The chances are, unless you laminate your DNR and hang it around your neck, that if you were to collapse in the street the paramedics and the staff in the emergency department would try to resuscitate you. They don’t have time to let you die while they look up your paperwork. In this day and age, hospitals don’t spare any effort in resuscitation without directives from the patient or family…and the tie goes toward resuscitation. They don’t want to be sued, if nothing else.
What is very, very important is to investigate what kinds of interventions hospitals do–your primary care physician can help you with this–and explain to your doctor (if they don’t already know the Church position) and your family the ethics of each and what you want done if it is you. Then put it in writing and have your doctor put it in your chart. If nothing else, remember that your pastor takes that pager or cell phone with him everywhere for just these kinds of questions, and not just for people who need “last rites.” If you can’t talk about this kind of stuff with your family, talk to your pastor about what you want and ask if he will be willing to explain things to your family when the time comes. Then make sure your family has your pastor’s emegency number!
Oh, and don’t forget to remind your family of that, either: Annointing of the sick is not a death sentence. It is appropriate for anyone who is seriously ill. Let them know that if you are seriously ill, you want them to arrange for Annointing of the Sick for you immediately…and that you will not take that as a sign that you should should have told somebody who gets your china.
A lot of people carry a card that says they want annointing of the sick, but if your family brings you in, the staff won’t be going through your wallet looking for it. Let your family know.