Do women change after marriage?

[Cricket2]

 

[tafan]

Conversion is a life-long process. We are all called to holiness, but it takes almost all of us a long time to get there. So we should hope our spouse changes after marraiage.

 

[edwest2]

I’ve heard that women tend to change after marriage. Is that true? And if so, how do they change? Just want to understand what I can expect. Thank you.

I would say, no. If both the man and the woman talk, in great detail about what they expect from marriage, and spend time in their relationship really getting to know each other, then there will be few changes if any. However, that presupposes that they ask each other: “What do you expect from married life?” Where will we live? Do we make enough money? Do we have reliable transportation? What about kids? Meeting each other’s family. Getting to know each other’s friends. Do that before the ceremony, and plan an affordable honeymoon, and that’s a good start.

Finally, make sure you are both on the same page regarding what you believe.

Hope this helps,
Ed

 

[marymary1975]

I would say, no. : “What do you expect from married life?” Where will we live? Do we make enough money? Do we have reliable transportation? What about kids? Meeting each other’s family. Getting to know each other’s friends. Do that before the ceremony, and plan an affordable honeymoon, and that’s a good start.

Finally, make sure you are both on the same page regarding what you believe.

Hope this helps,
Ed

When I did the pre cana I was shocked to learn that a huge number of engaged couple have never talked to each other about these topics and other basic ones.

 

[InigoMontoya]

Everyone changes… with age… with time…

 

[Pax2u]

4 arms, with the new pair growing directly underneath the first two. It’s kind of creepy at first but you get used to it after awhile.

:rotfl

Yes, everyone changes. That’s life!

 

[Pax2u]

After re-reading your question, you wanted to know how people change. From my own experience, we were 19 when we got married. We’re almost 60 now. Obviously you change in most ways through the years…your interests, your spirituality, your looks, your feelings about each other. How boring if you looked at your spouse at 60 and realized they hadn’t grown or changed in 40 years!!!

The key is to communicate well, have a forgiving nature, a sense of humor, and a willingness to love. Then you will enjoy the person your spouse is evolving into.

 

[chimo]

I’ve heard that women tend to change after marriage. Is that true? And if so, how do they change? Just want to understand what I can expect. Thank you.

I expect there would be some natural (and even some unnatural changes if behaviors change ) when a couple decides to marry. The consensus from the present Pope Francis for one of the purposes of marriage is that whenever a man marries a woman the woman actually makes him a better man and the man makes the woman a better woman. It is of course even better if the couple has this direct link with the Lord for whenever a couple has this relationship with the Lord Jesus already intact before they meet it would make for a dynamite team. I suspect unnatural changes whenever one or both spouses are not connecting with the Lord. A faithful husband who loves his Lord will ultimately reflect this to the woman he loves and if the woman is also a faithful witness to her Lord this relationship with the man she marries will give them this incredible witness for their Lord. It can be powerful whenever a couple knows why they are here, to give incredible witness to the Lord they both love. Any woman in such a relationship will naturally change to grow in response to this new experience.

 

[chevalier]

I’ve heard that women tend to change after marriage. Is that true? And if so, how do they change? Just want to understand what I can expect. Thank you.

People change if they were previously on their best behaviour but now no longer see the need to be. People who were previously relaxed and normal might perhaps not change much. Or people who always are on their best behaviour.

It’s important to remember the affair is mutual and reciprocity is necessary but neither party can simply sit back and wait for the other party to start performing first. Without wishing to make it sound crude by employing a mercantile metaphor, it’s a bit like at the shop – if both you and the sales assistant sit back expecting the other to make the first move there isn’t going to be any sale.