Do you notice this at Mass?

[DisorientingSneeze]

Create tension anywhere else on the skirt with a slight tug nowhere near the source of disaster.

cough not that that I would know.
looks around the room

 

[Lee1]

You know, after reading this thread I may actually take more notice at my next mass!

I recommend everyone wears overalls, end of problem.

 

[DisorientingSneeze]

I think you just solved every clothing problem I’ve ever had. It’s even nursing a baby friendly.

 

[AlbertDerGrosse]

Oh I’ve definitely noticed it. I usually sit just a couple pews behind the communion rail and there’s this guy up in the sanctuary who does this. Every time he stands up he’s got to readjust his colorful cape-like thing that he wears. Granted, it’s kind of subtle; he slightly wiggles/flaps his arms so it’ll drop down from being scrunched up in his elbow pits, but I notice it and it bugs me. Don’t even get me started on the boys he has around him facilitating his behavior by draping his cape-like thing over the back of his chair as he sits down!

 

[Lee1]

He may be the caped crusader?

 

[mrsdizzyd]

Now that you mention it… there’s this guy up in the sanctuary that keeps fiddling with the draping thing over his arm. Off on off on scoot back and forth.

 

[mrsdizzyd]

Create tension anywhere else on the skirt with a slight tug nowhere near the source of disaster.

cough not that that I would know.
looks around the room

You know what also helps? A slip. Old-fashioned, but useful for a great many things. You just have to be careful to get one that fits well. Otherwise, you’ll just have one more thing to tug at.

 

[Loud-living-dogma]

I think it’s a fairly normal instinct if you consider that one’s clothes might readjust themselves in a bad way, and there are potentially hundreds of people behind you to observe any minor clothing malfunction…

 

[mrsdizzyd]

I think it’s a fairly normal instinct if you consider that one’s clothes might readjust themselves in a bad way, and there are potentially hundreds of people behind you to observe any minor clothing malfunction…

It is instinct. It is also an unfortunate side effect of women not wearing enough undergarments to properly support our clothing. Yes, it is a blessing to not be forced into corsets and petticoats, but the downside is clothes we are a little unsure of and therefore instinctively adjusting rather frequently.

 

[TheLittleLady]

Interesting, never thought of that one before. Do you work in law enforcement?

Good question, and I’d not expect a public answer. I would advise the poster to check with her Diocese, some do not allow weapons to be carried on Church property.

 

[EXdrinker]

I notice myself making shirt is pulled down, but that’s because I carry and I don’t want to alarm anyone by seeing my gun sticking out after kneeling/standing up etc.

This for me as well! Just be happy believing that there may be someone there with the will and means to defend lives if your parish is attacked.

 

[mrsdizzyd]

anon65111186:

Interesting, never thought of that one before. Do you work in law enforcement?

Good question, and I’d not expect a public answer. I would advise the poster to check with her Diocese, some do not allow weapons to be carried on Church property.

Of course, depending on the state, each church may be required to place signage in a conspicuous place. Having a written policy is not enough in every state.

Most concealed carry permit holders are very careful to follow the rules for their state because the consequences are quite high if we are caught going armed in violation of the law.

 

[Irishmom2]

It seems you have a good reason to adjust your clothing, but what I perceive is what might be called an unjustified and persistent adjustment throughout mass. When everything looks fine and doesn’t need any touching whatsoever, yet obsessively playing with their clothing.

You don’t get to decide whose clothing looks like it should feel fine to them. The only thing that sounds obsessive is you, noticing every person that adjusts their clothes. It’s really none of your business.

But to answer your question, no, I don’t notice it, and no, it doesn’t bother me. It is your problem to figure out, as others have suggested. Sit elsewhere, look at the floor if you must, but do not say anything to anyone for them to stop.

 

[Roseeurekacross]

We try to learn this in contemplative prayer. Praying Lord Jesus have mercy on me. We sit in silence and repeat this prayer. Any thoughts or distractions that enter our thoughts, either good or bad, or even in we think they are revelation, we push aside, and back to the prayer and contemplation

It doesn’t happen overnight.

 

[blackforest]

I never would have thought of that! I’d be too worried that my clicking might disturb someone else. Knitting is great for praying and meditation though.

It depends on the setting. If there are other people there and/or the acoustics are sensitive, you might try bamboo needles over metal . . . or just a single crochet hook.

I pull my top down, I fix a bra strap. I also keep my eyes closed for portions of the mass because there’s a little girl who has crazy pigtails that I think is adorable, or there’s a little guy who is underneath the pew looking at me.

OK. I’ll fess up. My biggest distraction danger zone at Mass? Cute babies. The lot of 'em. At which point, I must mentally shout at myself, “Silence ovaries!” before re-directing my attention to the priest or lector.

You know what also helps? A slip.

No, no, no!!! That just adds a third - nay, fourth! - layer to keep track of. Now what’s this here - my panties, tights, slip, or skirt? And how to I get them all to align together? I’d sooner coordinate a room full of R.E. preschoolers than all of that waist-layered mumbo-jumbo!

Any thoughts or distractions that enter our thoughts, either good or bad, or even in we think they are revelation, we push aside, and back to the prayer and contemplation

Our priest said that often the very things distracting us from prayer are the things we need to be praying for. Somehow I don’t think he had in mind other parishioners’ awkward clothing adjustments, though!

 

[Allegra]

It doesn’t bother me if people adjust their clothing in Mass. I don’t notice it because I’m too busy minding my own business. I don’t think it is other people’s fault if you are distracted by their adjusting their clothing. It sounds like a personal problem.

 

[mrsdizzyd]

No, no, no!!! That just adds a third - nay, fourth! - layer to keep track of. Now what’s this here - my panties, tights, slip, or skirt? And how to I get them all to align together? I’d sooner coordinate a room full of R.E. preschoolers than all of that waist-layered mumbo-jumbo!

You could always go with a full slip instead of just a half slip.

 

[DeniseNY]

I think it’s a fairly normal instinct if you consider that one’s clothes might readjust themselves in a bad way, and there are potentially hundreds of people behind you to observe any minor clothing malfunction…

Exactly.

And I would guarantee if someone saw someone’s slip. underwear, granny panty, Spanx, etc… at Liturgy it would be posted here as scandal!

 

[JulianN]

In our diocese, I’d be asking the pastor to remind him that the bishop has specifically prohibited carrying guns in our churches.

 

[mrsdizzyd]

In our diocese, I’d be asking the pastor to remind him that the bishop has specifically prohibited carrying guns in our churches.

If that’s the policy in your diocese, then your suggestion sounds like a prudent course of action…