Do we need a prenup agreement?

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I’m getting married in six months to my foreign girlfriend. I was advised by a friend that one of the things I need to do before saying I do is to get a prenuptial agreement. Basically it’s supposed to protect my assets and properties in case my relationship with my future wife goes down the drain. I don’t know though if this is an acceptable practice when marrying Kiev ladies. I don’t want to do it if it would be insulting on her end. I need advice on this. Please help me.
 
Speak to your attorney then take the matter to the priest who is doing your prep (to know if the Church permits a prenup in your specific situation, this is a case by case matter).
 
Planning an exit strategy before you even get married would seem to suggest that you don’t understand that marriage is lifelong. Either you’re not ready yet or you’re not right for each other.
 
hayeson35 said:
I was advised by a friend that one of the things I need to do before saying I do is to get a prenuptial agreement. Basically it’s supposed to protect my assets and properties in case my relationship with my future wife goes down the drain.
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You should discuss this with your pastor. Any sort of prenuptial agreement you propose must be examined by the diocese as it pertains to the ability to give valid consent and have valid intent when entering the marriage. the prenuptial agreement could be evidence that perpetuity is excluded from consent-- which would make the marriage invalid.

Anyone considering a prenuptial agreement must disclose that to their pastor, and it must be investigated as to whether or not it creates an impediment to valid marriage.

Do not take advice from the internet. Talk to your pastor.
 
I think you should talk to a financial advisor and/or attorney, and definitely your pastor. This is your own unique situation, and strangers will not be able to properly advise you.

Best of luck to you
 
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Anyone considering a prenuptial agreement must disclose that to their pastor, and it must be investigated as to whether or not it creates an impediment to valid marriage.
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I don’t know how work prenuptial agreement in America and their consequences, but I am not sure that it is mandatory everywhere in the world to report one to the Church before marriage. it is more a matter of law. We was never ask any question on this before your catholic weeding.
I even read a book on marriage preparation on day write by a priest in which he highly encouraged it if one of the part have already proprieties or heritage.

But that’s don’t mean that I encourage you to make one!
 
In germany, also no one ever asked for showing this up at the church.
In some countries there’s a duty for pre nups if one partner has a foreign citizen ship. I would ask the civil marriage court.
 
Yes in France too. The Church don’t ask.
This prenuptial agreement in contry defines at who the money and proprieties are, and there is a possibility to separate or completely put together all of the two parts (very simply resume).

Perhaps, that american prenuptial agreement can be very different from ours?
 
Agree. If you do not trust the person you are going to marry when it comes to money, then why are you entrusting to her your life?

Your friend mentioned about in case the marriage goes down the drain. You already expecting the marriage to fail before it even started.
 
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Canon lawyers here say don’t get one. They Are an action against the permanence of marriage.
 
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But it’s logical - one would one want a Catholic wedding (which in theory happens only once) unless there was reason to think that one day a divorce may happen? I am sure most Catholic priests have no problem with it but in essence it is a moral problem not a legal problem. A prenup is required when there is lack of trust. If the pair don’t trust each other then why do they get married?
 
I agree with this reasons, and it’s logical if there is no trust not to marry. And it’s also responsible that a spouse do not do what can make the surviving spouse go to poverty to not allow him to benefit from his proprieties and heritage.

I am personally against all agreement that deprive the surviving spouse. It is very unfair.

How thoses agreement worked wher you live (is it in the US?). Where I am they define how will keep the possessions, money and heritage after a divorce or a death. So it’s not just in case of divorce.
They can increase or dismish the rights of the other spouse.
 
I live in Romania. And I don’t know much legislation about prenups. I know that in case of death first family relatives (spouses or parents/children) have unbeatable rights against any will the deceased may have done while alive.
None of my friends who got married had any need to make a prenup because most of their wealth they accumulated together after marriage.
A colleague of mine got divorced, there was a disparity in wealth (he was richer) but she wanted nothing after the divorce, she just wanted out. There were deep feelings of love and betrayal involved, money was the least problem there.
 
Broad claim. Do you have some information from the Chancery Office of the German Bishops? If not, maybe it would be safe to say you do not recall the priest who did your prep asking the question.
 
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Broad claim. Do you have some information from the Chancery Office of the German Bishops? If not, maybe it would be safe to say you do not recall the priest who did your prep asking the question.
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No, because I was not speaking of me, but my parents back then. I don´t have a pre-nup. The civil marriage court (and civil marriage was obligatory before church wedding also back then) told my mother she needed a prenup because my father hadn´t a german citizen ship. I do not know the involved persons, they moved shorttly after the wedding in a different county (before I was born).
 
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