Do you feel offended by people who come to the CC dressed as if they were at a barbeque in their backyard?

[Pregustator]

I’m a student at a Catholic college, and the dress code is, well, there isn’t one. We get out of class and run to mass in whatever is on that day. For me, a woman, it’s jeans and a t-shirt. Some of my jeans are frayed at the bottom (you know, starving college student business). I own a lot of band shirts, some with tour dates in the back…

…I’m not trying to impress God with my clothing.

Obviously. And He will smite you for it.

Why clean the outside of the vessel only?

Because nobody can see the inside! Duh! Hey, don’t change the subject, here, sister: this thread is about fashion (pun intended: I kill myself)…and we don’t get alot of those on this forum, so don’t be a killjoy and switch to metalware on me. Crimony, imagine having to come up with something pithy to say about silver polish.

I think all the dressing up we do is ultimately beneficial to everyone else who likes to see people dressed up.

Holy Versace, Batman, she finally, she gets it! Hallelujah! Was that so hard to comprehend at first?

 

[Barbkw]

He will smite those who check out butts in Church.

 

[Pregustator]

He will smite those who check out butts in Church.

And those who litter the church grounds with them. I need a cigarette after Mass, too, like any decent person, but throw it in the street when you’re done. It’s probably all those college girls wearing band shirts littering about the ecclesiastical environs…just asking for a good smiting, as usual.

 

[Barbkw]

"Do you feel offended by people who come to the CC dressed as if they were at a barbeque in their backyard? "

As to your original question, yes I do.

1. Parents who allow they children to wear “Daisy Dukes” to Mass.
2. And, shirts over shirts that neither hide nor intend to hide the straps of their bras. Just have them wear a shirt instead that says, “Text me later, let’s hook up.”
3. Flip flops - yes the pink v necked 1/4 inch cushion of foam from China.

 

[Joe_5859]

I sit in the front row and am too busy keeping an eye on the little ones to even notice what anyone else is wearing at Mass.

 

[Barbkw]

We are attending the Wedding Feast of the Lamb each time we are blessed and asked to walk down the aisle and receive Him.

When people realize the significance of the Mass, they will correct what they wear.

 

[Pregustator]

I sit in the front row and am too busy keeping an eye on the little ones to even notice what anyone else is wearing at Mass.

I sit in the back row so that I can judge and then roll my eyes at every single one of you forsaken infidels who walks in looking like a wet weekend in the bargain basement at JC Penney’s. I don’t miss anything.

Except spats. I do miss those.

 

[Barbkw]

I was walking up to the Church and right there in the cement courtyard - 30 feet from the doors - somebody had thrown down their cigarette.

some people, no respect, all self interest.

“One last drag - hope I can make it an hour.”

 

[wisdomseeker]

if I allowed my self to be personally offended by what people wear in public, at a Mass or any where else that ought to be rather formal, including the workplace, I would have to stay inside, have my groceries delivered, never go into a restaurant, work and shop solely on-line, and content myself with watching Mass on EWTN.

I am talking about the House of the Almighty. is there any difference to you?

 

[wisdomseeker]

No.

This isn’t the 1950’s. In the 50’s, everyone wore a dress shirt and tie - to work, on dates, whenever they wanted to look nice.

Now, when people want to look nice, they wear a nice pair of jeans, a patterned shirt without a tie - sometimes even a t-shirt.

The fact is, the number of events that require a coat and tie have diminished immensely. Weddings, dances, really fancy dinners.

People shouldn’t look like slobs in the ecclesia, yes, but what looks nice is a cultural norm, barring things like modesty. Although, honestly, 100 years ago, if a polynesian woman went to Mass topless on her home island, whatever. It wasn’t immodest in their culture, and didn’t lead men astray.

should we treat the House of the Almighty the same as we treat the world? should we treat them as the same?

 

[wisdomseeker]

“…women wearing pants…”

Men’s butts don’t offend, but women’s do?

I’d suggest that you sit away from the Communion isle so that you stop checking out people’s butts.

Or better yet, bring a small Bible or prayer book to Mass and read it - avert your eyes and all those thoughts.

You also could try singing during the Eucharist. Having your eyes follow along with the song you’re singing.

I am asking for respect for the Almighty and not for me. I am offended for the Almighty and His House.

 

[wisdomseeker]

Except the OP wasn’t asking people to dress modestly, but to dress up period. At least that’s the way I took their post.

Is it wrong to dress up your best in the House of God?

