Do you pray with your spouse?

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My husband and I are newly married (50 days). Since we have been married, every night we pray together before we fall asleep. We take turns speaking our petitions to God, then we end with the prayer to St. Michael, to whom we both have a strong devotion.

I’m wondering if others pray with their spouses, and what form/prayers do you use? I truly believe this brings us closer together with every passing day.

Thanks for your (name removed by moderator)ut! 🙂

~Liza
 
We pray grace before meals. Also, a priest recommended that we pray three Hail Marys before going to sleep. This is a Fatima devotion. We have been doing this for about three years.

Micki
 
This is wonderful! Sounds like you’re building your marriage on a firm foundation 🙂

We pray the Rosary together on days when my husband doesn’t go to work, and the Chaplet of Divine Mercy whenever we’re together at 3:00 pm. We also go to Daily Mass together whenever our schedules allow (I go with our son every day since I’m a stay at home mom and live around the corner from church). We try to do 30 minutes of Eucharistic Adoration as a family–including our soon-to-be 2 year old–every week. We also go to monthly confession and try to go every two weeks when we can (to gain more plenary indulgences ;)). At bedtime we pray the Drops of Blood devotion (2 each of Our Fathers, Hail Marys, and Glory Be’s daily for 3 years in honor of all the drops of Blood Jesus spilled during the carrying of His cross), and we read one chapter out of the Bible. For special feast days or intentions, we do certain novenas together. We also did St. Louis de Montfort’s Total Consecration to Jesus through Mary on our wedding anniversary this last year. We both wear the Brown Scapular and the Cord of St. Philomena (which has a prayer you say daily, and we do that together too).

We are now 24 years old, and we’ve been married for 3.5 years. And it took us a few months to get a prayer routine together (when we first married we’d go to Daily Mass and weekly-to-monthly confession, but that was it besides grace before meals). We’ve been “cultivating” it ever since, and our marriage has definitely grown because of it! I’m so happy that you and your husband realize the importance of praying together! 👍
 
My wife and I try to pray the Liturgy of the Hours each evening and also in the morning on weekends. About two weeks ago we began the Total Consecration of St. Louis de Montfort from a small booklet which takes 33 days and concludes on December 8. These include various litanies and other short prayers. We go together every Friday evening to our parish’s chapel for Eucharistic Adoration also. We’re also both Lay Dominicans, Third Order.
 
I voted “Yes, every day…” however, she is my fiance until June 2nd, then she’ll be my spouse. 😃
 
CatholicSam - that’s amazing!!! And you are 24!! Even more impressive! 🙂

I did not include other prayers we do together, such as going to Adoration, or mass, or saying the rosary. We go to mass every Sunday together or with friends, and we are currently reading Mark’s Gospel at night before we say our prayers.

Perhaps we can grow into a routine more like yours, I would love that.

There is nothing I’ve ever experienced in any relationship that has pulled me closer to the other person than praying with them. It truly is amazing.

~Liza
 
CatholicSam said:
This is wonderful! Sounds like you’re building your marriage on a firm foundation 🙂

We pray the Rosary together on days when my husband doesn’t go to work, and the Chaplet of Divine Mercy whenever we’re together at 3:00 pm. We also go to Daily Mass together whenever our schedules allow (I go with our son every day since I’m a stay at home mom and live around the corner from church). We try to do 30 minutes of Eucharistic Adoration as a family–including our soon-to-be 2 year old–every week. We also go to monthly confession and try to go every two weeks when we can (to gain more plenary indulgences ;)). At bedtime we pray the Drops of Blood devotion (2 each of Our Fathers, Hail Marys, and Glory Be’s daily for 3 years in honor of all the drops of Blood Jesus spilled during the carrying of His cross), and we read one chapter out of the Bible. For special feast days or intentions, we do certain novenas together. We also did St. Louis de Montfort’s Total Consecration to Jesus through Mary on our wedding anniversary this last year. We both wear the Brown Scapular and the Cord of St. Philomena (which has a prayer you say daily, and we do that together too).

We are now 24 years old, and we’ve been married for 3.5 years. And it took us a few months to get a prayer routine together (when we first married we’d go to Daily Mass and weekly-to-monthly confession, but that was it besides grace before meals). We’ve been “cultivating” it ever since, and our marriage has definitely grown because of it! I’m so happy that you and your husband realize the importance of praying together! 👍
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Nice to hear! 👍

We are 25 and 27, and we pray the rosary daily (sometimes together, sometimes on our own), we pray the “Drops of Blood” devotion (I think it is getting close to a year mark now), we always pray together before meals, and we sometimes do the Liturgy of the Hours together as well. We both are wearers of the Brown Scapular and are renewing our Consecration together currently (St. Louis de Montfort)…however we live about 40 miles apart and I work 2 jobs and am a very active member of the KofC so having the opportunity to always pray together is a tad difficult. :o But I’m sure once we are married it will be easier! 😉

(Oh, and we usually go to confession together at least monthly as well.)
 
