Do not envy the sinner

[PelagiathePenit]

How do u pray 4 those U do not like or find difficult to fully 4give? Sumtimes I envy that others R able to sin freely and seem happy. I should focus on my life & relationship w/ God. I am beginning 2 C hanging out w/ certain people makes me more insecure about my faith. God wants us 2 freely mingle w/ in the world. Hearing people always talk about cheating boyfriends or how if U do not do X,Y, Z then ur man will leave u makes me feel insecure. It makes it seem like all men R cheaters or R controlled by sex. I no men R more sexual than women, isn’t there more 2 love than fighting, cheating, & sex? If that is what most men R like, maybe I just will join a convent.

 

[Nelka]

 

[Lou2U]

How do u pray 4 those U do not like or find difficult to fully 4give? Sumtimes I envy that others R able to sin freely and seem happy. I should focus on my life & relationship w/ God.

The key word here is “seem”. You can’t know this for sure.

I am beginning 2 C hanging out w/ certain people makes me more insecure about my faith. God wants us 2 freely mingle w/ in the world.

So, do things to make you more secure in your faith. Talk to Priests, read books, read the Catechism, ect.

People with more confidence than you aren’t right just because they are more confident. They may be louder, and more comfortable talking about their beliefs, but this does not mean your beliefs aren’t valid.

Hearing people always talk about cheating boyfriends or how if U do not do X,Y, Z then ur man will leave u makes me feel insecure.

The best thing to do is not listen.

Again, people are not necessarily right because they are louder with their opinion.

It makes it seem like all men R cheaters or R controlled by sex. I no men R more sexual than women, isn’t there more 2 love than fighting, cheating, & sex? If that is what most men R like, maybe I just will join a convent.

It does portray an unnecessarily negative view of men, I agree. I don’t think it’s necessarily true that men are more sexual than women, just they show it differently.

There is so much more to love than that. Love is trust, respect, understanding and so much more. I read a quote the other day: “There are sharks, but there are a lot more stupid but well-meaning fish”. I’m sorry that the only ones you’ve met so far have been sharks.

I’ve commented on another of your threads, OP. I mean this with genuine concern - do you think you would benefit from seeing a counsellor? From your posts, I can see that you struggle with self esteem, and confidence, and I really do think that having someone to help you would really make a lot of difference.

Lou

 

[josh987654321]

How do u pray 4 those U do not like or find difficult to fully 4give? Sumtimes I envy that others R able to sin freely and seem happy. I should focus on my life & relationship w/ God. I am beginning 2 C hanging out w/ certain people makes me more insecure about my faith. God wants us 2 freely mingle w/ in the world. Hearing people always talk about cheating boyfriends or how if U do not do X,Y, Z then ur man will leave u makes me feel insecure. It makes it seem like all men R cheaters or R controlled by sex. I no men R more sexual than women, isn’t there more 2 love than fighting, cheating, & sex? If that is what most men R like, maybe I just will join a convent.

Don’t worry, there are many men who are not like that and you are right to know that this is not normal behavior.

The nature of sin, is that when people are doing it, they usually say things like “If you do not do X, Y, Z, then your man will leave you” because they have probably done it themselves (or plan to) and want you to be in the same boat with them. Don’t jump onto another persons sinking ship no matter how much they try to convince you that it’s not actually sinking, everyone around them can see that it’s sinking. Instead, pray for them and try to save their ship if you can by correcting bad attitudes such as doing X, Y, Z, (if such is sinful/wrong) to keep their man.

A similar thing happens for guys, they will call a guy gay, fag etc in efforts that the guy will sleep around with other women as they are doing in order to somehow ‘prove’ their straightness (stuff like that, that’s just one example). It’s all part of the games people can play and mind tricks to get people to do sinful things and participate in destructive behaviors. Nobody wants to be going down on a sinking ship by themselves, so they sometimes try to bring others on board. Don’t fall for it.

If a man will leave a woman unless she does sins X, Y, Z, than that man is going to leave that woman anyway, it’s not a matter of ‘if’ but ‘when’ the only thing the woman has done by doing X, Y, Z is prostitute herself to hold onto a dying relationship that is destined to fail the moment that guy can get ‘better value for his money’ so to speak.

Also, persecution is usually a sign you are walking the right path.

The following I believe may also help -
Extract from the book 'Imitation of Christ' by Thomas A Kempis:

Imitation of Christ - copticplace.com/files/imitation_of_Christ.pdf

The Voice of Christ -

**Do you think that men of the world have no suffering, or perhaps but little? Ask even those who enjoy the most delights and you will learn otherwise. “But,” you will say, “they enjoy many pleasures and follow their own wishes; therefore they do not feel their troubles very much.”

Granted that they do have whatever they wish, how long do you think it will last? Behold, they who prosper in the world shall perish as smoke, and their shall be no memory of their past joys. Even in this life they do not find rest in these pleasures without bitterness, weariness, and fear. For they often receive the penalty of sorrow from the very thing whence they believed their happiness comes. And it is just. Since they seek and follow after pleasures without reason, they should not enjoy them without shame and bitterness.

How brief, how false, how unreasonable and shameful all these pleasures are! Yet in their drunken blindness men do not understand this, but like brute beasts incur death of soul for the miserly enjoyment of a corruptible life.

Therefore, My child, do not pursue your lusts, but turn away from your own will. “Seek thy pleasure in the Lord and He will give thee thy heart’s desires.” If you wish to be truly delighted and more abundantly comforted by Me, behold, in contempt of all worldly things and in the cutting off of all base pleasures shall your blessing be, and great consolation shall be given you. Further, the more you withdraw yourself from any solace of creatures, the sweeter and stronger comfort will you find in Me.

At first you will not gain these blessings without sadness and toil and conflict. Habit already formed will resist you, but it shall be overcome by a better habit. The flesh will murmur against you, but it will be bridled by fervor of spirit. The old serpent will sting and trouble you, but prayer will put him to flight and by steadfast, useful toil the way will be closed to him.**

I hope this has helped

God Bless You

Thank you for reading
Josh

 

[Nelka]

Sirach 9:11 Do not envy the sinner his success; you do not know how that will end.