/Thank you all for your response.
I was hoping to get responses from our separated friends, I have a dear fundamentalist neighbor whom I can’t seem to convince.

Carlan
I look at it this way:
When I ask friends and family to pray for me (and I actually don’t do that all that often, come to think of it…) it is face to face, and generally in a place or at a time when falling on my knees isn’t really an option.
When I CAN do this, that is, physically pray for aid, I don’t see what is gained by asking a saint or someone to pray for me when I’m, hello…right there and can ask for myself.
To me, indeed, it seems like one of those situations that is so often portrayed for laughs in situation comedies; where characters are ‘not speaking’ to one another, so they involve third parties to relay messages even when they are standing literally nose to nose with each other. You know how it goes…:
“Harry, tell your father that I’m going to Myra’s house for the evening. He can get his own dinner…”
“Dad, Mom says that she’s going to Myra’s house and you have to cook…”
“Harry, never mind that. Tell your mother that if she goes over there I’ll order pizza and let the kids eat the chocolate cake…”
“Mom, Dad says…”
“Harry, tell your father that the cake is for the PTA sale and he’s not to touch it!”
“Dad, Mom says we can’t have the cake…”
"Harry, tell your mother that…
And so it goes. Mom and Dad should simply talk to each other.
Well, it’s a difference in paradigm, I guess. I have been taught, and I believe, that if you are on your knees praying, you should simply talk to the One Whose attention you are attempting to grab; don’t go through St. Harry. Harry has enough to do, anyway, and God won’t really be fooled here. You are who you are, no matter whose voice reaches His ears, and your petition is what it is, no matter who voices it. So…we should speak directly to Him, for ourselves (and yes, for others if they have asked us). Attempting to go through an intermediary at a time when God is RIGHT THERE, and we can speak directly to Him, seems a little, well…insulting. Like saying “Harry, you tell your Father that…” when Father is standing right here in front of you.
I know that this seems a little flippant. I don’t mean it to be…I understand, from some Catholic friends, that the idea is that it shows more respect, or reverence, to ask a Saint for intercession; it is more humble to ask someone else to pray for you than it is to approach God directly for all things. I understand the principle behind it, and in many ways I understand the humility going through intercessors shows–and I do not think that those who pray to Saints and to Mary are being disrespectful.
However, if * I* did, it would be real disrespect.
Diana