Do you care what other CAF posters think of you?

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rfournier103 said:
I care about not offending the moderators and not getting banned.

Aside from that, except for a couple of close friends, it’s not something I think of at all.
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This^^

After a couple of years one gets to know the “regulars”. I may not care for some, but many are some of my dearest friends. Some never fail to get an eye-roll out of me.

But do I CARE??? Like really care?

Likely not.
There’s only a handful that I correspond with regularly off CAF.
 
pianistclare said:
This^^

After a couple of years one gets to know the “regulars”. I may not care for some, but many are some of my dearest friends. Some never fail to get an eye-roll out of me.

But do I CARE??? Like really care?

Likely not.
There’s only a handful that I correspond with regularly off CAF.
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👍

Exactly this – eye-rolls, dear friends, and all.

I correspond with some CAF members in real life, but sometimes disagree with their posts here all the time. This is a good thing – knowing these people in real life reminds me to be respectful when posting here!
But do I CARE??? Like really care?
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Not really. I care more that I’m doing my best to be charitable and truthful.

And then I log off and get on with real people in real life.
 
DarkLight said:
Really depend on the poster.

There are some posters that I’d take to heart if they criticized. There are some that I might be a little worried if they approved.
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:rotfl:

I know what you mean. There are a dozen posters that I tend to vehemently disagree with on almost everything. If they post something that doesn’t raise my hackles I have to double and triple check if I misread a user name.
 
I do care. I’ve found some posters enjoyable and even entertaining in addition to informative. As a Catholic writer I always wish to be charitable although there are posters who disagree with my viewpoints and eventually I tend to simply ignore them. People who have been rude or arrogant in their posts in response to something I’ve said, I simply disregard.
 
ToeInTheWater said:
… are other posters just impersonal internet beings that you debate with on a purely intellectual level?
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I don’t think of the posters here being for purely intellectual debate, but I don’t know that I really “care” what they think of me for the most part. There are a handful of regulars that I might take disagreements to heart, but I also don’t tend to get into extended conversations with people outside of the private message functions.

BTW - thanks for the heads up on the change coming; I had missed that. I hope one of those changes includes removing world news or at least giving us the option to filter it out of the latest threads. There is a certain segment of posters that only seem to want to debate political topics with only a tenuous connection to Catholicism. It gets so bad sometimes I simply don’t check the fora for weeks.
 
Posting on CAF has been an apostolate for me, so I’ve laid awake nights thinking how to answer some posters and worrying if I offended or was guilty of misinforming anyone. At least, I used to do that when I first started posting. Over the years I learned how to respond better and who to ignore, so I sleep better now. 😉

I’ve tried to find information for inquirers–those who I feel really want an answer not just an argument. I know I’ve failed in charity more than once, and for that I ask forgiveness. I’ve learned to reserve any reply I wouldn’t give if the person were standing in front of me, and I’ve written out rebukes and then erased them ore modified them into more loving language.

It’s been an education and a challenge. I’m not sure how much I will participate on the new forum when it appears. I have other concerns in my life–mainly my dh’s health. I guess I’ll just have to see what happens in Sept., and decide then.

To all who have encouraged me and provided me with their knowledge and kindness, I have the greatest thanks and admiration. God bless you all. 🙂
 
I feel like I’m sort of a weird combination. On one level, the thought that someone out there in the world doesn’t like me is painful. :o I mean, what’s not to like? 😛 This carries over into CAF to some extent.

But on another level, I just tell myself that I cannot know the secret thoughts of any individual, so I can assume that they do, in fact, only think good things about me. 👍

It works for me. 😃

Sometimes I do resist posting if it runs in contrast to what another CAF member whom I like has posted. But mostly that’s because, for the most part, I’m not so married to my own opinions. When it comes to the truths of the faith, I’m quite belligerent. When it comes to other things, I’m pretty easy going.

Other times, I find myself posting something just to go against the grain of what most of the other posters are saying. And that’s often not because I disagree with what others are saying, but only because I want to give the OP some variety in their feedback.

If anyone is familiar with the “StrengthsFinder” test and book, my #1 strength was “Harmony.” I like for people to get along whenever possible. 🙂
 
Well, I do in that I hope that everyone I come in contact with on the forum knows I care about their well-being and that I want them to draw closer to God, therefore I pray for them or put in a word if I think it will help them.
DarkLight said:
I dunno, I’ve read some of my old threads, and I’ve said some pretty darn stupid things on here before.
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LOL, me too. 😊
 
Joe_5859 said:
I feel like I’m sort of a weird combination. On one level, the thought that someone out there in the world doesn’t like me is painful. :o I mean, what’s not to like? 😛 This carries over into CAF to some extent.