Congrats! My husband I have been married for almost four months now :).

We say prayers in the morning in the car, on our way to dropping me off to the train station and him going to work. We say an Our Father, Hail Mary, Glory Be, Angel of God, St. Michael, Morning Offering, and the Memorare. We also then say our own prayers, offering petitions and we have our own small litany of the saints as well. We say grace before meals and every so often pray a rosary, although this is a prayer that we’d like to do daily. My husband just actually suggested we say it at a specific time each evening, so we will actually say it every night. We try to go to confession at least once a month too.

Other than that, I find it really great to be able to talk about our faith and read things that will help strengthen that, so we are sponsors in RCIA and take part in young adults and a Catholic couples group as well. It may sound like a lot (maybe not though 🙂 ), but it’s small things and it’s been baby steps for us. His family grew up just going to mass and that was about it. My family says a nightly rosary usually and says grace before meals and tries to make it to daily mass (my mom homeschools the youngest siblings) and always starts the day with morning prayers. So, we’re meshing our two backgrounds and he really was impressed with my family’s “prayer life.” 🙂
 
I can not think of a more loving way to say that you love each other. It makes me cry it is so beautiful. How secure and loved your children must feel to have such a wonderful display of faith.
 
We pray Morning and Night Prayer from the Little Office of the Blessed Virgin along with the Morning Offering and Prayer to St. Michael in the morning, and the Prayer for Spouses at night. (See below) We hope to add Evening Prayer and a Rosary to our daily prayer.

Prayer for Spouses for Each Other

Lord Jesus, grant that my spouse and I may have a true and understanding love for each other. Grant that we may both be filled with faith and trust. Give us the grace to live with each other in peace and harmony. May we always bear with each other’s weaknesses and grow from each other’s strengths. Help us to forgive one another’s failings, and grant us patience, kindness, cheerfulness, and the spirit of placing the well-being of one another ahead of self. May the love that brought us together grow and mature with each passing year. Bring us both ever closer to You through our love for each other. Let our love grow to perfection. Amen.

Peace,
Linda
 
LindaS said:
Prayer for Spouses for Each Other

Lord Jesus, grant that my spouse and I may have a true and understanding love for each other. Grant that we may both be filled with faith and trust. Give us the grace to live with each other in peace and harmony. May we always bear with each other’s weaknesses and grow from each other’s strengths. Help us to forgive one another’s failings, and grant us patience, kindness, cheerfulness, and the spirit of placing the well-being of one another ahead of self. May the love that brought us together grow and mature with each passing year. Bring us both ever closer to You through our love for each other. Let our love grow to perfection. Amen.

Peace,
Linda
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Linda,

That is a beautiful prayer!!! 🙂 I’m definitely printing this out for my husband and me :D. Thanks for sharing!
 
lizaanne said:
Perhaps we can grow into a routine more like yours, I would love that.

There is nothing I’ve ever experienced in any relationship that has pulled me closer to the other person than praying with them. It truly is amazing.

~Liza
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As another poster mentioned, for us it was also a matter of “baby steps” in developing our prayer life together. My husband converted from the Methodist Church a year before we married, but now I can’t believe he’s not a cradle Catholic like me 🙂

The priest who brought my husband into the Church had a wonderful analogy about being close to God and to each other. He drew a triangle with the point at the top being God, and the two bottom points being the husband and wife. The illustration was that the closer the husband and wife got to God, the closer they actually got to each other, too. We’ve found this to be very much the case in our marriage.
 
CatholicSam said:
The priest who brought my husband into the Church had a wonderful analogy about being close to God and to each other. He drew a triangle with the point at the top being God, and the two bottom points being the husband and wife. The illustration was that the closer the husband and wife got to God, the closer they actually got to each other, too. We’ve found this to be very much the case in our marriage.
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This is lovely!

I would add to that analogy - that encompassing it all is the Holy Trinity, giving us support and hope along the way.

~Liza
 
We always pray the rosary together every day, as well as grace before meals, and usually also other prayers (e.g. for the Holy Souls in Purgatory, for Priests etc)
 
No. My husband is Jewish. He has not practiced his religion in many years and is not interested in mine.
 
We usually say grace together when both of us are home for supper. It has never gone beyond that, much to my dismay. I wish we all would pray togther as a family. I really think that it would help us grow as a family. My girls and I are beginning to pray together more often. I would love any suggestions from anyone on how to approach my husband on this. He usually just ridicules me for my faith.
 
mommyof4 said:
I would love any suggestions from anyone on how to approach my husband on this. He usually just ridicules me for my faith.
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I’m so sorry to hear that about your husband. 😦

Maybe you can get him to start slowly, by just saying the Our Father before you fall asleep. Nothing more, just that, and see how it goes.

Will keep you in my prayers.

~Liza
 
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