 

[wisdomseeker]

Yeah, well, good thing somebody is, because I’m not: I can see what each and every one of you unholy fashion disasters are wearing…and I don’t like it one bit! Snaz it up a little, Catholics! Good grief; you won’t see the Episcopalians churching themselves in lycra and logo shirts. Would a little sartorial sophistication kill us? If I were a churchwarden, you would be flagellated for flip-flops, skewered for sneakers, and whipped for white after labour day (excepting any visiting Dominicans, of course). Don’t even get me started about shorts at weddings!

Gentlemen: pick up a copy of GQ. Ladies, ladies…spandex? Come on. Our prayers will reach the Almighty alot more successfully if we can manage not to offend His eyes and cause Him to repent of His own creation every time he peers into His sartorially-challenged sanctuaries.

And Father, smirk and snicker all you like; you are far from exempt from this indictment! In your sacerdotal mercy, spare us, at last, the polyester ponchos and the oatmeal-colored albs! Cheese and crepes, padre, Bea Arthur called: she wants her “Maude” costumes back. Have mercy upon the living and the dead and give them back to her. Albs come in this new color called “white”. And you can even wear them after Labor Day!

:tiphat:

All joking aside…we Catholics do tend to present a rather slovenly sartorial image in church when compared to our Protestant friends. We could probably take a few lessons from them on how to dress for Divine service.

 

[wisdomseeker]

I agree with you. When I was young, many years ago, we were taught to always dress properly when entering God’s house. Proper dress is simply a sign of respect. Of course, back then women also had to have their heads covered. I’d like to go back to those days! I am often the only woman in church wearing a skirt! You can’t have an audience with the Pope unless you are properly dressed. I’m sorry but I don’t think the Pope is more important than God. Let’s get back to dressing with respect and showing God the respect He deserves.

thank you. we just need more Catholics to realize what the Church is.

 

[PatriceA]

Is it wrong to dress up your best in the House of God?

Maybe what I consider my best, is what you consider not “dressing up.” Its modest, but it might not meet your standards. That’s the problem, when we start measuring people’s choice of clothes by our individual standards and measuring stick.

 

[Domnall]

Question to you all.

If I, as a guy, was to wear a kilt to Mass in the United States would you get offended? To some people its distracting, however, it shouldn’t really be.

Just curious to see what people would think about something like that. is that appropriate for church?

 

[wisdomseeker]

I’m a student at a Catholic college, and the dress code is, well, there isn’t one. We get out of class and run to mass in whatever is on that day. For me, a woman, it’s jeans and a t-shirt. Some of my jeans are frayed at the bottom (you know, starving college student business). I own a lot of band shirts, some with tour dates in the back.

I had a woman once come up to me and say “You know, it’s really hard for me to concentrate on the mass because I want to read your shirt, so please don’t wear anything like that again.” Excuse me? It’s my fault you can’t exercise the self-control to not read my shirt? I don’t have the time or the money for laundry detergent to change outfits several times a day to accommodate my activities, so people can learn to deal. Now, if I was wearing my workout sweats and super short-shorts with a skanky top, I could understand the fuss. You can dress modestly without dressing up, and you can dress well enough for mass without being in your “sunday best.”

I’m not trying to impress God with my clothing. Why clean the outside of the vessel only? Isn’t what is on the inside that counts? I won’t show up to mass in my PJs by any means, but sometimes “normal” non-dressy clothes are all that people have. I typically save my best most dressy outfits for Christmas, Easter, and other major solemnities.

I think all the dressing up we do is ultimately beneficial to everyone else who likes to see people dressed up.

Perhaps you can change your views on this and begin to be an example for other Catholics. remember our Lord says, …to those who cause scandals.

 

[PatriceA]

Question to you all.

If I, as a guy, was to wear a kilt to Mass in the United States would you get offended? To some people its distracting, however, it shouldn’t really be.

Just curious to see what people would think about something like that. is that appropriate for church?

I wouldn’t be offended. I would think it was appropriate.

 

[wisdomseeker]

He will smite those who check out butts in Church.

and you think it is ok for women to show their butts when they bow in the Sanctuary when all the men have their eyes in the Sanctuary?

do you really think that God is pleased with that?

 

[wisdomseeker]

We are attending the Wedding Feast of the Lamb each time we are blessed and asked to walk down the aisle and receive Him.

When people realize the significance of the Mass, they will correct what they wear.

and just when that would be?