Do you know of a good Web site for what to expect at a Catholic Wedding

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My Daughter in Law to be, isn’t Catholic and is asking me alot of questions about what the church will want of her and the rules for her to plan thier wedding. She is very willing to follow all the rules and happy to be married soon in the church. She has been searching online and found some that don’t sound catholic, because these sites are telling her she will have to convert, so I need to get her something she can read. She is excited and will be meeting with the priest soon but in the mean time she desires more knowledge.

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Suggest she read the Catechism section on marriage, it begins at 1601 and you can read it on line here:

scborromeo.org/ccc/p2s2c3a7.htm#1601

Section on the actual ceremony

1621 In the Latin Rite the celebration of marriage between two Catholic faithful normally takes place during Holy Mass, because of the connection of all the sacraments with the Paschal mystery of Christ. In the Eucharist the memorial of the New Covenant is realized, the New Covenant in which Christ has united himself for ever to the Church, his beloved bride for whom he gave himself up.121 It is therefore fitting that the spouses should seal their consent to give themselves to each other through the offering of their own lives by uniting it to the offering of Christ for his Church made present in the Eucharistic sacrifice, and by receiving the Eucharist so that, communicating in the same Body and the same Blood of Christ, they may form but “one body” in Christ.122

1633 speaks mixed marriages and the of the disparity of cult.

[1634](javascript:openWindow(‘cr/1634.htm’)😉 Difference of confession between the spouses does not constitute an insurmountable obstacle for marriage, when they succeed in placing in common what they have received from their respective communities, and learn from each other the way in which each lives in fidelity to Christ. But the difficulties of mixed marriages must not be underestimated. They arise from the fact that the separation of Christians has not yet been overcome. The spouses risk experiencing the tragedy of Christian disunity even in the heart of their own home. Disparity of cult can further aggravate these difficulties. Differences about faith and the very notion of marriage, but also different religious mentalities, can become sources of tension in marriage, especially as regards the education of children. The temptation to religious indifference can then arise.
 
Your soon to be daughter in law will be going to Pre-Cana. Alot of her questions can be answered there. She also has the option of writing down her questions, set up a meeting the parish priest and just talk to him.

My mother is not Catholic…back in 1956 she had to sign a paper stating that she would raise all children from the marriage Catholic. That is not required anymore.

No wedding march music…coming in or going out. When I got married my DH and I chose 3 Bible verses for the wedding Mass…one from the old, one from the new testaments and a gospel. We chose my cousin to do the readings. She wasn’t Catholic but she married one and knows how it goes. Most of my Catholic relatives were up north…so I had to get someone to do the readings…I chose her. In 81, I had long sleeves on my gown. Nowadays little capelet or shrug would be preferable for the bride and bridesmaids if the gowns are strapless. It is matter of respect…just my opinion.

When she meets with the priest…your son can go with her…her questions will be answered. She doesn’t “have to” convert. My mother never did…but she loved my father enough to fulfill a promise to raise us in his Church. We did go to her Church from time to time…we didn’t live in a spiritual fishbowl. We learned alot. My mom and dad were married almost 50 yrs.

I wish your son and d-i-l the best. But my mom had many questions too…and she went straight to the source…dad’s parish priest.
 
you’ve already received great advice; I’ll add one more tidbit! The biggest part of the Catholic wedding is the mass. If she attends mass between now and then, she will feel much more comfortable when it’s happening around her at the wedding!

Congratulations!
 
Thank you for the great info. These things will help us alot.

She has attended Mass with the family on all of the major christian holidays and even some others. She is very open to the church and still a bit curious. She has heard alot of the usual anti catholic things that we have had great conversations about and she has found that most are silly misconceptions.
 
The biggest part of the Catholic wedding is the mass.

If she herself has not become Catholic by then, there may not be a mass. This has been discussed many places on these fora.
 
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