committed relationship).
 
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