But on another level, I just tell myself that I cannot know the secret thoughts of any individual, so I can assume that they do, in fact, only think good things about me. 👍

It works for me. 😃

Sometimes I do resist posting if it runs in contrast to what another CAF member whom I like has posted. But mostly that’s because, for the most part, I’m not so married to my own opinions. When it comes to the truths of the faith, I’m quite belligerent. When it comes to other things, I’m pretty easy going.

Other times, I find myself posting something just to go against the grain of what most of the other posters are saying. And that’s often not because I disagree with what others are saying, but only because I want to give the OP some variety in their feedback.

If anyone is familiar with the “StrengthsFinder” test and book, my #1 strength was “Harmony.” I like for people to get along whenever possible. 🙂
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That’s cool! My #1 is Woo. 😉
 
Joe_5859 said:
I feel like I’m sort of a weird combination. On one level, the thought that someone out there in the world doesn’t like me is painful. :o I mean, what’s not to like? 😛 This carries over into CAF to some extent.

But on another level, I just tell myself that I cannot know the secret thoughts of any individual, so I can assume that they do, in fact, only think good things about me. 👍

It works for me. 😃

Sometimes I do resist posting if it runs in contrast to what another CAF member whom I like has posted. But mostly that’s because, for the most part, I’m not so married to my own opinions. When it comes to the truths of the faith, I’m quite belligerent. When it comes to other things, I’m pretty easy going.

Other times, I find myself posting something just to go against the grain of what most of the other posters are saying. And that’s often not because I disagree with what others are saying, but only because I want to give the OP some variety in their feedback.

If anyone is familiar with the “StrengthsFinder” test and book, my #1 strength was “Harmony.” I like for people to get along whenever possible. 🙂
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Yes your posts are always friendly so I enjoy them.

I think when I first joined about 9 years ago I posted carefully and was concerned
what others thought of me, but after 9 years on World News, that changed. I am sure
I could be more charitable, and I should be more patient with other posters. But it
is hard!
 
I think I make a reasonable attempt to not be a complete jerk-wad, but I’m also aware that other people have their own baggage, some of them are trolls or haters, and, not unlike real life, you can’t please everyone. I would say that I “care” in the same sense that I care that I don’t smell bad when I go out in public and that I’m not so loud that I’m bothering the people at the table next to me, but if someone decided that they aren’t feeling what I have to say, will I be personally devastated? Probably not.
 
Tis_Bearself said:
In my experience, this “double standard” is a problem all forums share regardless of whether it’s CAF or a forum for discussing how to take care of your pet parakeet. There gets to be a little group of early adopters or “insiders” who know each other and are very accepting of the peccadilloes of anyone who’s an “insider”, whether it’s annoying posts or questionable real-life behavior, but let someone who is either newer or not as well accepted do the exact same thing and it’s treated as a crime against humanity, or in the worst case, an excuse to make the person the butt of jokes and even bullying for a long time. Most forums also seem incapable of understanding that their members act like that or that there is anything wrong with it if they do.

I have to say I am uncomfortable with the board permitting people to start threads about “is this a sin or is this not a sin” etc. Aside from the fact that there are enough threads about having just masturbated to fill a Penthouse Letters column, and some people seeming to find a mortal sin under every bush, I really feel those discussions need to go straight to a priest, in person, and there is no good purpose served by having them here.
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I believe another CAFer has suggested a porn and masturbation subforum and I think that’s not a crazy idea.

That way those threads can be tidied away.
 
I like all the other posters on here. The fact that I’m posting on a forum at all suggests that I have an interest in what others think of my (name removed by moderator)ut.

Sometimes I’m suspicious though that posters; even a few regulars, are not real posters at all but fictional characters made up to start discussion. I.e “Hi everyone, I’m a CEO with a fasinating backstory who put the Catholic faith of the colorful Irish Great Aunt who raised me on the ‘back burner’ for years, but I now have an intriguing dilemma. Respond to hear more.”
 
PPeterson said:
I like all the other posters on here. The fact that I’m posting on a forum at all suggests that I have an interest in what others think of my (name removed by moderator)ut.

**Sometimes I’m suspicious though that posters; even a few regulars, are not real posters at all but fictional characters made up to start discussion. **I.e “Hi everyone, I’m a CEO with a fasinating backstory who put the Catholic faith of the colorful Irish Great Aunt who raised me on the ‘back burner’ for years, but I now have an intriguing dilemma. Respond to hear more.”
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That does actually happen.
 
rfournier103 said:
I care about not offending the moderators and not getting banned.

Aside from that, except for a couple of close friends, it’s not something I think of at all.
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This is pretty much how I think too, although there have many times lately where a member (usually new) has been so rude to other members that I have been tempted to say something I might regret later.

But so far, no regrets. 😉
 
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